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Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep?  Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

IT DOESN'T TAKE A ROCKET SCIENTIST...

....to realize that sex, whether protected or not, can create a child. 

Matt gave up his right to choose at the moment he had sex.   Nothing is 100% "SAFE" except simply not having sex.   

  

She said she couldn't get pregnant...He said he didn't want a baby.. Well miracles do happen.  

  

I don't like paying bills, but I incurred them, so I pay them.  He didn't want a baby, but he chose to have sex, so now he needs to pay the consequences just as the woman is doing.  Whether or not Matt wanted a baby, a baby was made.  So own up to your responsibility as someone who followed his sexual desires and deal with it.   

  

No, Matt, you don't get equal rights in this because your body is not going through the emotional, physical, and mental turmoil that pregnancy... whether one week or 9 months pregnant....brings.   

  

 
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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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Unless as a nation we are willing to implement and pay for national child support then we cannot allow men like Matt to abandon their children. 

Thank you........this is exactly why he will lose his case, because they cannot afford to set a precident like this.
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

No part in wanting to be a father

The fact that your 1st guest says he "trusted what she said" is wrong,,If he chose to believe everything she told him,thats his fault,1st of all. 2nd of all,he should have used his head (the one with the brain in it) to think for himself and use a condom anyway.The pill is not a garentee that your partner wont become pregnant. And he had to know that!   

 The fact that the baby is now here ,and he says he wants no part of being the father (money wise i bet) is just not fair to the baby,SHE didnt ask for any of it.   

Turn your back on the Mom who so called did this to you,thats 1 thing, NOT THE INNOCENT BABY,who had NO part in asking for any of this!!    

       Grow up,and smell the     baby ......   

 
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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

04/21 Baby Wars

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A man does in fact have choices in this issue: 

  

1. Use protection--a condom 

2. Have a vasectomy 

3. Don't have sex 

  

AWESOME>>>>> you took the words out of my mouth..........................................
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

Matt is making a fool of himself

 I think Matt is only worried about paying child support and he is bringing up equal rights to mask that.  When he talks about  his rights he brings up child support and how she wants him to help out financially  first.  I think he is being selfish and irresponsible.
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

baby wars

the segment on the show where the guy matt said that his rights had been violated when he found out that his girlfriend became pregnant.He gave up his rights when he decided to have unprotected sex with her.He should have known that nothing is 100% .I was told by two different  Dr. that i would never have kids and look at me.One son and a daughter on the way.I think that he is just trying to get out of paying for what he did.If he wasnt ready for the responsibility then he should have never had unprotected sex.now i think he should have to deal with the conseqenses of his actions 
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:44 pm PDT

matt

i am a single mother of a little girl and her father wanted me to have an abortion. but i would never and could never do anything like that.  

 I had the baby and he wanted to sign his rights over just so he didn't have to pay child support. but that didn't happen because his mother wanted to be a part of her life. So now he see's her everyother weekend and every wednesday and loves spending time with her. 

  

So how does Matt know that he doesn't want to be a father if he doesn't even try to be one? how old is he? It sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. 

 
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April 21, 2006, 1:44 pm PDT

Responsibility

Another note... If women are going to have all the choices when it comes to babies and giving birth, then we should also bear the entire responsibilty of not getting pregnant! We can't have our cake and eat it to! I am so sick and tired of women thinking that they should be payed just because they gave birth! Get real! Who do you think you are? It's almost like prostituting your child! Whatever happened to the joy of pregnancy and birth? Being happy to bring a child into the world shouldn't be the case only when you have the "ideal" circumstances. If you want a child and you let yourself get pregnant under false pretenses then deal with the consequences. It has become way to easy for women to trap men into cutting them a check every month.
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:44 pm PDT

They had unprotected Sex

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I am in the same situation about the birth father trying not to become a responsible father it takes two not one since they both made the decision to have unprotected sex then they both should take care of this child that they have together i am also a single mother and the father does not take any responsibility for our child but he should continue paying child support because that is the right thing to do
 He should have to take responsibilty for the baby to. He did the act to make a baby and it didnt turn out the way he thought it should. Hes the babys father and he should do what is right and support him. 
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:44 pm PDT

Innocent Children

   It all boils down to if Matt wasn't ready to be a father, he should have kept it in his pants!!
 
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