Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Unprotected Sex always has a chance of getting a woman pregnant.You should take responsiability for your daughter. Grow up!

don't you think that your opinion is a little biased since this is your fiance your talking about, and she is the "other woman?" you are invested emotionally and financially in this argument, and i think you're wrong.

I am the mother of two wonderful children. The choice was made by both myself and their father to have them. I took responsibility before and after I had my children just like their father did. If either partner in a relationship would rather not have children, the ball should be in their court to prevent it. If you don't want to be a parent, take measures to prevent it. With all the technology out there these days no one has to be a parent if they choose not to be. A woman has alot of choices, before and after conception. Men, knowing the choice ends for them the second conception takes place, should use the brains God gave them to either put a condom on or take it like a man and step up tp the plate.

Fact: the government of the USA says everyone deserves equal protection under the law 

Fact: women can have sex yet still choose not to be a parent AFTER conception 

Fact: men deserve this same right/choice 

Hello,  

  

I am just wondering about this topic discussed today dealing with this law suit about the boy not wanting to be a father and therefore not feeling obligated to contribute financially. I am just wondering, if the shoe were on the other foot and it was the man who wanted to keep the baby and the woman did not, if the man would have the legal right to take her to court and force her to carry the child and then keep it without her in the picture? I actually found this young man to be quite the coward. I am always surprised at how easily some people can run away from their uncomfortable situations:(  

It is my belief that whenever a man and a woman engage in a sexual relationship that THEY run the risk of a pregnancy.  Whether THEY like it or not, they both bear a responsibility for the child.  A man will from then on be a provider, whether he is in the child's life or not, and the woman will be the child bearer, provided she keeps the child.  Hopefully they will decide to make a life together and keep that child's welfare first and foremost.  

  

If a man wants complete assurances that a woman will definitely NOT get pregnant then he should abstain from having sex with her.  

  

The amount of child support is another issue altogether.  

  

   

You seem to be the angry one!!!  

   

AND by the way, women get blamed every day for getting pregnant.  We ALWAYS have to take responsibility!!!  

   

The fact that the statistics prove that MEN (not women) are the biggest scum bags when it comes to being "deadbeat". DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY?????  

   

Because WOMEN always have to LIVE with the problem.  Men can just leave.....    

   

And by the way, I have heard people say, ALL THE TIME, "Well she is SOOOO stupid and brain dead for getting pregnant!!!!"  They have said things to women like that for years!!!!  

   

I guess you would never know that since you are so stuck in your own world!!! (Literally)....  

Despite needing to be constantly fed, comforted when crying, nursed, held, burped, soothed, and loved,  the man's new baby is still less selfish than the father and his cry for "my rights".

   It would be one thing if a woman couldn't support a child on her own, but that's not the case anymore.  As someone who decided 30 years ago to go ahead with an unplanned, uncommitted pregnancy, have the child and raise it, I think the worst thing the mother in this situation can do is whine about "our" baby.  It's HER baby, and she'll put together a family for him/her of people who participate voluntarily. Much healthier for the child!!  Having that child was the best thing I ever did, and I chose not to compromise my dignity by  pestering the father for support.  His loss, but also his choice. 

  The man on the show said that the woman had various choices he was denied, but he never mentioned keeping the child and raising her on her own.  That's probably the best choice for the mother, and she's free to make it. He's free not to participate, if that's his choice.  

  

 I'm sorry, but it takes two to make a child.  He should be responsible for his actions.  He knew fully that there are risks of conception if two people are to have unprotected sex, regardless of what medical situations someone is going through.  I personally have become pregnant while on birth control during my teen years.  My (then-boyfriend) didn't walk out on me, thankfully.  He is here today working a minimum wage job (as I am too) bringing home money and also going to school to get an even better job so he can provide for his new found family.  If  this man and his lawyers go through with this, saying that men can 'drop' their responsibilities altogether because they weren't ready to be a father yet, then (if my husband wasn't a wonderful man) he too could have said that I had told him I'm on birth control and had practically 'promised' that we wouldn't get pregnant when we weren't using protection.  And then turn around and say he wasn't ready to become a father (like I was ever ready to become a mother too, same thing with his wife if she was told she couldn't have children - what a shock!).  I believe things happen for a reason.  Thankfully we have other men out there, just like my husband who can give men a good name and live up to their responsibilities instead of trying to find an easy way out of any situation.  I may be rambling, but I don't think his daughter would appreciate the fact that her biological father had 'chosen' not to be apart of her life, even financially.  My biological father never was and it did hurt.  I hope that he realizes that he is affecting his biological daughter's life and he should grow up and do something positive about it instead of trying to dash the other way.  We are in our early twenties, expecting our second child and we had to change our whole lives.  It isn't easy, but I have to tell you, it's well worth it.  It's morally right.