Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Why did Matt not consider NOT having sex and then he can insure that he will not become a father until he is ready. I am so worried about all of the children brought into this world with fathers that do NOT support them. WE have so many people on welfare and those welfare checks do not go far enough that children still go hungry!!!!   

My questions goes to Matt why are you having sex if you are not ready to become a father?  Matt how do you think babies are made?  I think that Matt's parents need to explain to him the facts of life.    

YOU PLAY, YOU PAY!    

This is a ridiculous case that unfortunately is not surprising.  This young man and his misguided lawyer are simply following down the slippery slope introduced by the widespread acceptance of contraception.  The lawyer's contention that Roe v. Wade did not have the huge ripple effect of abortions that some thought it would is appalling!  Where did he get his information?  4000 abortions are performed each day. 

The contraceptive mentality this society has is telling.  50 years ago, no one would have dreamt that making love did not have as a possible ramification of making you a parent.  And that is the way it still is and should be.  People who are not commited to each other (and some may say I'm old-fashioned here) in marriage should not be having sex.  Sex is a pleasurable act, but it cannot and should not be separated from it's procreative act.  This young man should not have had sex if he did not want to be a father.  It is that simple. 

Further, I do not believe the way to level the playing field in "reproductive rights" is by taking more away from the innocent child.  A father should not be allowed to abdicate his responsibility because he made some disclaimer beforehand.  The mother should not be allowed to abort a child because it has become inconvenient or because it was unexpected.  She should also not be allowed to give up her child for adoption unless the father agrees as well.  If you are going to have sex, you must be ready to take care of the child. 

As for the man who wants more children...  He should grow up and get off the roof.  If he wants more children and his wife does not, he should be of more help with them so that she would feel comfortable welcoming another child into their lives.  Marriage and parenting is a partnership.  You don't always get your own way, but you have to work together and compromise.  You need shared values and a common goal.  When you want different things, you both have to make sacrifices.  That is what marriage and parenting is about.  He needs to behave more maturely and think of the family that needs him to lead them. 

I have a question for you.  Why did you give in and not wear a condom?  If you know what the consequences are then why did you give in? 

Stevers, I have a son also. He's 11, and I've never regretted my part in OUR decision to have him. Sadly, she and I are now divorced, I see my son 8 days a month, and I've paid every nickel of child support. I would have 3 more kids if I could, but I can't just go down to the "egg bank" and get some eggs. Biology is unfair, but the law shouldn't be unfair too.  

I support Matt's case, because I too want an equal right to choose. I want the right to choose LIFE, I want to be able to KEEP the baby. If she wants to terminate her pregnancy and parenthood, I say she can't kill my baby, but I wouldn't expect or ask her for a dime of support once the baby was born and in my care. 

I am so surprised that he feels that they are violated.  He had sex without protection, what did he expect??? 

Another way to get out of paying for his mistake, he needs to keep it in his pants if he can't be man enough to take care of his child!!!