Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

In response to all of those who have said repeatedly, if you don't want a child, don't have sex!?!  What are you all thinking.  Why should the guys be the ones to make sure of this.  I am a women.  It is our body...I have 2 kids and for any of you that keep saying guys don't have to be pregnant for 9 months or give birth...get over yourselves.  Most women would agree that pregnancy and giving birth are amazing and great.    

Why should I be able to be allowed to have unprotected sex and still have a choice and my partner is not.  This is a matter of law that I have this choice and whether I believe in abortion or not, I have the right to choose.  This is democracy...abstinence is not an option it is a preparation.  In the event that you did not prepare...get real not every moment is given preparation!!!  

This is reality and for whatever reason ALL MEN SHOULD HAVE THE CHOICE!!!  Jerks and deadbeats will always be that way, but the law is there to protect the innocent that are being taken advantage of.  

The mother wanted to keep the baby...good for her and I hope that the baby will get the best of everything and I am happy that she is loved by 1!  Matt should still have the choice even if he is missing out on a child's undivided love.  

This issue is not about not having sex, stop making it out to be that way...animal instinct prepares us for sex and our society has not made sex only about reproduction, it is an outlet, a feeling or sometimes just satisfaction!!!  

There have been, Dupes, dopes, dunderheads, idiots, fools, selfish, screwed up, ignoramous's, questionable people on this program, but this sorry excuse for a piece of humanity, on the show today, (4-21-06) and the two guys with him, lawyer as well as the other poop, take the cake...it is just a way to make a path for MEN to run away from their responsibilities...!!! all the old cliches such as, "play with fire, get burnt", "get in the water, get wet", can apply...there is NO sure birth control other than "ABSTINANCE"...Don';t want to get burnt,..?..don';t play with fire, don't want to learn to swim, don't get in the water....there is a breaking place for freedoms, and that is when one encroaches on another...only freedom for Responsibility, is taking the responsibility...man doesn't want to be a father, they ought to cut "it" off....!!! 

If you are old enough to consent to sex you are old enough to accept the responsibility of having a child as a result of your actions, regardless of what condition the woman says she had that makes it impossible for her to concieve. Medical conditions are not black and white, things happen and in this case she got pregnant. Birth control pills are close to 100%, but close does not make it invincible.   

Now the child is here in the world and Matt is fighting for his right to not be a father because he is not ready? REDICULOUS. What will happen when he IS ready to be a father? Will he then open up his arm to welcome his current child? This man is irresponsible puting his rights ahead of the rights of his (yes, HIS) child.  

As not only a father, but a stay at home dad, I am sickened by this man and the man from the National Center for Men that Matt brought with him. How can he even open his mouth not being a parent himself, he is speaking about something he knows nothing about. The rights of women are the way they are because they carry the child. What would happen if this court case wins and then down the road a couple get pregnant and the woman wants to abort but the man wants the child? This is the most rediculous case I have ever seen. STAND UP AND BE A MAN AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD, after all you were man enough to stand up and take care of what's in your pants without having an issue. 

This is not a place to call names. He is not displaying anger about the pregnancy, just stating that he should have a choice in the matter. 

Matt should have the same choice in his life that the woman has in hers. If men had the same choice, a lot of women would be more careful about not getting pregnant. Neither party was forced into having sex, they both made the choice to do so and enjoyed the experience.  

It would be normal to feel crushed if you have had an open / honest discussion/decision about having children and then your partner backed out.  Matt did NOT get this choice ... which he surely deserved after HAVING the discussion.  Just because the baby is born, people expect that the child will be instantly loved and appreciated.  Instead, the girl's actions caused instant resentment and Matt surely feels trapped.  It's no different than when we women choose to abort when pregnancies come at the wrong times in OUR lives.  The guys, however, do not have that choice - and should NOT have been tricked into being a parent.  I'm very tired of reading all these postings about how GUILTY he should feel.... HOGWASH!!  -- she lied ... lied ... lied ... it is HER responsiblity.