Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

IF MATT TRULY WANTED TO BE IN CONTROL OF HIS FUTURE AND NEVER BE A FATHER, THEN HE SHOULD HAVE USED A CONDOM! IT'S THAT SIMPLE.  

Hello Dr. Phil,  

Congrates on your show!  I agree with the lawyers and the young man about men not having laws protecting them from becoming fathers.  We women do have many different laws protecting us as mothers and the children as well have many different laws protecting them.  But there is something wrong with the laws protecting children.  At what point in time did we as parent ask our children to be our children.  So what, he will be a great father when he is ready.  Who's to say that his child want to be his child.  Also, when we as responsible adults decide to have unprotected sex, not only are we at risk to get pregnant but you are also at risk of contracting a venereal disease.  If every person that has contracted a venereal disease from their partner sued, the courts would not have time for anything else.  I agree about having some kind of law to protect the men, but once you have gone unprotected or better yet use abstinence to protect you from becoming a father.   That can be the man's law against becoming a father Absinence is the best protector.  

If a man does not want children then regardless of what a women does or says he has to take responsibility to ensure his sperm does not get loose.  It is his sperm, he needs to take care of it and keep it safe.  If he is careless whether it is a woman puts him off guard or not he has to pay for his mistake.  Last I herd there is not an epidemic of sperm steeling sweeping the nation nor has there been an epidemic of involuntary sperm donation.   Most men have complete control of where there sperm are at any given time.

I know I'm about to get a lot of negative feedback for my ultra conservative views, especially on the subject of family. In any event, here is my opinion.  

As a woman who had a child, unmarried, and at the age of 20, I now have a strong understanding and firm belief in the "traditional" and biblical views on marriage and family. When we go outside of that plan that God had intended for our society, we begin to run into problems. I strongly believe there is a reason that sex is meant for a husband and a wife. Sex requires a great deal of responsibility and maturity, as well as the deep rooted connection that marriage creates. When a casual sexual encounter produces something as extraordinary as a human life, we are only asking for trouble. Whether it be the man not wanting anything to do with the child, or the woman making the decision to do away with her responsibility by having an abortion. In my opinion, the real issue here is why should ANYONE have the right to chose what happens to a life AFTER it has already been created? If the "freedom to choose" gives one such a feeling of liberty, than why not use that freedom of choice to prevent the life from coming into being to begin with. Why not choose to use the proper precautions if you aren't ready for parenthood? The real victims here are the children, who only want to feel that they have a mom and a dad who love them, and always wanted and wished to have them in their lives.