Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

He totally had the choice.  No sex, condum, pull out!   

He made her pregnant.!  Maybe she didnt want to have a baby yet either .  But she stepped up to the plate and is doing the right thing.  Everyone is forgetting is the one with the sperm.  Hello 

When I was in college back in the late 90's I was told this story.  I don't know the names, or when it happened and I have not verified the location.  This was told by my sociology proffessor Dr Johnson at the University of Cincinnati who stated it was a true story. 

There was a couple on a double date at the drive in.  As couples do at the drive in, so did they.  The couple in the front had a condom and used it.  Not to miss out on the mood of the evening the couple in the back wanted fornicate as well, but did not have a condom.  Seeing as they did not believe in unprotected sex, they obtained the condom used from the couple in the front seat and used it for their protection.  You guessed it.  The woman in the back had a baby; however it was from the man in the front seat.  The woman took the man in the back seat to court for child support.  He claimed he should not have to pay because it was not his baby.  The biological father claimed he should not have to pay because he did not have sex with the woman.   

I am not sure how the case turned out. I am curious as to who should have to pay in that instance.  

I submitting this because, I believe it has relivence to the issue of men being treated unfairly with child support. There are many other examples of how men are being treated unfairly.  The laws need to be changed to benefit all parties involved.   I do believe that a child should have support from the mother and father.  There has to be a better way to do it, then there is now. 

What man needs to be convinced into not using a condom?  Granted I have only slept with one man in my life, but I believe him when he says that it's much better without.  This young woman had info that she couldn't get pregnant.  Turn the tables around and say he has the sterility problem.  What if by some choice she gets pregnant?  Would it still be the woman's fault?  Should he be responsible then?  She would'nt have had to convince him to not wear a condom then. 

I have two young children that I have brought in the bed with me sometime or another.  I think if the dad has a problem with the way the wife handles the children at night than he should help her not criticize her methods.  He should get up and rock, feed the child or whatever works to get the child to sleep and put him or her in their crib.  The mother obviously has problem seperating with the child but I bet she would love a little sleep by herself.  The father seems to forget what a tough job it is to be at home with children all day.   

I feel for the male guest that is fighting a legal battle (to get out of child support), I agree completely with his defense.  Since the girl lied to him and made the decision to have the baby on her own,she should be responsible.  WHY should one be forced into parenthood ESPECIALLY if it was clear in the beginning that he/she didn't want children?  He has been upfront and honest about his position and should not be forces to go against it. 

You ask about the child?  Well shame on the girl for doing that (being so selfish)  in the first place.  She says that she will do whatever to take care of her baby...well then she needs to do it!  

You cannot force a person into parenthood! 

*Also change the situation to where the female got pregnant, the male wanted the unborn child BUT the female didn't: 

She could easily abort the child, not allowing the male a chance at parenthood or that child a chance at life!!!!  Neither the male or child would have a say so.