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Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

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Created on : Thursday, April 13, 2006, 01:22:17 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep?  Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.

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April 21, 2006, 2:32 pm PDT

Are you kidding me??

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  The fact that they had discussed the reprecautions of pregnancy, and how it was not a great time to have a child, should deter any legal action taken against the father. The woman should not be allowed to renegg on her decision to not have a baby. If anything, the father should be charging her with breach of verbal contract!  Too many woman are having 'cute little babies' just to say they have them. It's almost like an accessory in some cases. Leave the father alone. He made his position clear much before the night of conception!

He did make a decision and that was not to protect himself and to have sex before he was married.  No One other then the two of them were in the bedroom when this was supposedly discused so dont believe everything you are hearing.  If it was as easy as saying "I told her I didnt want kids" to get these losers off the hook, most men would do it.  Come on now 

If he DID not want a child he should have had surgery to make sure HE couldnt have a child, otherwise the only way to guarentee that you dont is NOT to have sex at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

Are you retarded or something?

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I agree...if you have the uterus, you have the power and the responibility for what ends up in your uterus.

If a man is TRICKED into having a baby then he shouldn't have to pay for it.  The woman knew the man didn't want the baby, she lied, tricked him, got pregnant and is now demanding support for this baby?

A person who is that unstable should probably have the baby taken away from her anyway...
He wasn't "Tricked" into anything.....he had sex, he has to pay the price.  He is being a childish, spoiled little brat for makeing a lawsuit so he doesn't have to pay child support!  He made his bed, he has to lie in it.  Maybe he learned his lesson.  Of course, all the other women in the nation who saw this show today won't even get near him now, so we're all safe!
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

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This is unbelievable!!! I am a parent of a beautiful baby girl who is going to be four this year my husband and I have been together for five years this year. Let me tell you something this just goes to show why women do have all the rights if it were left up to the men there would be lots of babies who didn't know their parents because of men who like this one don't want to take responsibility for the fact that they want to trust the women when they should follow what they think and not what the women thinks. This was so ignorant. The poor man needs to think of how he would feel if his father said oh I don't want him because I wasn't the one who lied or the one who didn't take it upon myself to protect myself from something I didn't want. Is he even thinking about how this kid is going to feel when she grows up and has to explain no my dad didn't want me because he didn't protect his penis. How's that going to sound coming out of a kids mouth to another kid.  

HE'S WHAT THEY CALL A DEAD BEAT DAD!!! You go Dr. Phil!!!!!!!! 

  

 

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

Father Who Denys Baby

**I don't understand how a man can deny his own child like this man is doing. He should be ashamed of himself! HE HAD THE GUTS TO HAVE SEX WITH THE GIRL, and i'm sure he has sex-ed at some point in his life. If he can be man enough to sleep with the girl, then he needs to be man enough to take responsibility for his actions. No man is dumb enough to think that unprotected sex is safe.**
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

baby momma drama

I really believe neither a woman or a man should have the choice after a baby is conceived. but, since row vs. wade says a woman can choose the fate of an unborn child why the hell can't a man have a choice at that same point??  

sure a man can't develope a fetus but we do carry the responsibilities of a child for the rest of our lives.   

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

A Mother's Choice that's NOT Possible!

A mother is NOT able to decide that she is NOTa biological mother to a living child, whether adopted or with her. Matt is asking the impossible -- he IS a father.
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

This really got to me

   

I can not believe what I heard today.  

What a load of BS.  

If this young man thought he was responsible enough to have sex then he should have been responsible enough to deal with the possible consequences.  I'm sorry that you were horny you litte winnie but pregnancy is a consequence of having sex.  Now you are trying to act like a big man and take legal action.  You certainly were a big man before thinking you can handle what comes with having sex.  So just put the responsiblity enirely on the girl now because you aren't man enough to deal.  Let her have to make the decision as to carry the baby and put it up for adoption and feel her heart get ripped out.  To raise it alone and have her heart ripped out from the stress of it, or to have an abortion and again get her heart ripped out.  How can you even look at that beautiful child and feel nothing.  Oh probably because you have no heart that's why this is so easy for you to dismiss.  

Jerk.  

   

   

 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

This is absolutely ridiculous!

I'm sorry, but I can't believe Matt tried to say he shouldn't have any responsibility in this child's life. They both made a choice to not use a condom during sex, therefore, they both chose the risk of getting pregnant. No matter if she didn't think she could get pregnant or not, if Matt didn't want a child, then he should've strapped on a condom and said "Well let's make 100% sure that we don't make a baby." DUH. It's not hard. I don't think he's going to win this case, and I think he should accept ALL responsibility for that child. Start paying child support, you deadbeat!
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

One Day At A Time

In my opinion I believe that if the boy doesn't want to be a father then maybe he shouldn't have had sex regardless of what she said. She should go on with her life there are men out there who will care and love for HER child. She can make it without him or his money!!!! 
 
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April 21, 2006, 2:33 pm PDT

Women do this on purpose

I am a middle age mother of children who are grown and college graduates.  I manage a large professional office and I work with TWO women who also got them selfs pregnant because they tricked men with the same excuse I can't get pregnant or I am on the pill.  Everyone in the office knew exactly what had transpired when they annouced their pregnancy's. I firmly believe that if they wanted a child so badly why have and do they continue to hunt these men down for money when in both situation like this young man's they told these women they did not want children or a commitment.  If this young women wanted this child so badly that she needs to support it herself.
 
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