Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Please note.. I did NOT call them MEN in the title.  Real men step up and face their responsibilities.  Matt, on the other hand is an fully grown child... worse, a DOG.  Having raised three daughters without ONE pennies child support, court ordered and NEVER paid, I feel like an expert on the subject. 

Furthermore, I am raising my severely autistic grandson. This because when his mother (my traumatic brain injured daughter) told him that she would get an abortion because she didn't think she was ready to have a child and their marriage was VERY rocky.  He threatened her and basically forced her to have the child.  Halfway through the pregnancy he was beating her, raping her and throwing her down stairs because she "moved too slowly."  She left him when the baby was 20 days old and has lived with me ever since.  I am supporting them both.  He has paid $15.00 in child support in 2 1/2 years.  This child is 2 1/2 years old and is severely handicapped.  He has not made one attempt to communicate in any way, no mimicking sounds, not walking... this boy needs a LOT of help!  I feel quite certain that his condition is due to the abuse that the mother took during the pregnancy.  He also took the child off his insurance and his therapies alone cost close to $2,000 a month... my burden! 

These fathers all had rights... they INSISTED on having these children.  Then they ALL abandoned them emotionally, financially and otherwise. 

My philosophy has been simple.  I step up and assume the responsibility.  No court, no hassles.. just let the dogs run and take care of the babies.  The fight is NOT worth it because it only adds legal fees and stress and worry to the already difficult situation.  However, in my opinion, this country is seriously failing it's children by allowing deadbeat dad's to avoid the financial responsibility of the children they created. 

Whether a man chooses to be a father or not is his choice UP FRONT... practice abstinence, use protection or step up and take care of the child. 

Matt, shame on you!  That baby looks identical to you... sweet and adorable.  How cold and selfish can a human be?  You are despicable!

I am very shocked at what I heard from this man about not wanting his child. I am pregnant, and I would be completly crushed if the father of my child, whether he was my husband, boyfriend, even just a guy friend didn't want to have anything to do with our child. I see his point about the equal rights, and he seemed like a nice man, but how could anyone evil or not, want nothing to do with something that is a part of them. A child is a wonderful gift to me.  

It is impossible to make the rights of fathers and mothers equal when deciding what to do about a pregnancy when each wants something different. Although no contraception is 100% effective, when the choice is made to not use any forms of contraception then you are making a conscious decision to risk an unwanted pregnancy, reguardless of what someone may tell you concerning their fertility. Considering his attitude, this child is better that he is not a part of her life. The mother was beautiful, she will meet a real man that will accept her child, and be a real father. Any man can make a baby, but a real man makes a father. I'm sure there will be alot of regret on his part if/when he decides that he is ready to have a family. The bitterness he feels over paying $500 a month in child support may have been spared if he had spent $10 on condoms.