Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

[quote]Until science or God makes a way for them to do so, they should grow up, keep it zipped and like an ADULT, realize that ANY sexual encounter can result in a baby.[/quote] 

Words that are just as true for women as they are for men.  If a woman doesn't have enough money to support a child on her own then she should keep her own pants zipped and wait until marriage to have sex.  That system worked for thousands of years. 

He had a choice - don't take anyone's word for anything and USE A CONDOM.  Yes, just like any other form of birth control - except abstaining - there is always a risk of a pregnancy for both sides.     

Just because you told her you weren't ready to be a father - you seem to think that makes you immune from any consequences. What kind of thought process is that?  Maybe she was just as surprised as you when she came up pregnant.  You seem hell bent on "you have a right to play, but nothing should happen you don't want to happen?"   What world do you live in?    

It's a gamble no matter who you are - have sex, have a chance of getting pregnant.  You played the game, now pay the price.  Nothing in this world comes without a price.  You were not responsible in your actions - no condom - so now be a big boy and pay the price.   If you always take someone else's word that Nothing can happen, then you are positively naive or downright dumb - take control of your own life and actions - wear a condom.  

With your attitude you are doing this child a huge favor by staying out of its life.  You say you want children some day on your own time schedule and on your own terms - I feel sorry for that child you have then - what if he or she doesn't live up to your expectations?  What "defense" will you use then?  What responsibility will you take then?  What if the child you do choose to have is not as smart, as atheletic, not as good-looking, or whatever else you can dream up - as you expected it to be?  Whose "fault" is it going to be then?  The genes from the mother?  How will you handle that?  I can't bear to think of what you will eventually put a child through down the road.   

I wonder also if you realize how whiny, irresponsible, and down right immature you sounded on the show?  I wonder how your parents feel right now seeing you and knowing they have a beautiful grandchild out there who you want to deny?  I hope they at least do the right thing and know this child,  if they have a better attitude than you do.   

I wonder what you do for a living?  I wonder how you will handle the business world in the years to come when life doesn't always play "fair" with you?  My guess is "not well".   

The man who appeared with you did you no credit at all.  Not your lawyer - the other one.  He seemed very combative, egotisical and not well informed.  You did yourself and your cause no good at all on the show today.  My guess is that more people laughed at you and your supporter than listened, much less sympathized.  Grow up.   

And you think child is really going to think:   

"I resent my mother for forcing my bioligical father to emotionally and financially accept me against his intentions and wishes..."     

Maybe when the daughter grows up, she'll even look up her biological father & send him money because she resents how badly mother treated him, hmmm?   

You have an interesting way of choosing your "heroes".   

I think deception is sickening too.  But all those guys CHOSE to show up for the conception.  The baby should not have to suffer just b/c mother is a liar.  If Matt's allowed to get away w/o paying for the baby HE helped create, BABIES will suffer, in many cases TAXPAYERS will be footing the bill, & fathers who were NOT deceived can lie & claim they were.  

And anyone who thinks women have all the power doesn't have a good understand of how modern American society works nor of history.  But since we have all the power, perhaps men should all stop having sex with us.  

This Roe vs Wade for men is an embarassment for our culture.  Has our culture become so individualistic that we have no sense of family or obligation?I am ashamed to be in the same generation as Matt. I, waited to have sex until i was out of high school and  nineteen to start having sex ( I am nineteen now) Because I understood the consquences of sex. I did not want my parents burdened by my actions. I understand that what i do not only affects me but the people around me.  

Although i admit i am not financiallly prepared for a child , i am have come to terms that i will be held responsible for my actions and is willing to prepare for their consequences.  

 I don't really don't think their will ever be equal treatment for men or women when it comes to cases like this because we are not created equal biologically.Let's face it , it is a woman who goes through the pregnancy biologically while the man can impregenate many women.  

I think if men or women do not want to have children ( or anything else that comes along with having sex) they should simply not have sex.   

I think the reason why women have the choice of abortion or adoption is because they ultimately are made responsible for the children in our society.The women are the majority of single parent families. (I do acknowledge the the single parent fathers -you make me proud!)  

Don't forget. Arbotion affects the woman biologically and mentally. While it can only affect the man emotionally. Adoption have an affects on the women bioligacally (since they were pregnant)and mentally. While again for men only emotionally.  

Thank you for letting me express my opintion!  

So your husband had an extra-marital affair with a married co-worker who he believed to pregnant....turns out she was lying (huge surprise that adulterers lie about things other than just the adultery!).   

You want laws changed to protect your men like your husband? Don't you just hate it when you it turns out the person you are having an affair with turns out to be MORE dishonest and morally reprehensible than you are? You really ought to be able to trust the married people you are sleeping with. 

You were a victim of your husband's unfaithfulness, but the REAL victim here is that child who didn't ask to conceived by two immature, irresponsible people. That child deserves the financial support despite the fact that you and your husband have "moved on."  

Forgive me if I don't rush out and petition my local congressman.