Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Okay ladies and gentlemen we all know where babies come from and it seems to me it's up to us women to stop this. We are the only ones who can. Women we are the ones who get pregnant. If you can't afford to raise a child on your own and I mean without govenment assistance either (tax paying people weren't in the bed with you so why should we pay you to raise your children?) then we should do all we can in our power not to get pregnant even if a doctor says we can't. 

I had a long term boyfriend who expressed his wishes not to be a biological father and as such we did all we could to prevent it. Condoms, foam, and the three month shot that makes a women an it. I repected his wishes to bad his next girlfriend didn't. 

I didn't want the chance of something happening and having to hurt three people because of my poor judgment. I know today he still loves and respects me for the decision we made together. 

I support giving men the right to opt out of fatherhood for the following reasons:   

1.  This will force women to make better choices about intercourse and will therefore reduce the number of unwanted pregancies.   

2.  A particularly despicable type of violence, that concerning the disgruntled man forced to pay child support, will be eliminated.   

4.  Sex will become more genuine in terms of the union between man and woman.  This will turn the tide of the current run-away sexual revolution contributing to many of the social ills now seen in America.   

5.  Sexual unions that are formed, due to better choices made by women, will result in better, stronger, and more fit families.   

6.  The consequent greater selective pressure placed on men by women, will force men to become better at being "men" in order to secure a mate.  This will improve the quality of "fathers" as more men strive to excel in order to win the attention of a women.   

7.  The increased competition by men in order to secure a mate will "weed-out" the less desirable sex partners thus improving overall the health of the human species.   

I'm convinced this will come to pass even though the concept is quite disturbing to us now:  every generation has it's scourge; the problems we see facing famlies today due to our laissez-faire attitude about sex is one of ours that future generations will one day look upon with contempt.     

Part of growing up is accepting responsibility.  We don't get to choose everything in life. Sometimes we are given situations that are out of our control and what we do in that situation is what's important.  There is a child out there who's father has written off simply because he does not want to be a father at this point in time.  What's more important; his right to a choice or this child growing up thinking she wasn't wanted and is just written off?  Maybe he should spend his energy and time accepting this miracle in his life and making it the right time.  I think he's so obsessed with this idea of rights that he has forgotten his child's rights.   

You wouldn't be in your situation if you had just protected yourself.  I don't feel sorry for you and think you ought to not claim "victim".  The only person that I feel sorry for is you new child.  Sounds like the parents have lots of growing up to do.  I wish you all well.