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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm

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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep? Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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upset

April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

baby wars

Matt is the most selfish person. He wants the fun but without any consequences. If he is that animate about not wanting a baby then he should have used protection no matter what she told him about not being able to have a baby. This child will forever have questions because of his selfishness. He should be held accountable for his actions no matter what.

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frank7757

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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

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I think if a man lays down with a woman and she gets pregnant then he should be responsible for the care of the baby.

He should be responsible for the care of the baby, and be a father.

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deniseny22

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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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Your information is incorrect. In most states a woman can walk into a hosiptal and leave her child without any responsibilities to the child. A man cannot severe his rights to a child without having another man who is willing to support the child.

A father can do the same thing.....abandon his baby at a hospital without any responsibilities to the child.

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bazooka

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April 21, 2006, 1:35 pm PDT

baby blues

Im sorry but a man saying he doesnt want ANYTHING to do with his child is outrageous! I strongly agree with the phrase it "takes two to tango," and when theres not protection used then both parties are quite aware of the consequences. When one person in the relationship doesnt want kids then they should be smart enough to use all the appropriate forms of protection. By this man going to court to get his rights to skip out of parenthood is so ignorant. He should just grow some balls and be a man, because that poor girl didnt make that baby by herself. He needs to be a man and take responsibilty for his actions made.

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

Matt is a baby

I am 21, I will be married for 2 years in June, and I have a beautiful 4 month old boy. My husband and I were NOT ready to start a family yet but now we couldn't be happier, we are making it work. Being a parent is the hardest thing I've ever done and it is the greatest joy in my life. I would love to give Matt a piece of my mind. It is ridiculous! If he wasn't ready to be a parent then he shouldn't have been having sex - protected of not! If he were to spend 2 minutes with that baby, his idea of being a parent would change. He is being a big baby, so selfish. I'd like to slap him across the face.

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kbillings

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

roe v. wade reverse rolls

The young man should be able to file suit against the mother for misreprentation, especially if the mother does not have a proven medical condition. It is disturbing if she in fact misled him changing the entire course of his life. The problem becomes, "if he doesn't pay for the child", we as taxpayers may burden a financial impact if the mother needs government assistance. I see his point and truley support his position, but we as a society should not be responsible for "him trusting her". We all make mistakes we are responsible for. On the flip side of that is, women do make choices as a result of roe v. wade and society can still be burdened if public assistance is needed. Where do you draw the line. Since her misrepresentation had a financial impact on him (since he now has to pay child support), he should file suit against her for damages.

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

What is this guy thinking?

I cannot believe that Matt doesn't want to accept responsibility for that beautiful baby that God has given him the opportunity to have. You know, when we get behind the wheel of automobiles we don't plan on getting in an accident, but sometimes that happens. What do we do......We'll if we live, we take one step at a time to get through it and go on from there.

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graykm

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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If a man doesn't want to be a father then he shouldn't have sex! Simple as that. Some men out there have got to learn that if you can't keep it in your pants then you have to suffer the aftermath. I think Matt is just trying to find a way to keep from having to take responsibilities for his actions and doesn't want to fork out HIS money to take care of HIS baby. If he wins this lawsuit then it will just be another excuse for all the dads out there who are not taking care of their kids.

MATT: YOU DID CHOOSE TO BE A FATHER WHEN YOU HAD SEX, AND EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX YOU RUN THAT RISK. ALL WOMEN KNOW THAT, SO WHY CAN'T MEN LIKE YOU GET THAT THROUGH YOU THICKS SKULLS????????????????????????

So if a woman doesn't want to have a child she shouldn't have sex nor the option to have an abortion. The problem with the law is that if the man wants to keep the child and the women doesn't, the man is screwed. She still has the "right" to have an abortion and kill his child. However, if she wants the child and he doesn't, she can stick him with 18 yrs of child support. Either way, men are screwed. Women should not be given all the options. If they can voluntarily terminate their parental rights by terminating the pregnancy, men should be able to terminate their parental rights by signing a piece of paper.

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

baby wars

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okay well if you dont even claim the baby then why dont you just give up your parental rights. It's really that simple. You claim that men dont have any choices when it comes to pregnancy well you do if you made it clear that you did not want any children then you just need to give up your parental rights. Just because you said you didnt want to have any children does not mean its going to prevent you from having any, so you either need to buck up and deal with it or take care of it the other way.

I think that this guy is so stupid, who couldn't want to be a dad? It really makes me angry that he is being so ignorant. If he doesn't want to be a dad he can give up his parnatal rights and let someone who wants to be a father to this precious baby take over the responsiblity. She will find someone that loves her and her baby. He needs to grow up. If he didn't want to be a father he shouldn't of had sex, he just needs to keep it in his pants. Thank you.

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April 21, 2006, 1:36 pm PDT

About Matt and his Lawyers

Well I saw the show and those lawyers are out to make a name for themselves especially the young one because their case does not make any sense. To say that he is "NOT" the father because he did not want this and that he told her he didn't is the dumbest thing I have ever heard a kid say. He thinks it's okay to have sex with anyone he wants and not be a father if she gets pregnant, well as they say, YOU DO THE CRIME YOU PAY THE FINE!!!

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