Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

My quote was based on the idea that a woman has chosen to give the child up for adoption, not by means of foster care but yes when a child is taken from his/her mother they wind up in the foster care system and can therefor be adopted hopefully by a loving and caring family.  Women who have children and decide to give them up for adoption for a variety of reasons, financially being a big part of that, sometimes they're too young...but either way those women should be commended for making the difficult decision to give up their child to a home who can provide for them. That is not an easy choice to make. 

You misread my statement. I agree that things need to change. I'm not any part of the system nor do I get or have to pay child support. The part of the system I think needs to be change are those running it. The laws aren't the big problem so much as the people within the system...for example those that work for the government. They may work for the government but that doesn't mean they don't abuse whatever power they might posess. Many get a raw deal. The other problem I mentioned were yes those who get around paying child support...the real dead beat dads..the ones that take cash jobs, etc. My husband's father never paid a dime in child support and he was married for 15 years. He left three children and his wife to support themselves. She worked 3 jobs as she tried to work her way through school. Those are the dead beat fathers. 

Things do need to change I totally agree with you. The only way things change are by people. People make the laws, people either follow or don't follow the laws...people either abuse the system and their power within the system etc. 

The folks that took too much money from you could have given that money back to you I have no doubt...but they didn't and that I feel was abusive. The law stated you provide money for child support...you did...and they abused their right to take the extra money from you. So it's not the law that was the problem...it's the people within the system itself.  I'm trying to make myself clear here but apparently I'm failing miserably. 

Your brother can actually contest the amount of child support he is paying if he has substantial evidence against this woman...They are supposed to have some kind of agreement of set days to go along with the child support. He can sue for adjusted custody rights if he so chooses.  

My father had my sister and I every weekend. It was a set agreement. My dad could've taken my mom to court had she refused to let him see us on his set days. 

My uncle also went through this, and he got the adjusted custody rights...he now has his daughter 3 out of 4 weekends every month after she wouldn't let him see my cousin for almost a month straight. 

Might be time for your brother to explore his legal avenues...at least to find out if there's a way to change his son's future.  

I hope things change for him soon, though. That can't be a pleasant situation. All the best hopes and wishes to him and his son (as well as your family). 

Children  are a gift from God no matter how the came into this world planned or not. If they protected them self or not. I have had two unplanned pregencys, and I DON'T THINK OF THEM AS ACCIDENTS. I would never tell my son's that they were accidents. That is the most uncalled for statement that I have ever hear of . I am 27 years old and have two beautiful son's that God gave to me. I didn't have thew means to take care of them both. 

Loving mother of two, 

Donna 

I don’t seem to understand why this father seems to think he doesn’t have the same rights as this mother.  She has the right to be a mother.  And he still maintains the right not to be a father.  He has the ability to sever his rights as a parent.  He would no longer legally be this child’s father.  Additionally, by severing his rights he will allow this mom to marry and have her future husband adopt this child.   

What’s the problem? 

And if this father can’t stomach severing his rights, then he’d best step up to the plate and do his part.  You can’t have it both ways. 

What do you call a woman that gets an abortion or drops the baby off at the hospital under the safe haven law or puts up for adoption because she doesnt want the the responsibility? Thats all ok huh? Because thats what a woman wants! BS!  

A divorced father should not be responsible for YOUR RENT! and YOUR CAR INSURANCE! He is responsible for basic needs, clothes, medicen, food. NOT YOUR LIVING EXPENSES! Pay your own damn bills! You wanted the damn thing, you wanted FULL custody now accept FULL responsibility!  

Women just use children as cash cows and men for money to get what THEY want! They wanted the child and now the dad has to pay and the child has no father, mom had the court strip him of ALL his custody but OL MOM has EVERYTHING SHE wanted at the expense and demise of the father and the child! Makes me sick!  

The newspaper shot it down big time. Said it was a joke and didnt even come close to the responsibilities of a job. Good try ladies. We dont get to put the baby down, fix some popcorn and watch "Days of our Lives" at work 4 hours a day!   

Go hump somebody else's leg!  

Nice Try.  

Get a job! Pay your own damn way like everyone else including GOD expects you to do. Even the bible says if you dont WORK, you don EAT! So quit sitting home and checking the mailbox for a free check and support yourself and the decision YOU made to raise a child by YOURSELF! Dont drag others into the unilateral CHOICE YOU MADE! All by yourself!