As a single mom in a similar situtation to what was on regarding Matt , his ex girlfriend andhis beautiful little baby girl he wants nothing to do with ( yet he helped create!!!) !!!
I can only sympathize with his ex-girlfriend raising a child alone and having to deal with such a self centered moron. Rights? Matt , doesn't deserve any rights , he is no kind of man in my opinion and is heartless, I think self centered moron isn't the word for Matt. He needs to get fixed if he doesn't want children. After all he was a active participant at some point.
Wishing I could talk to Matt's ex as I bet we'd have alot in common. My heart goes out to her and prayers send her way for a happy healthy life with that beautiful little girl she is raising alone. Her quote Dr. Phil read on her behalf very well worded , What a beaituful little girl. and a very blessed mom to have a life with her despite her poor excuse of a father.
I am dealing with the same type of situation and have been raising my now 15 month old son on my own . To tell my story I will try to make this simple and hopefully not too confusing. Or boring for those that care to read it.
I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome at a young age and through many years with a previous, yet marriage and trying to concieve I had all but given up and thought I could never have children. Years later and much to my surprise at 32 I became pregnant with my son. Through a very short lived unhealthy realationship with his father
Through a very rocky relationship with his father that looking back should have never gone as far as it did. After finding out I was pregnant in August of 2004 I decided to dissolve our relationship in late October as I wasn't being treated fairly and my welfare and my babies ( health wise was much more important to be than a self centered fathers. I had severe hypertension and had to be put on bedrest for the last 3 months of my pregnancy. Being a sometimes stroke level with severely high blood pressure just wasnt worth dealing with the stress the realtionship had on me. I think staying would have only made things worse for me.
I know now that our son wasn't ever wanted by his father and have treid very hard to come to terms with it, even though it wasn't my intention of ever having a child with this man.
I wasn't careful and neither of us used protection. The only comment I had ever heard from his father was on the day of the first sonogram which I had asked ( many times before he agreed to even be there) was, " how much of a huge sacrifice it was for him to be there and to have to take off work. "
This really opened my eyes and also helped me make my decision in knowing I was better off going at it alone. This really hurt me for a long time.
On a more happier note In January of 2005 after a pretty rough road being on bed rest, I had our son via c-section with my mom at my side It was a very happy day. The only minor complication was that he was born with 4 small holes in his heart ( murmurs) . That I'm happy to say have by the grace of God have almost totally healed all but one small spot. He doesn't even have to go back til he's 4 to the pedatric cardiologist.
Not once ever through this whole ordeal did his father ever call to ask how I was or how his son was, knowing the due date, and knowing via his parents about his sons medical problems, etc. He has never even seen him other than photos., to my knowlege and claims he can't afford to suppoort him in anyway. He's a CPA working for a good company mind you and also has a 10 year old daughter from a previous marriage.
I also had to call his parents in July or felt I needed to and let them know of their grandsons existence, as I knew he'd never tell them or his daughter about theirgrandson or her little brother.
They were naturally shocked when I told them and demanded a paternity. It was amazing how quick after all that time within hours that he tried to contact me, It was hard for me to make the phone call as it took me awhile to even get the nerve to call, but I felt it was important that our son know his grandparents as I'm not a only child as my youngest brother was killed several years ago. And I lost my own father when I was 10 in a car wreck.
On a much more saddened note our son is now 15 months old now and the only contact I have had with his father is through one telephone conversation stating he isn't cut out to be a father and his career is more important , he has since moved on married again, less than 2 months after my son was born to a lady with 2 children and is providing a roof over their heads To make a long story short he wants nothing to do with our beautiful happy, healthy little boy. It is also his parents only grandson they will ever have. It saddens me that anyone including my son or should I say our son has to even endure this through life. To me he is a blessing and was meant to be here despite the circustances. He got to meet his grandparents for the first time last fall. I'm glad I made that choice even throughh we don't see eye to eye either and they feel contact with their grandson is betraying their son till the court dealings are over with.
In my opionion even though hind sight is always different it does take two and I'm equally responsible for bringing my son into this world and now feel it is my responsiblity as well to see that he is nurtured as raised in the best way I can raise him. I only wish his father would realize that, but have come to the acceptance that it will probably never happen, and Feel it is best that our son isn't subjected to the screwed up , self centered mentality his father , some may feel differently, but I can only do my best to see that is upbrining is done with lots of love, encouragent and high moral values, and in a christian upbringing.
It is very hard when your on the other end being the single parent as many of you might know. I hope you get to read this Dr. Phil, or Robin. Your books and show have been very encouraging to me through lots of my struggles through my ordeal with my sons father., as well as my own life I'm so very glad that you chose to have this story on the show regarding Baby Wars. It really hit home and needed to be discussed. I hope that you will have more shows on regarding single parents and their struggles hopefully witn more happier endings than mine.
I don't know if this is the right place to post thies , and I hope I haven't confused anyone. Needed to vent.
CTD2005
in Texas hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel.
(Original Air Date: 04/21/06) Being a parent is hard enough, but what happens when Mom and Dad can't agree on how many kids to have, how to raise 'em and how to get ‘em to sleep? Sometimes, it can lead to an all-out baby war! Matt's baby battle ended up in front of a judge and made headlines. He was ordered to pay child support for the baby he had with his ex-girlfriend, but he says he shouldn't have to cough up the money because she told him she wasn't able to get pregnant, and he told her he didn't want to be a father. He, his attorney, and the director of the National Center for Men discuss the lawsuit they filed, known as “Roe v. Wade for Men,” arguing that men should have a constitutional right to avoid fatherhood. Next, Dan says even though he and his wife, Lisa, already have four children, he wants just one more. Lisa has been pregnant on and off for 11 years and says she's closed for baby business. Will Dr. Phil help Dan see Lisa's point that four is enough? Then, a frustrated husband is camping out on the roof of his house and living in a tent. He refuses to go back to his bedroom until his wife moves their kids out of their bed and starts paying more attention to him. Can Dr. Phil get him to come down the ladder? Plus, a sleep expert has a simple method for getting your child to sleep through the night. See the plan in action! Share advice and talk about the show here.
