Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Uh, I think you're the one who needs to "hold on there".  What Mom do you know who is completely done with her "burden" -- physical or otherwise -- after simply giving birth?  Their work is just beginning!  Every day that child needs -- food, love, interaction, bathing, doctor visits, schooling, sports activities, reading, care when ill, religious education, etc., etc., etc.  (Many of these needs require a great deal of physical activity on Mom's part to accomplish!)  And just because her child turns 18, she won't EVER stop being his or her "Mom"! 

So as to "who bears greater consequenses?  The one who steps up to the plate and takes the entire responsibility of the life these two people created.  If Matt Dubay was that adament about not wanting "the consequences" he should have taken his "responsibility" seriously and used his own birth control (condom) rather than expecting someone else to do it for him.  This act is his reproductive right -- but with rights come responsibility and he must now accept his and support his beautiful daughter! 

First I would like to mention that I am a woman who completely supports Matt.  The woman in this case "does" have several options, as most women do.  Matt on the other hand is not and will not be afforded the same options.  If he does not want to be a father, and in this case never did and expressed so, he should not be forced by this woman to do so.  There are also instances where women have wanted to have abortions, and the fathers have attempted to block those abortions because they wanted the child.  I see this as the same type of instance only reversed.  I have three children, however fortunate or unfortunate, they have different fathers.  One out of high school, and knucklehead never paid a red cent of child support.  I couldn't have cared less.  I took responsibility for my actions, and my ignorance for listening to the absolutely sweet nothings that were whispered in my ear.  I married finally and then divorced.  Thus child number two.  Same situation.  A few months of child support as a result of a nasty court battle over contested visitation, and after a few checks, it was all over!  My husband (aka Baby's Daddy Number Three) and I have been married for 15 years.  Bottom line:  Fathers who don't want to be fathers, and state so from the very beginning, should not be made to do so!  Mothers who don't want to be bothered with deadbeat dads, shouldn't have to be bothered with them either!  I wasn't , and I believe my life was a lot less complicated.   

When a man and a women decide to have sex they should be married and ready to have kids, however life isn't always that easy.  

The reality of it is that women have unplanned pregnancies all the time and abortions happen everyday.  These abortions are happening because the mother has made the choice, why can't men make the same choice.  

I'm not saying men should be able to make a women get an abortion but if wants nothing to do with the child than why are they forced to pay child support.  

If a man wants to give up his rights let him. Parenting is hard enough without having it forced upon you. The women made the choice to have the baby with out the father's consent so why is he the one expected to take care of it financially and not the mom.  

I don't understand what you mean when you say that "this woman does not deserve child support".  What about the baby, does she deserve child support?   

I have not researched this case on the internet as you have, but I had the understanding that the mother was told that she could not have children.  Does this surprise pregnancy label her child undeserving of the support of the father?  If so, how do we decide which children are deserving and which are not?   

How many men and boys do you think that have unprotected sex, out of wedlock and in an uncommitted relationship, want the babies that are created from that act?  Should we leave them free of responsibility because they are under the guise of , "I don't want to be a father".  I feel confident that a very large percentage of men who pay child support fall into this category.  Also, what about women who decide after giving birth that they don't want to be mothers, wouldn't this open the door for irresponsible behavior on their part as well?  It seems to me that this is very dangerouse territory.   

Also, I am very curious about the parents of this man who was on the show, the grandparents of  baby Elizabeth.  Are they turning  their backs on her as well?  How could they possibly be proud of their son when he is very publicly casting aside his baby daughter?  I can't imagine how this is going to affect Elizabeth later in life.   

      Hi I just wanted to say that this not ready to be a father is lam. If he was not ready to be a father than he shouldn't have had sex with her. Using a condom doesn't always protect against pregnancy. Abstinence does. Whatever happen to the way that God intended sex. He intended it within the confines of marriage. If we stayed with His ways we would not have so many children being raised in one parent homes. There wouldn't be so many dead beat dads and moms. This is one reason to wait till marriage to have sex another is their wouldn't be so many STD's out there. It bothers me to see a commercial about medication for herpes as it is alright to get herpes the medicine will help you to feel better so that you could continue with having sex. Our morales are all mix up. We have stray so far from God's way of doing things that it is our children that our suffering and hence our future.