Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I have raised 3 boys since they were 2mths 3 and 4 years old with no help from their dad they are now 17,20, 21 and if that guy made the baby he needs to raise that child you dont take anyones word on birth control it takes two to make a baby. he is attacking this the wrong way,if he didnt want children then he should of protected himself  its called responsability. My wife and i have not been able  to afford to have one of our own but thats ok now that they are older we choose not to and thats ok because i treat them as my own. The laws need to help a man have rights to a child whos mother may not want one they are forced to pay child support buthave no say if they want to keep a baby and the mother wants it gone.My boys  know that  I have been there dad and  I wouldnt give that up  for nothing . That irresponsable person that denies his child dont know what he is missing. children need both parents no matter what. 

Ok, perhaps he was deceived.  Maybe even overtly lied to.  Now the baby is here.  How unfortunate that this little girl will grow up feeling unwanted.  I couldn't imagine seeing my father on TV telling the world that he did not want me, does not want me, and refuses to know me or take responsibility for me.  

He needs to grow up and consider the feelings of this poor little baby girl.   

THIS LITTLE BOY SAID IT BEST HIMSELF WHEN HE ADMITTED CONDOMS WERE NOT 100%.  THIS IS ANOTHER REASON WHY YOUNG KIDS OR SO CALLED YOUNG ADULTS,  SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX.  THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH THEIR EMOTIONS OR REAL RESPONSIBILITY WHEN SOMETHING OF AN ADULT NATURE ARISES FROM THEIR OVERACTIVE HORMONES.  I HOPE THE JUDGE THROWS HIM OUT OF COURT AND STICKS IT TO HIM GOOD.  THAT BABY DESERVES A FATHER EVEN IF IT'S NOT HIM.  THE MOM SHOULD JUST COLLECT THE SUPPORT WHEN OR IF SHE GETS IT AND MOVE ON.  HE'LL REGRET IT LATER WHEN HE BECOMES A MAN!   BY THEN IT MIGHT BE TOO LATE! 

He should not have had sex. It's really that simple. Engaged in intimacy always has the risk of pregnancy. Condoms break, pills only work 99.7% - abstinance is the only thing that would have guaranteed him not to be a father. What she said to him, what assurances she gave him, is irrelavent - it's what she knew at the time. I myself was in the same type of situation, I got pregnant after taking the morning after pill and the father is completely uninvolved becuase he feels he wasn't given a choice. What both of them refuse to acknowledge is that when you choose to have sex, nature doesn't care about what promises or precautions there are between partners. Nature only cares about the sperm and the egg. No sex, no baby. Simple. 

What breaks my heart is that these children will never understand their father's "moral" debate. All they will know is that their father didn't want them. Kids internalize everything and they will think they father doesn't love them because something must be wrong with them. Their father's selfish behaviour will leave permanent emotional scars that will never heal. I'm so glad everytime Dr. Phil asks these people "BUT what about the child??" That should be the more important moral debate, shouldn't it? 

I discussed my son's responsibility for birth control many times with him starting before the age of 10. At 25 he had a one night stand and a child was created. He is responsible for his actions and the consequences no matter how he wants to rationalize it! Too bad if he didn't listen to me...anyone can rationalize their way out of their responsibilities. That doesn't make it right! If you aren't old enough to accept the possibilities/consequences of having sex, then you aren't old enough to have sex! Grow up!