Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

          I was in a similar situation with my youngest daughter's father, but I was the one up front and forward about not using birth controls pills and her father told me that he couldn't have children. Needless to say I found out I was pregnant. He wasn't there through the pregnancy and the first 6 months of her life. That was his choice I wasn't going to force him to be something he didn't want to be, but he was going to be financially responsible so that the next time before he got into a another situation like that he would act alittle more responsible for his actions. It took both of  us to concieve her and both of use would at least be financially responsible. Since the dna test has come back and prove to him that he was the father, he has stepped up and been an a good and willing to learn dad, even though he never wanted a child.  

         This man is an idoit and doesn't realize what a beautiful daughter he has. If he doesn't want to be there emotionally that is the only choice that he should have. The amount of child support he has been ordered to pay is a fraction of what it is going to cost to to raise the child. He should be glad he is getting off cheap and quit wasting her time in court that she could be spending raising there child to be a productive law abiding person & to pick better people to have in her life than this sperm doning jerk. 

Most of the time the women take the birth control because (In cases where the man and the woman have the relationship) the birth control is alot more effective than the condom.  I had to do that for years and understood why.   

The story is that he didn't want to be a father and she said she couldn't have children AND said she was on birth control.  It's hard to say,  either she was telling the truth (Since there is the extremely  small chance) or (Since it's so effective)  there wasn't truth to it and he trusted what she said.  Men want trust as much as a gal does (From what I hear from my guy buddies).  Yes, there are guys at fault, but there are women who just want  the kids and trick the guys. 

But what most are trying to say is: that a woman can determine if she wants to be a mother legally or not after a pregnany and a guy can't otherwise he'd be in jail.  If a guy should be 100% responsible, so should the woman.   

 Then if you fully agree I am assuming that you would also agree that because a man has "LIMITED" choices the most important TWO they have are  1. Abstinance and/or 2. A Vasectomy!!! 

These are a man's rights but when you have "casual consenting" sex with a female committed or not you are well aware that if you have not taken the top two procautions then YOU  are essentially acknowledging the fact that as an adult you are taking a chance on the possibility that you can produce a child with that woman. 

Stop justifying a lack of maturity and responsibility on the man's part and start lobbying your insurance providers to cover vacetomies for men since that's the only form of birth control for now (which by the way doesn't even carry a 100% gaurantee that GOD won't allow the man to reproduce the production of sperm)  

Grow up men and get real.  Stop blaming the woman and stop using abortion as an eraser for the solution to the consequences of your promiscuity and lack of responsibility that results in pregnancy. 

I do not know what kind of “men” you are sleeping with, but by the sound of it, it’s the wrong kind. 

I am a single father, from the time I became one I was the one who worked, got up at night, and did the care taking. My life has been but on hold for the past 19 years. The mother left town and has taken no responsibility. I know I am not the only one that has gone through this. 

I have been living pay check to pay check, tried dating years ago, and have had no life just so me kid can have one. There are several “so called mother” out there that made a decision and the father had none. 

The laws need to be changed so the “soon to be father” should have equal right when it comes the having or raising a kid. 

So for you to say the guy should not have the right to say what happens just because he does not carry the kid for 9 months, is completely insane and selfish.

I feel that since the soon to be mother had the same fun time with the sex and does not want to deal with a kid but the soon to be father does, then the mother should have to spend (pay back) 9 months of her life for that one fun night. 

I can go on and on about this but will stop here SINCE I HAVE TO WORK. SOMEONE HAS TO BRING HOME THE MONEY, SUPPORT THE KID, AND TAKE CARE OF THE HOME………………………..

  I am soooo glad to see someone has a brain with some sense in it!! He is having a temper tantrum and he's also helping millions of women by being on this show because Dr. Phil tells him just what any judge should tell ALL men... YOU SHOULD'N'T HAVE HAD UNPROTECTED SEX!!!!!!!!   

I love Dr. Phil's response to him because men love to play the blame game and they really need to grow up or go get a blow up doll.