Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I just can't believe this guy!  UGH!!! When a person has sex, whether a man or a woman, they have to face the consequences of the outcome!  It really frustrates me when I see people NOT take responsibility for their actions!  No matter what their actions are! Whats wrong with people now a days? Matt, grow up!  

It's interesting that he thinks he didn't have a choice, but he DECIDED to call a lawyer instead of taking responsibility for his actions!  That was a choice HE made.  Many men refuse to take responsibility of their offspring.  It happens a lot, either after birth or when a divorce occurs.  The only difference is that this guy took it a step further.  Time will tell what this will do to his little girl, his future children, and future relationships.   

Matt, is it just easier to complain about the unexpected things that happen in your life rather than face them like a man?  You infuriate me! 

If you want to have sex than you should be ready for a baby if you aren't "ready" to be a father than you shouldn't have sex. I am 16 and I understand that, if he can't then it is his problem. If there is a mother willing to take care of the baby then obviously that is where the baby should be. If he didn't want to have a kid then he shouldn't have had sex (period). There is always a chance no matter what kind of protection you are using so just don't do it. That is when a man gets to decide whether or not to become a parent not after the women is already pregnant. At that point it is the women's decisions because she is the one who is going to have to have the baby. If there is a law passed so that men could sit back after the women is pregnant and say no I really didn't want to have that baby then there will be thousands more single mothers who are struggling to provide for their kids. like everybody says hindsights twenty-twentey, so after the act is done and the pleasure gained the man will probably want out of the responsibiliy. If you aren't mature enough to become a parent then you are obviosly not mature enough to have sex. At some point in your life you must understand that the world doesn't revolve around you and when you have a kid you must put them first, so any time you have sex your thoughts should be on the possibility that a child may come into your life.   

Yep... one way out of child support is to abort the innocent victim - the child.  Bad enough, many women suffer post-abortion effects, and some men suffer as well when this happens without their consent to their children.  But with this double-edged sword, for those guys that insist on abortion after they've enjoyed the benefits of procreation, I find it very fitting that the requirement be that they are in the room while their child is being aborted.  It's only fair, because by no means should Dad sit on the couch while a woman is in labor either.  But life isn't fair, is it?  So, congratulations Dad - kids have no sense of timing... and that includes being conceived!!!  

By the way, I find that most people change their tune after they get to know their beautiful children.  Especially when they're on their death-bed and these kids help take care of them in their old age.  Not to mention the aftereffects of a decision... looking at your kids and always knowing there should be one more.  My daughter, although her father totally ignored her during her childhood, finally came around, but not before her father became disabled with a debilitating disease and also had become a single parent from another relationship.  He was one, not to me, that whined of the abortion solution to others regarding her.   (I found this out much later.)    

My daughter babysits for her half-brother now when her father's feeling bad - despite how she was treated.  Luckily, they did not have to take their suffering or guilt to their graves.  Of course, you know I urged her to get to know her Dad better as a young adult and to put the poor relationship behind them before it was too late.  The plan was occaisionally stopping by his house with a plate of dinner to feed him, like coaxing a stray cat.  -  Finally, it's all behind them, and she fully enjoys her new half-brother as a blessing.  Her family is complete, and her father no longer has to alienate himself.   An added bonus:  I can rest now, too, and quit worrying about them.  

So you Dads that have a problem with the results of your sexual relationships, weigh one hand of gold against the hand holding your child's... and tell us truthfully - which really feels right, and better?  

AMEN! 

He should file suit against her for damages? because he had unprotected sex and has to pay child support? OK well then I hope that his DAUGHTER sues him for damages!! 

i am a 21 yr old mom...im pregnant with my second child....even though im young i would never deny my child of a life...guys should take care of there responsibilities whether they are ready for fatherhood or not....you will never know when you will be ready for that kind of responsibility...i wasn't ready when i was eighteen but im a great mom to a beautiful 2 yr old...having my daughter didnt stop me from stilling completing my dreams in life...it might of put things on hold but in the end its all worth it....im still in school and i work....and i do it all for my daughter and my soon to be second child....whether a guy is ready or not he needs to be a man and step up to the plate and take on his responsibilities.