Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

As far as I am concerned the bottom line is this.... whether you want a child desperately or really don't want a child ever if you are so blessed you MUST act responsibly.  

There are many things in this life that we don't choose or wouldn't choose ....cancer, car accidents, financial ruin, mean people, tasteless food...however if and when these things occur we deal with it as best we can and carry on.  

 The miracle of a human life cannot be just tossed aside because it is not what we would have chosen or wanted. In a perfect world we would all get exactly what we want all of the time. Obviously  we don't live in a perfect world. We must take what we get and make the best of it.   

Often what seems like the worst thing to happen turns out to be a blessing in disguise. It could be years befor we see how our lemons have been turned into lemonade if at all.    

This pretty little miracle has RIGHTS too. That her father would have prefered not to be a father should not impact her life or her future. SHE did NOT choose to have a less than loving father who would like to escape his responsibilities.   

In short... IF YOU PLAY YOU PAY...DON'T EXPECT AN INFANT TO PICK UP THE TAB FOR YOU!!!  

Money is nothing....Life is everything...Get your priorities straight Matt  

I didn't know that they had a rerun of this until now. I've just posted on this board about twice now, & this board seems to become more popular lately, even though they're showing this over. What I DO have to say is, whatever happened to honoring God's vows? Sex was intended for marriage & marriage only. It's sad that a lot of people out in this world are doing it, & then having a lot of deadbeat fathers (& mothers) out there because of it. I'm a young man myself at 24 years of age, & I'm definitely waiting until marriage before I have any children. That's what God wants. I don't even know what it's like to be pregnant, & having to go through that, including long labor pains & delivery, & men like myself can never experience that. Whenever sex between a man & women has occurred, you're taking a huge risk of a pregnancy, or worse, getting diseases. If men don't want to be a fathers at all, & want to have sex without conceiving a child, then they have 3 choices. 

1. Get yourself fixed (A Vasectomy), & always keep making appointments to make sure that it actually happened,  

2. ALWAYS wear protection (A condom), & if it breaks, STOP, then immediately put another one on, or 

3. DON'T HAVE SEX! Plain & simple. 

why should women have all the rights?  The girl in this story made a choice too...her choice was to bring a child into the world knowing full well it was unwanted by her partner...this is clearly a case of a women forcing a young man to into parenthood....if she knew the baby would be unwanted she should have been fully prepared to raise the child alone!!  Accidents happen...no one is without sin...everyone makes mistakes....but she had a choice in this mistake...he did not!! 

Honestly I'm surprised this hasn't come up sooner.  We went on such a rampage for women's rights, and I wondered how long people would take that lying down.  Don't get me wrong, I am grateful for the things we enjoy now that we couldn't before - as women.  But fair is fair.  I think women are given far too much and it's turning us into spoiled brats.  Children ARE being used as meal tickets quite a bit.  But I agree that there are dead beat dads who will use this, should there be a change in how child support works, as a way out of their responsibility.    

If there's one priority that is stressed on these shows its the kid.  What kid wants to grow up with an emotionally detatched dad?  It almost seems no dad is better than the kind of emotional damage a forced parentship would cause.  As a kid, I would have rather had a dad who was around because he wanted to be.  Sure I'd resent the fact that he didn't want me, but I don't think people relize the reciprocations that result in something like this being forced.  You can't just tell this guy to be a dad...and BAM he's gonna want to be a dad.  Cause he can't do anything about it.  At least if women get pregnant, and someone wants to say, look, you gotta be a mom, she can say, no.  I don't have to put this child through this.  I can adopt him out to a better life.  I can end this pregnancy.  I have options.  The dad doesn't.    

I don't think Matt is going to get out of this though.  What court is going to just pick one side or the other because he says/she says.  For all practical purposes, because he didn't use contraception, it looks as if he had no problem risking having a baby.  He may say she said she coudln't, he may SAY he told her upfront that he didn't want to have a baby...but people will SAY anything.  If he were seriuos, he should have thought about the dating version of a pre-nup.  Get it in writing or write a check friend.