Message Boards

Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Number of Replies: 7225
New Messages This Week: 0
Last Reply On:
Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm
Author : DrPhilBoard1
(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep?  Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

Find out what happened on the show.

More July 2006 Show Boards.

As of January, 2009, this message board will become "Read Only" and will be closed to further posting. Please join the NEW Dr. Phil Community to continue your discussions, personalize your message board experience, start a blog and meet new friends.

User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:19 am PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Quote From: txmomthree

Roe vs. Wade for Men? 

LOL! Give me a break! 

If you don't want a child, then don't have sex!  

Use protection, even if you think you can trust her. Better yet, just wait until your married.  

If you cannot control yourself and choose to act like an animal, then get yourself fixed! 

And if you choose to be selfish and do not want to father a the child, just sign your rights away. 

I am tired of this pathetic attitude. Oh you see I want to have sex but I don't want the responsibility or feel guilty if I become a parent against my will and don't the child in my life, even though I did choose to have sex. 

I don't know whether to laugh or cry. This poor child, the history it will have. My dad didn't want me, so he tried to make a law out of me. The a** couldn't just sign his rights away.  

Hey Matt, do you want some cheese with that WHINE!  

Unfreaking believable.  

I was a teenage mom. I was eighteen went I brought my son into this world. I though about abortion even though it was against my morals. But then I though, why should I make this child inside me pay because of my poor decision? He didn't ask to be here, what do he do deserve murder? And put the murder thing aside, I realized that if I went through abortion or adoption, that I was running away from my mistake. I dealt with my consequence.  And I give my child the love and support he needs and he is a very healthy kid. Why doesn't anybody else want to do that? Has America (except us good few, we know who we are) become that self-centered? 

  

  

  

See, I don't get that either.  Why doesn't this sperm donor (not going to call him a 'father') just sign his parental rights away and be done with it?  I imagine the National Center for Men has a lot of stake in him filing this 'landmark lawsuit'.  Losers.
 
User Mood
Good

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:23 am PDT

What an IDIOT!

If you can't trust the woman you're about to have sex with to be honest about pregnancy, how do you know she doesn't have an STD?  Men who are just looking for sex  get what they deserve. The child on the other hand has no voice in the matter. Now watch, in 18 years if  this child is rich and famous the sperm donor will be there wanting a relationship with the childs money. The way I look at it is, if you drop trow and do the deed, it could be a life changing experience, weather it be a child or HIV. How is this little girl going to feel when she is old enough to see a tape of this show and see what kind of moron fathered her? I pray she becomes a healthy happy adult, in spite of her loser bio-father.
 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:24 am PDT

Baby Wars

If that gentleman did not want to be a father, he should have kept it in his pants and not out there having sex.  I believe that his actions speak louder than words.  He did have a choice to not become a dad.  It was abstaining.  That was his first choice.  His second choice was using protection!!!!  I believe that men can blame women all they want about "their choice"  ---  women can have their belief system where they believe that life exists at conception.  KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE A FATHER!!!! 
 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:25 am PDT

4 words

Parental rights.....sign off!  

   

Why doesn't this person just sign off his parental rights!  

 
User Mood
Relaxed

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:25 am PDT

Get a Clue

No sex...no baby. 

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
chillin'
April 21, 2006, 6:26 am PDT

BABY WARS

I believe that most men are scared to have a child because it is their responsibility, mostly for younger men. If any man can lay down and take the chances of having a child then they need to take the responsibilities for what they made. Women cant make babies on their own and should not raise them on their own. I am a young mother of two and I know how hard it is, and I am not doing it alone. My boyfriend supports me and our children, and thats the way it should be. He never ran from his responsibilities and is a great father to our kids. Any man that does not want nothing to do with his kids is not a man at all.   

 
User Mood
Good

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:26 am PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

Ok, so men don't have choices?  First of all, he shouldn/t have the choice for abortion, it isn't his body.  And the man and woman have equal choice in adoption because they BOTH have to consent!   

 
User Mood
Cheerful

Message Emote
surprised
April 21, 2006, 6:27 am PDT

SHOULD MATT BE HELD RESPONSIBLE???

ABSOLUTELY YESSSSSSS!!! 

 

Those who PLAY will pay... no way should Matt or any other guy think sex is just for a good time or his own pleasure when we all know it's how babies are made, too.   

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
April 21, 2006, 6:27 am PDT

good hit

You have NO idea how bad I want to punch "Mr. Equal Rights for men" in the face right now! What a freaking IDIOT!  What a typical man trying to get out of child support.....you can lay down with and screw your brains out, BUT when something happens, OH.....I'm the victim! 

  

MAJOR props to the girl for keeping the baby and taking responsibility.....guess we can see who the more mature one is.  

  

I hope he is miserable the rest of his life for being such a stupid decision. 

 

Message Emote
sad
April 21, 2006, 6:28 am PDT

Science is 100%

Right before I got married my husband and I were told by my doctor that I couldn't have children.  I had a procedure done that could possible help, but the doctor wasn't positive.  1 1/2 years later I had our 1st!!! daughter.  Yes, we were under the assumption that we weren't going to have children, but SCIENCE ISN 'T 100%.  Today we have 4 daughters.  

Don't blame her because of the incomplete science we have, nothing is FOOL PROOF!  The only way to assure no pregnacy is abstenence.  Both of you are at fault, she told you what she only knew.  The man should have Taken HIS PART by wearing the condom.  She did her part and it takes 2 parts to make the whole.  

Accept the consequences of your action.  Yes, you said you weren't ready to be a father.  She apparently wasn't ready to be a mother but is accepting what has happened.  She, from what I understand, just wants help in making sure this child is not out on the street, homeless.  She isn't asking that you be in the child's life.  Even if she gave the child up for adoption, as you said, it would still be yours!!!!  I'm unfortunately sad to say that you are just worried about the MONEY!  If she gave it up then you would still have the money, but the child would still be out there.  Maybe this situation will help this child know what the consequences are if something like this happens again to someone else.  

 
First | Prev | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | Next | Last