Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

For the men who dont want to have children...Get a vasectomy! Problem solved! Seriously, if all men did this, there might not be so many unwanted children in the world.....NEXT CASE, DR PHIL! 

I am in no way religious, so my opinions have nothing to do with religion. But I do believe that once life is created it should not be destroyed. I think abortion should not even be an option unless both the mother and baby would die without it.

If no child was ever aborted it would be a lot simpler to make the rights of men and women equal, because if the mother didn't want the child the father could have it or vice versa, and if neither wanted to take responsibility they could choose to put the baby up for adoption. However since life isn't like this, you need to set your own rules and guidelines in order to ensure your own wishes are fulfilled.

In this case the father made the choice to have sex, and he should be prepared to deal with the consequences whether he wants to be a father or not. He could have used condoms, had surgery, or simply not had sex, if he was not prepared to be a father yet. If not being a father was so important to him, he would have made sure that he did not become one, instead of being so careless. It was his decisions to have sex/unsafe sex that got him into this mess. He shouldn’t be saying that he didn’t have choices, because he did, he just chose not to make choices that would be beneficial to him.

I do believe that the mother shouldn't force him to act as a fatherly figure to this baby since she knew he wouldn't be involved before she became pregnant. But if he was mature enough he would want to.

In the case of women and men having equal rights in regard to this, I don't think it will ever happen. It isn't possible. There will always be disagreements, and the wants of both parties can't always be met, and ultimately the woman has control over what she does with her own body. Men do have some choice however; they just have to be smart beforehand. 

The only thing you can guarantee control over is your own actions in response to what you are given, and your own actions before this even becomes an issue. The only way to get what you want is to live responsibly and make choices that will ensure that you get what you wish for.

The only way to guarantee that you won't have kids is to not have sex.

If you have very strong beliefs and values, you should only get with someone who shares and supports them. Love isn't selfish like this guy is being, and sex shouldn't take place without love.

Like I said I am not religious, but I am a person with morals and standards, and I would never get with anyone who didn't support and respect my beliefs.

This man made the wrong choices, and now he has to pay the price for it. He should start accepting that and learn to live with it, instead of trying to place the blame somewhere else.  

Dr. Phil,  

I think that this will only cause dead beat dads to refuse to pay child support.  As a single divorced mother my dead beat ex refuses to pay child support.  I believe that if a man can have the concious decision to have sex, he needs to be a man and take responsibility.  Stop being such a dead beat and acknowledge your child.  How is the child supposed to react when she starts asking questions? He knew what he was doing when he had sex with his girlfriend.  It is hard taking care of a child that two people concieved and only one is grown up to take responsibility.  Stop whinning like a kid and be a man.  

    WE ALL KNOW  THAT THERE ARE PLENTY OF  WOMEN IN  THIS  UGLY  WORLD  THAT HAVE BABY'S   FOR A LIVING  ~  EITHER FOR A  FAT CHILD SUPPORT  CHECK  OR  FOR A   BIGGER WELL-FARE CHECK !   I THINK THAT WOMEN  TAKE ADVANTAGE   OF BEING A WOMEN !   IN THIS CASE  YES SHE IS  WRONG !  HE HAS RIGHTS TOO !   THAT IS WHAT MAKES THIS WORLD UGLY !   TOO  MUCH SCANDLE !   WE NEED  MORE RESPECT  !  THANKS ........  

I agree 100 percent with this message - anyone who has consensual sex should pay the consequences. Women have more choices, and with those choices comes more responsibility. The actions of this man who does not want to have to pay child support are immature and deplorable. The organization that supports him is portraying a masogynist attitude. And my impression is that his lawyer is in it for the money (doing his job). I have never written in to any television show before, but found myself compelled to challenge this young man's obtuse and selfish attitude. Not ready?  Too late - you had unprotected sex. Now, grow up!