Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I personally think that if you aren't not wanting a baby then simply don't have sex.  it's that simple.  if you are out to get pleasure there are many other ways of getting pleasure without haveing intercourse.  Yes both men and women have the choice to prevent pregnancy by saying no to sex or by using protection in the means of birth control or a condom.  This guy on the show today said that condom's aren't 100% affective either... U know what I think... He obviously shouldn't be having sex if he isn't going to handle the consequences of his actions and he obviously isn't mature enough to be a father anyway.  This woman who is raising the baby and trying to be a good mother understands the consequences and I give her a thumbs up for it but if they both didn't want a baby in the first place they shouldn't have had sex or protection should have been used.  Ladie's and Gent's... No Glove No Love.  

I know my position on this matter will seem "old fashioned" - but what happened to getting married FIRST and then having sex?  Our society, the media, the movies, have all made the sexual act into a "sport", "recreation", a "right", just having fun.  Males have been brought up to believe that they need not  learn to control their urges, they can do whatever they want and if a baby is created, the girl pays the price.  Well, maybe the male urges are strong, but God gave them a brain to control their actions - in all that they do in life, including abstaining from sex..  It's just that society and their PARENTS haven't taught them RESPONSIBILITY and RESPECT.  Boys, just keep your pants zipped and keep yourselves out of situations where you are overwhelmed and out of control.  I once worked for a man who said he was going to keep his girls locked in the basement until they were 38.  I think it is the boys who should be in the basement - unless, of course, they learn how to respect a girl/woman, control themselves and take responsibility of their actions.  That old "boys will be boys" attitude is an antique folks.  If they play the game, they should pay the price.  

Too bad Matt didn't want to be a father...the correct answer is then - abstain from sex.  An easy solution.  No lawsuit needed!    

I have to say that there was quite a lot of dancing around the point of "responsibility". He mentioned that she had told him she was on the pill. Well if he's as educated in the birth control arena as he tried to portray himself, why didn't he double up with a condom?? Taking someone's word of being unable to concieve is a double-edged sword. Was the source reliable? Did he research that information? If he wants to make a battle over "rights" to support/not support a child, I think he should've taken more responsibilty over the prevention of pregnancy rather than assuming it already had been. This debate is going to open a flood gate. Don't get me wrong though, deceiving someone is wrong if that indeed had happened. I am happy, though, that she had stepped up to take reponsibility of that child as she is beautiful....  

Too bad your fiance doesn't see his child, it makes me very sad to think of all the years my father and I wasted.