Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

I am a mother of one and this is the show I have been waiting for.  I have felt for many years that men do not have enough options when it comes to having children.  I think that Matt is 100% on the money.  Why should he pay for a child he never had any intention of keeping.  If the mother decided to give the baby up for adoption then she would not pay child-support to the parents, would she?  Men do not have enough rights when it comes to babies, the woman can give the child up or terminate the pregnancy.  What choice does the man have, none.  That is wrong.  If the woman wants to keep the baby and the man was upfront at the beginning that he did not want a baby, then the woman MAKES A CHOICE TO BE A SINGLE PARENT AND SHOULD LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE.  I would not want to be forced to have a child, I don't think anyone should be, the man should have the same choices as the woman, always.  Us ladies wanted equal rights, then it should work both ways. 

Well that was innane. So anybody who doesn't want a child should deny themselves intimacy with another human being?  

I can not stand the abstinence arguement. It is ridiculous to expect anyone to give up such a wonderful aspect of being alive and well just because a few people do not know how to effectively use birth control or do not know what kinds of different elements will render it useless.  

What we really need is for more people to do their homework about their birth control methods & for people to stop protesting that sex education is being taught in schools. To ensure that as a society we are well informed & equiped for what lies ahead in life is the only way that we are going to grow as a people.  

So remember kids Auntie Oleannder says: 

1) check the expiration date on your condoms & make sure they are of good quality & correct sizing. 

2) take your pills, shots, patch when you are supposed to. Don't start skipping doses & if you miss one then use a back up method of protection.  

3) if you are on the pill make sure to remind your doctor of this fact if you are being perscribed antibiotics - most kinds will render your pill obsolete for the duration of the antibiotic run.  

4) IUD users - an IUD is so small that you may never be able to tell if your body has rejected it & flushed it out. Always use a secondary backup.  

And remember not every method is effective so if you are really worried then always use extra precautions, however if you are using more then three methods at the same time & still wind up preggers...... then the laws of nature are just out to get you.  

When I first read this, is sounded reasonable, but I'm not sure it's really fair to the child. It's tantamount to saying that a child born to a father who chooses to opt out of the child's life must live in poverty regardless of the father's income. Isn't it bad enough that a child, who did not choose the circumstances of his/her birth, is summarily rejected by an irresponsible parent?  

I'm not adverse to revisiting child support laws, specifically to consider the mother's income, but I'm not sure this is the answer.  

I am not unsympathetic to your personal struggles, but the fact remains that your husband chose to engage in irresponsible behavior and then compounded his bad choices to agreeing to a ridiculous scheme to cover his tracks. If you choose to remain married to him, unfortunately you may also bear the burden of suffering the consequences. If your husband's version of events is accurate, it doesn't seem reasonable that he should have to pay child support, but his own behavior in this matter is so bizarre and suspect that the truth will be difficult to prove. You know the old saying about laying down with the dogs.....  

Your case has nothing to do with the Dubay case or other child support cases. Do we really want to send the  message that a man's sole responsibility is to utter the words "I don't want children"?   

I understand a lot of what you are trying to say here. The main problem lies in the fact that there are absentee & neglectful parents on both side, be they male or female.  

Isn't it funny how both sexes have people who have behaved in such an irresponsible fashion yet all we can seem to do is harp on the evils of either side & place blame rather then try to come up with form of a solution? For human beings to get anywhere as a race we all need to stop seeing one another as the cause of all of our problems & instead focus on the ways that we as individuals can improve on our own situations without negatively influancing someone else.  

I would like to see a world in which a new child can be a joy to everyone & not have the burden of parental (be it maternal or paternal) regret straight from birth. Forcing another individual to live a life altering decision that they had no input in is akin to a jail sentance, only this jail sentance can affect generations to come.  

Sex is fun, and sex makes babies. If you are really opposed to having children, then you should not be having sex.   

Yes, women have alot of power. We put out or not. We abort or not. I understand how that can seem terribly unfair. But here's the flip side. We carry the baby. We loose bone and blood for them We sit up at night while they cry. We take lesser jobs so we can spend time with them.   

Men do none of these things. I have been in a situation where I was on the pill and got pregnant anyhow. I chose to keep my son, how could i not, the creator himself chose me to raise him. I was young and poor and had to take state health insurance (medicaid).   

To get the medicaide,  I had to tell who the father was, even though he didn't want anything to do with us. I know for a fact that he has a support order against him that he isn't paying.   

BUT THAT ISN"T THE POINT  

The point is what is best for the baby. I have a child, that fact alters my life permanetly, If the guy has to pay a little child support, then so be it. But if he was so opposed to being a father, he should have gotten himself fixed. Its a quick and easy operation done in an out patient setting.  

BOTH OF THOSE PARENTS HAD CHOICES.  

I DIDN'T CATCH WHAT SHE SAID ABOUT PROTECTION ON HER PART....BUT IT IS HER BODY AND SHE HAD THE ULTIMATE RESPONSIBILITY TO HAVE OR NOT HAVE A BABY...IF HE DIDN'T WANT CHILDREN, NOW OR LATER, THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO PREVENT IT....AND THE ONLY 100% THING IS TO KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS......LEARN TO PLEASE YOURSELF....HAVE SURGURY (IT CAN BE REVERSED)  

THE CHILD CUSTODY/VISITATION PROCESS HAS BEEN TURNED INTO A CONTRACT WHEN THE PARENTS AREN'T TOGETHER ANYMORE....THIS IS PROBABLY WHY HE THINKS THAT HE CAN SUE AND WIN......BECAUSE SHE  'LIED' ON HER CONTRACT ( IF THAT'S WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENED)....HE CAN COME BACK AND 'VOID' THAT CONTRACT....THIS IS A HUMAN LIFE.....NOT A CONTRACT....IM SORRY YOU ARE GOING TO LOOSE SOME MONEY......AND I REALIZE THAT 'IT'S JUST NOT FAIR'.....GROW UP......YOU PROBABLY DONATE MORE THAN YOUR CHILD SUPPORT TO CHARITY..UNLESS YOU DON'T EVEN DONATE TO CHARITY.....