Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

OK we all know they both should have been more responsible to begin with both thought they didnt want to be parents but things change and apparently they have so what they should have done no longer comes into affect. 

I think if they dont want to be a father then make then sign over ALL rights in 5-10 yrs when father grows up he should not be allowed to come back in and say ok daiper changing is done getting up all hours of the night is done now they are older and i want to be a father. 

Maybe you can force to to be a father but you cant force him to be a good one! 

Make him sign over ALL rights get him out of the pic and move on he WILL lose in the end he will lose great wonderful things  MOM will see these and get the benefits from these. 

I say make him sign over all rights and forget his money! 

I have a 11 yr old and his brith father is just that ONLY a dad when he wants to be court ordered child support he moved to another state ive spent thousands and never got anywhere he is over 13,000.00 behind yet he still gets to come around when he chooses. 

You will find someone else who will love this little girl as their own and the two of you will reap all the benefits the birth father will lose! 

1.  Wear a condom  

2.  Take care of your child  

3.  If you don't wear a condom, refer to Rule #2 !  

Ok, so he had no plans of becoming a father.  Did she have plans of becoming a mother?  No. But apparently she rose to the challenge and took responsibility for her actions.  Why can't he?   Should a man have a "say" as to an abortion, adoption or birth?  Sure.  And the woman should weigh his opinion carefully.  However, when it comes right down to it, she's carrying the child.    

More importantly, once the baby is born and is here, that child is no longer a theory or a topic to be discussed, it's reality ! After the horse has left the barn, it's a bit too late to say, OOPS!   Deal with reality. This baby is here and deserves her biological father (even if he does have his priorities messed up.)  At least give it a shot, and see the baby, hold her, TRY. He might be surprised at the feelings that come up.    

This is just another attempt for men to get out of paying child support.  I hope that he loses this lawsuit because every so-called father will come out of the woodwork claiming they didn't want a child so that they can get out of their RESPONSIBILITIES. It's not just about  financial responsibility, but what happened to men who take the moral responsibility of being a part of their child's life?  Think about the child, not themselves.  It takes a REAL man to do that.  Let's have some more of those around!  Instead of shirking RESPONSIBILITIES, own up to them!    

I do agree with many of the posts that it is unfortunate that it has come to this.  However, I can't help but wonder why is it that you are blaming him?  This woman knew EXACTLY what she was doing.  Why would you have unprotected sex with a man that has told you numerous times that he did not want to be a father.  She made the choice to have this child all the while knowing that he did not.  So she should have to deal with HER choice and raise the child without his help.  

Women have fought for years for control over their bodies and reproductive right.  So it is now time to accept the responsibilities of those rights.  And if it is ultimately her choice, then it is ultimately her responsibility. 

Oh come on MAtt!!  YOU made the choice to have UNPROTECTED intercourse,  knowing full well that the ONLY way not to get pregnant was ABSTINENCE!!!  Therefore,  YOU are just as responsible for the child you created.  Step up to the plate and be a man!!  Taking this to court is the stupidest idea men have come up with yet.  I suppose men are going to start using this as an excuse for them to spread their demon spawn all over the world and not have to be responsible for them.  They just have to use the excuse,  "I told her I was not ready to be a father."  You don't want to be a father,  DON"T HAVE SEX!! 

I found this story quite interesting because my husband is just the opposite!  He is constantly begging me to allow our three kids to sleep in the bed with us!  They would be there every night if it were up to him!  It is hard to believe that my husband is in the minority of husbands/fathers!  I love it! 

  I certainly hope our legal system tells this young man where to go.  His control of being a parent is with the use of a condom, and the careful choice of who you have sex with.  If he feels this strongly on the issue, then he should choose partners that feel the same way or not have sex.  The sacrifice that this young lady is going to make to be a  single parent far outweigh whatever financial responsibility the court lays on him.  She has more at stake, and should have more to say about whether this child enters the world and whether she is going to raise the baby.   

The choice to have sex has with it certain risks.  Everyone understands those risks.  There are risks for women and for men, and frankly the risks for women are not "equal under the constitution".  The one and only risk for young men is that you may end up supporting a child that you have no desire to have.  That is the risk.  He took it, and frankly he should provide the financial support.   

  This sounds like entrapment to me. Us women do have more choices then men do, choose to abort, put up for adoption, or drop baby off at a safe haven, (hospital or fire dept.)  without the fathers consent.  I know of a few girls who trapped their boyfriends  by getting pregnant. And using a condom to prevent pregnacy is NOT 100% . We all know that.   

 I have children myself and I love them with all my heart. But I do believe  Matt has a point!  

I am a mother of two little girls, my fiance and their father is also the father of another child, a boy. This child was concieved unknowingly according to my fiance. The woman purposly got  pregnant, aft. telling him that she was indeed on the pill. Now there is a child that we/he is responsible for. I do care and love this child, as does he. However, I do feel that it my fiance shouldn't have to pay childsupport to his mother. This is an unfortunate situation that shouldn't have happened, but did. I think that we should be allowed to see him but have no financial responsiblities to him, unless HE wanted to. It's true, men have no rights when it comes to this and in some cases, such as mine and the one on your show, the should. I do know that if this case goes through, my fiance will attempt the same here in WI. Fair is fair and the law is the law. We are all equal, no if and's or but's about it.  

Stacy