Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Well, as far as it wasn't his choice, it was his choice to deal with the outcome no matter what it is. Whether she is using birth control or not, there is always a chance that pregnancy will happen...the only real precaution you can take is to not have sex at all, that way you do have a choice as to whether you want to be a father or not. So I think he should take responsiblity for his actions no matter what he thinks...he had sex so no matter what is going through that head of his, that beautiful little girl is his and will always be his, even if he doesn't want to be a part of her life. Suck it up buttercup.   

Ironically enough.. That is exactly what I did.. and I am damn proud that I did. But I do thank you for helping other women find their strengths.  

And.. did I read that right.. "doesn't make her boyfriend wear a condom.." I'm sorry. I didn't realize poor Matt didn't know how to wear one as an original idea.  

MATT HAD A LOT OF NERVE GETTING INTO BED AND HAVING SEX WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND, WHEN HE WAS SOOOOO ADIMANT ABOUT NOT WANTING TO BE A FATHER!!!!  

IF MATT WAS THAT CONCERNED ABOUT NOT HAVING A CHILD, THEN HE SHOULD HAVE AT THE VERY LEAST, WORN A CONDOM.......AGAIN, AT THAT MOMENT HE WASN'T THINKING WITH THE RIGHT HEAD, AS MOST MEN DON'T WHEN IT COMES TO HAVING SEX.   

MATT, BE A MAN AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL YOU MADE. IT WAS CONSENTUAL RIGHT?????? WAKE UP, BECAUSE THAT BABY WILL GROW UP AND COME LOOKING FOR YOU LATER ON IN LIFE. YOU HAD A CHOICE BEFORE YOU DECIDED TO PUT A VERY IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR BODY INTO HERS.....IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A BABY 

Dr. Phil  

Please read this to the jerk whp say's he didn't have a choice. 

Men have the right to wear a condom. That protects their rights to help control the issue of when they are ready to have children. When they decide not to wear a condom and take the chance of making the woman pregnant, or they can chose to wear one to protect themselves from making a woman pregnant. Women take internal contraceptives, that is also available for men. But women can not put on a condom. So he made his choice. Now he needs to grow up and take responsibility for the consequences of having unprotected sex. If he dose not want to be involved with the child then just pay the child support and never contact the child. But when the child grows up tell her face to face that you want nothing to do with her don't run and hide, or make excuses. 

Then his next step is he never needs to have another child. So go get a vasectomy. Because he is as  worthless as tits on a bore hog and never needs to have any more children. Then he can say he made his choice and can continue having sex. But if it is going to be unprotected then he needs to think about sexually transmitted diseases. He made his choice now step up to the plate and deal with it. Quit crying like a baby just so you don't have to pay for what you have done. You need to be a man at some point. Stop being a sperm donner and take care of your little girl. All she needs is LOVE 

heffalou 

and if a man is ordered to pay child support and doesn't he can and will be tracked down and his wages garnished...if he owes back child support, the courts will automatically take it from his tax refund..assuming he gets one... 

a woman can drop off her child at any "safe zone" without fear of persecution..the state will take over guardianship of the child..find them alternate care..and the mother gets off scott free... 

Not that I disagree with this at all..in fact I think because of this law there are a lot less babies left in dumpsters...Nor do I disagree with child support being inforced when two parents were in a committed relationship (i.e. married) with a joint decision to become parents in the first place.  But if you are unmarried and become pregnant it is your choice what you want to do..if you don't want the burden..close your legs.. the woman can choose...so should the man!! 

I think fighting a war in the justice system over a mans rights is absurd. Women have more rights than men (in this situation) because if a woman gets pregnant unexpectly, and the man doesn't want to take responsibility, in the past, he didn't have to.  The laws were formed, as Dr. Phil pointed out, because there are men out there who want to have sex, unprotected or not, and not deal with the responsibilities. Why do you think the phrase "single mom" is so popular?  The woman didn't have a choice. So women have more rights. I'm not saying that makes it fair, but it also isn't fair when women are raped and have no option but to keep the baby. It is not fair that women  are (generally!) the main, or sole care givers for children. If's not fair when men and women both want to have sex, and the woman has to change her entire life for a child she was not prepared to care for instead of recieving help from the father. Parents should be made up of two people.  

I understand that it seems as though his rights as a man were violated, but as Dr. Phil pointed out, he could have used a condom. Yes, that isn't 100%, NO form of birth control is. The only 100% way to avoid pregnancy is abstanance. If he isn't willing to not have sex to aviod fatherhood, he has no right to fight this battle in court. What he should be fighting for is more forms of birth control for men. Why do women have all different forms of birth control (the pill, the patch, depo, the ring, iud,,, etc.)? Because  they wanted and they fought for them! 

tell me about it!!