Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

In this time of AIDS, & so many sexually transmitted diseases, would you believe her if she said she didn't have any of the above?  Then, if you got one, would you sue her?  Or, maybe die in the near future, as in the case of most AIDS-infected people?  What are all the women to do when they believed that their husband,  or significant other, wasn't out getting AIDS or STD's?  What's their recourse?   Are they supposed to sue, get political, spend years in the court system?  At least women have DNA tests now to help them support their claims of paternity.   

I'm sorry, but I don't see a solution to a lot of these questions in the near future.  I think a lot of them could be answered, like for the next couple in the show, when men will be able to become pregnant.  Or when Dr. Phil grows hair.  That is just probably not ever going to happen, except maybe after a giant nuclear war.  Sorry, Dr. Phil, but can't you just see yourself as a big chia head after you survive an atomic bomb strike on Los Angeles?   

Like he said, condoms are not fool-proof, but at least it does prove ya tried.  There are just prices for unprotected , & protected, sex sometimes.  I know, I hate condoms myself, & I'm a woman.  Women get pregnant when they're on the birth control pill sometimes.  Sometimes babies just happen, so  grow up, quit blaming everyone else, face it, be a man, & realize that you're not going to change much in the natural order of the world by trying to get political, mobilizing the down-trodden men, and going through the courts.    

Plus, aren't you guys spending more time and money to fight this battle than you would pay in the $300 a month?  Oh, yeah, your ex-girlfriend & your baby will be living in the lap of luxury on this.  I know, $300 is a lot when you only make minimum wage, but you have to pay the price for a few times of glorious, non-condomless sex, to put it totally non-emotionally.  Plus, emotionally, that is your child.  Grow up, become a real man, accept that you screwed up, pay the price, meet your child, love him.  Because what lesson are you really showing him now?  Oh, well.   

Do you have parents alive?  What do they think?  Maybe they should be allowed to hug this grand-child?  What if you got killed in an accident tomorrow?  That might be their only grandchild.  It's possible, you know.  Then, maybe they'd be fighting for the right to participate in the life of this child, and change their minds, if they were on your side, as most parents are, right now.     

I don't have any answers, but I do know that that sure was a cute baby in those pictures.     

Well for one thing, I truly do agree with the young man. He was for ONE lied to by the Girlfriend,she made a choice to continue with this pregnancy. Now the flip side to this is .. WHAT IF  she wanted to have an abortion and he wanted that child. I bet it would be against her  Human RIGHT to FORCE her to have a baby that SHE didn't want and he did, so in other words the man has no choice at all about if he wants a child or not? I agree it is the part of both to protect themselves,But isn't it the right of both to decide what to do if the woman gets pregnant and it be AGREED UPON? I think the law is EXTREMELY one sided on this issue ...not to mention on child support laws as well!!! Might I add, I am a lesbian who does not have children nor have I ever wanted children,  but I call it like I see it! I think there would be alot less people on welfare and and other government assistant and not to mention lighten some the child support courts up if things were a little more balanced, AND FAIR!!!  

                     Christine  

Since when is having $500 a month to off-set the financial burden of a child having "it all handed to you on a plate?"  I challenge you to be the sole caretaker of an infant for one month and see how far you get on that. 

The only way I would classify Matt as an "easy mark" would be if she got pregnant by someone else and managed to trick him into paying child support for that child.  The only child he's being drained for is his own flesh and blood.  I object to him being classified as "father," but I have to agree with you, too.  He doesn't deserve to be called a sperm donor, either.  Sperm donors are productive members of society, providing an invaluable resource to people facing fertility problems.   

Matt certainly has rights, should he choose to excercise them.  He could visit the baby, or not.  He could help her to learn right from wrong, or not.  If the birth mother marries in the future, he could "cut his losses" and allow step-dad to adopt the baby.  He could even decide that he wants custody--surely with his dream team of lawyers he could somehow show she is unfit.  He could get the baby and sue HER for child support.   

Bottom line--BOTH parents are responsible for the children they choose to create.   Why should you or  I, as taxpayers, have to subsidize Matt's kid?  Because that's who pays when dead-beats like Matt don't.