Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

If a man des not take responsibility he should not have sex.  

It takes 2 to make a baby. Why is the burden always on the woman. If he would have used proper protection at all times he would not be in this situation 

Once a baby is born equal responsibility should be taken 

Just my humble 2 cents. I raised 2 myself because they had a deadbeat father who did bot believe in child support. 

His lack of interest in his own child is just typical of the "no responsibility" attitude of the day.  

   

As a Father of 2 wonderful children I cannot see ever being this cold about the life of an innocent child.  

   

Everybody has talked about the choice of the mother and the father but what about the child.  

   

Step up and be a man......there are to few in the world as it is  

   

   

I am a female, and I agree with the man on this one.  I actually would be terrified if I was a guy not knowing if a woman is lying or not about taking the pill or not being able to get pregnant.  As a woman, I can control my own destiny by choosing to have or not have a child.  Why shouldn't guys get those same rights?  I have no plans on having children, so therefore I take the pill, and if something were ever to happen, I have the option of getting an abortion. But a guy's life can get ruined with no say in the matter.  Besides, this world is overpopulated anyway, so why bring another child into the world who can't be raised by 2 parents and has to suffer with either the parents fighting all the time, or suffer with not even knowing one of their parents.  

I can't believe that guy thinks that! he has no sense of morals! He choose to have sex and at his age should know that regardless of protection, birth control, etc...you risk the chance of pregnancy!! He has to take responsibility for that child. What happens when that child gets older and wants to know his/ her daddy?Children do not have the choice to come into this world. How selfish can he be??? He should never be allowed to ever have another child!

If a man doesn't want to be a father then he should not have sex.  The only way to be sure that there is no baby is not to have sex..  Woman have been told this for years.   As long as he wasn't raped he should support the child.  Nothing in life is free.

The woman did her part, whatever the reason, she was on birth control.  The man's responsibility is to wear a condom, whether she made him or not that was his choice, it is on his body.  If he doesn't want a child the only 100% choice is not to have sex.  The next best thing is birth control and a CONDOM!  She has to carry the child, she has to go threw the morning sickness, and cramps, she has to pass a watermelon threw a small hole, she goes to all the doctor's visits, she gives her body up for 9 months to someone else, and be the primary child care giver.  She pays for most of the things for the child.  I am sorry, but until a man can do this it will ultimately be the woman's decision on what to do.  If you are going to have sex there is always a possibly of having a child, no matter what anyone says, if you are man enough to have sex, then you BETTER be man enough to at least finacially help out with the child.  No body can force you to be a father, but it is your responsibilty to at least finacially come forward!

I think a man has as much rights about becoming a father or not as a women, but birth control is not just up to a women.  A man that know he does not want to be a father has to protect himself by using a condom or getting a vasectomy.  A man who does not want to be a father and has unprotected sex with a women is a fool.

Any time someone (male or female) chooses to fool around, they also choose the possibility of pregnancy.  If that happens, then they need to face the issue together and not back out by saying that they weren't planning on parenthood yet.  If the baby is to be given up for adoption, then that has to be a joint decision, just as fooling around was (or at least should have been) a joint decision.  Anything less is immature and irresponsible.

I am totally disgusted at what I just saw on Dr. Phil with this young man Matt. It is so beyond me to hear what was actually coming out of his mouth. I believe firmly, that yes when a woman is pregnant it does affect both people, however ulitmately it's the woman's body therefore its her choice. Just because Matt didn't want to be father should not disqualify him from stepping up to the plate. He is obviously immature. He is only thinking of himself, and not the baby. Matt should realize we live in the real world and things are always gonna happen in life that we maybe weren't neccessarily prepared for or something we didn't want to happen...but a mature person accecpts responsibility for their choices..It was his choice the  moment he slept with the young lady..Whether or not if he felt he was lead to believe she couldn't get pregnant....then maybe shouldn't have been having sex all together...How does he think babies are made.... This is so ridiculous and I hope they don't win a law suit b/c this will  open up a door for other dead beat dads and this is all our society needs for something like this to happen. I'm a christian woman and the God I server holds people to the choices you make. The choices you make in life you become servant to. How dare he think this wasn't a choice. Every aspect of your day is making choices...perhaps he should be a little less selfish and rather than thinking oh i'm not ready to be a dad, he should realize that this little baby is the one who didn't have a choice to come into this world..but she's here...and this will affect her whole life...I pray for the mother and the baby that God's continuous shield be around them. God Bless everyone!

I agree.. to a point.. and especially being a real live woman who is doing this noble "raise it on your own" gesture everyone is so quick to discuss. Its hard.. but its worth it.  

...yes.. she had a choice in the mistake.. and He had a choice in this mistake as well. After all.. it takes two, doesn't it?