Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

 i think that guy on today 's show is a big jerk, you play you pay. why cant he just sign over his rights. 

 i want to ask him what if is father did that to him.. grow up jerk i hope you lose in court. 

This kid ("KID" being the operative word) that's suing for his right not be forced to be a father should have thought about his "rights" before he made the "choice" to "make love" to a woman he obviously wasn't in love with. Someone once said that sex without love is nothing more than "domestic rape". Maybe someone ought to put this guy in jail for rape. In my opinion, he violated her rights sexually.  If he isn't man enough to marry her, then he isn't man enough to make love to her. She's responsible too, but they used each other sexually, and now an innocent child is paying the price for it. If this guy found out a year from now that he was sterile and could never have another child other than this baby, would that change his attitude about this beautiful little girl? I am 39 and can't even find a girlfriend, this guy has everything I could ever dream of having, and he's throwing it away voluntarily. Like I said in my subject line..... WHAT A FOOL!!!   Just so you know,  RIGHTS EQUAL CHOICES, but CHOICES DON'T EQUAL RIGHTS!!!  Questions/remarks, please feel free to post!!  

(1) If you have good recordkeeping habits, you can always find out how many sexual partners you have had, what their names were, and how many encounters you have had with each (unless you modify the form to cover any sexual relationship with the undersigned person).  

(2) When you contract HIV from promiscuous sex it will be easier to get in touch with previous partners and tell them to get tested.  

(3) You can find out real quickly whether the person is really interested in a long-term, committed, frivolously sexual relationship—or whether they really want to be in your life for 18 years or more.  

Yes, I can see where such a document has an upside.  

Respectfully,  

AuldSoul  

Of course, abstinence is the best way, but is it realistic?  Sex for the sake of sex should always be practiced with contraception, unless of course, you are in a committed relationship and are in a position to assume the responsibilities of parenthood, if pregnancy results.  With privilege (and sex is a privilege!) comes responsibility.   In the case of the young man who has chosen to deny his parental responsibility because he says he told her up front that he did not want to be a father, and she assured him that she could not become pregnant, is within his constitutional rights,  just as the woman's right to terminate the pregnancy without his permission would be within her constitutional rights.  She is as much to blame as he is.  Maybe, even a little bit more.  Why?  Because all females know they hold the ultimate power over males, especially when the prospect of sex is a factor.  I can't imagine many men stopping to say, "wait a minute, let's be practical about this."   The plight of fatherless children is just as much the female's responsibility as the male's, sometimes even more.  My oldest daughter is 30, and two of her close friends chose to have babies (boys) , not marry the fathers, and have made it their mission to make the fathers' lives miserable.  And I'm supposed to feel sorry for them and support their right to punish the guy?  Not a chance.  What they have done is behave irresponsively, deprive their children of fathers, and make an impoverished and dysfunctional childhood a possibility.  Worst of all, they openly demonstrate hatred for their fathers, and who knows what thay does to a male child?  Make him loathe his own maleness?  Scarey.  Women's lib may have accomplished equality in the workplace and in the voting booth, but it seems to have turned women into scheming, immoral, vindictive creatures.    Men are the people they love to hate!  If men are the promisekeepers, then surely, women are the promisemakers.  

I think you missed the point...this guy never had a choice about having the baby, where is HIS right in all of this?  Just because he doesn't carry the baby means that his right is thrown out the window, and the woman gets to make all the decisions??? I completely disagree.  I think this is a case that needs to heard, and I'm very anxious to see what the outcome is.   

P.S. I don't think he'll have a problem getting a 'serious date', but maybe I'm the only one that agrees with him!  Hopefully the next woman he dates won't be misleading, and maybe he'll be able to find trust in the next relationship!!!   

That poor baby girl is an exact replica of the father who is trying to disassociate himself from her...there will always be a part of him living on in the world...how can he not be drawn into that?  His avoidance of the baby shows how unsure of his stand he really is.  I dare him to just hold her, then try to walk away....   

What a miserable life he has already set up for that child.  Does he think she will grow up fine knowing her father made a federal case of denying her?  That poor baby girl.....