Topic : 07/06 Baby Wars

Mothers can kill their babys without even telling the father! or they can go thru their pregnancy after they leave the father to just drop it off at the nearest hospital or put it up for adoption and not tell the fathers they even have a baby and that is fair? I think not! Oh and if she did either of those things mentioned above she doesn't pay child support. I am sure if they had to pay child support to whoever decided to adopt their baby and give them a loving home, just as the mother did in this case, most of these women wouldn't give their baby up because they wouldn't want to work 2 jobs to be able to pay for their child and to make sure they can survive too. You want to tell me she is not just as responsible for this pregnancy? It does take 2 and since that is the case they should both have the right to make the decision as to what happens to that baby. If one wants it and the other doesn't then sign away the others rights as a parent and keep your baby and raise it on your own. I see plenty of women on here who have done it. Women wouldn't be going out getting pregnant for a paycheck. Yes I have seen women who live off their child support checks (multiple checks from multiple guys) and the state. Too many men believe women when they shouldn't. Unfortunately this is the price they pay for being trusting. You are right about the only form of b.c. that is 100% but the issue here is the rights for fathers after the fact. 

Another STUPID reply from someone who has not been defrauded out of $175,000.00 in child support and FORCED to be a father and assume all the responsibility that goes with it against his will. Look. SHE made the decision, she KNEW he didn’t want to be a dad and couldn’t afford it at the position he was in in his life and the selfish woman didn’t give a damn! She knew the state and federal government would force him to pay and she robbed him blind. If she didn’t have the arsenal of power she has I can promise you she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant, SHE wouldn’t have wanted the responsibility especially if SHE had to pay for it! The woman is not under a set outrageous monthly sum of money, she is only obligated to give the child what she can afford out of her pocket. MEN are obligated to pay this outrageous monthly payment regardless of whether or not he has the money or not. When you are in this position come back and write another post and lets see what you have to say then! Its easy to sit on the other side of the fence and look at the situation but the bottom line is its illegal to give her all the options and MEN NONE!

DOING THAT STOMPS ALL OVER THE EQUAL PROTECTION RIGHTS OF MEN! MURDERERS HAVE MORE EQUAL PROTECTION RIGHTS THAN INOCENT FATHERS! ITS AGAINST THE CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.......PERIOD! IF MATT LOSES THE “CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITEDS STATES” WOULD BE NULL AND VOID. NOT WORTH THE PAPER ITS WRITTEN ON.

On the issue of the gentlemen not having a choice and not wanting to be a dad. 

First of all he had the choice to have sex without a condom and second since when does a man just believe a girl when she says she can't get pregnant or is on the pill.  She has lived with her choice to have the child and bring it up the best  way she know how without his help.  He needs to stop blaming her for the situation he put himself in.   He needs to face facts and know that he made his bed now he has to lie in it and face the consequences and pay child support whether he wants to be part of the baby's life or not.  Simply put, "Be a man" and you will regret the decsion you make now later on down the road when the child knows that you want nothing to do with her for whatever your lame reasons are or were.  Stop being a pansy... 

No I don't feel sorry for Matt because he is a child. He only cares about himself, not the little baby he helped to create. And as a matter of fact I pay more every month for my kids than my ex does. He pays a small amount and he has 2 more kids. I never stop him from seeing the kids. He lives in another state and if he is down where we live I let him have the kids even if it is not his "turn", even if it means the kids will be gone a little longer in the summer away from me. I don't do it for him. I do it for my children because that's what being a parent is all about...what is best for your children. He has not paid a lot of medical bills, etc. I just paid it rather than fight with him over it. I never bad mouthed him to the kids when he lived close and changed weekends so he could go out and party... and yes I said CHANGED weekends. Because I am flexible for my kids.   

Obviously you have issues you need to work on.   

And you know what else, if my kids lived with their dad, I would pay my child support without complaint to make sure my kids were cared for.   

Sex is fun, and sex makes babies. If you are really opposed to having children, then you should not be having sex.   

Yes, women have alot of power. We put out or not. We abort or not. I understand how that can seem terribly unfair. But here's the flip side. We carry the baby. We loose bone and blood for them We sit up at night while they cry. We take lesser jobs so we can spend time with them.   

Men do none of these things. I have been in a situation where I was on the pill and got pregnant anyhow. I chose to keep my son, how could i not, the creator himself chose me to raise him. I was young and poor and had to take state health insurance (medicaid).   

To get the medicaide,  I had to tell who the father was, even though he didn't want anything to do with us. I know for a fact that he has a support order against him that he isn't paying.   

BUT THAT ISN"T THE POINT  

The point is what is best for the baby. I have a child, that fact alters my life permanetly, If the guy has to pay a little child support, then so be it. But if he was so opposed to being a father, he should have gotten himself fixed. Its a quick and easy operation done in an out patient setting.