Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

wow..i am literally sick to my stomach right now..i just had a baby 5 months ago..and my ex still has not called or stopped by..he has no interest in being in my daughter's life..this matt guy is so stupid..especially if he thinks he is going to win..who would ever agree with him..i just can't get over how dumb this guy is..hey buddy..you are the dumb@$$ who didn't use protection..so you did it yourself..you are the dumbest person i have ever seen..yes i'm a litle more angry than some people..but that's because i know what it's like to be a single dad..you are a deadbeat..and you don't deserve the love of a child anyways..i hope you lose..and i hope you are just miserable.. 

I feel sorry for the poor girl. He was stupid enough to not use protection and it is his fault for getting himself into this situation. If you are mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to deal with the consequences arising from having sex, such as the baby. He needs to quit acting immature and get on the bandwagon. Who does he think he is? And the doctor from the Men's Center... what a crack! He is completely stupid and shows absolutely no sense. And as for him having children...let him know that with the way he is and with his views, no woman will ever want him. 

I believe that it should be the persons decision on if they want to be a father/ mother or not.    

I had a friend who got pregnant and wanted an abortion, the father wanted the child but legally there was nothing he could do to keep that baby.  Why does the women get the right to terminate it when the other parent wants it?  I myself am a mother and am expecting my 2nd child but I do understand how Mr. Dubay feels.  He shouldn't be forced to support a child that he stated over and over, he did not want.  Its not fair to that child to go through life knowing that her father wants nothign to do with  her or her mother.  Does the mother really want this for her child?  Just let him sign away his parental rights and be done.  

  I was with my ex for three years and we were married for one. He was 19 years older than me and had two older children from a previous marriage. He said at the beginning of our relationship that he didn't want more children, I had been told by doctor that is would be impossible for me to become pregnant with out medical intervention. So, at the time it was fine and we were on the same page about babies.   

 After we were married we decided to go ahead and try to get pregnant. We tried everything for over a year and nothing happened. So again I gave up. Also around that time he decided to cheat on me so I divorced him and tried to walk away. Not long after the divorce was final we started 'seeing' each other again, I know I come off looking really bad but he was and is the only man I have ever been with and it was safe to have a relationship with him.  

 Long story short, miracle of miracles, I got pregnant! Who knew divorce cured infertility. When I told him I was pregnant he went balistic, told me to have an abortion and questioned whether it was his child or not. After all we went through this was his reaction.   

 Needless to say, I kept my baby. I have a beautiful little boy that will be four in June. His father has nothing to do with him unless it is birthday or Christmas, he rarely even calls him. My position is that we both know who my son belongs to and he can have as much or as little contact as he wants. I don't require child support, mostly because it gives him rights that I'm not comfortable with him having. I have a wonderful family that helps me take care of my son and if his father ever decided to step up and be a man then more power to him but for now I won't ask him for something he can't give and my son doesn't have to grow up with his parents in constant conflict. I think this is the best situation for me but I'm not saying it's the best for everyone.