Topic : Your Parenting Style

i would like some advice  

i have a 7yr old son and i am a single mother  

he does see his dad every weekend  

and he does tend to talk back and disobey me  

i know he does not do this to his dad  

and he does not tend to od that when my b/f is over  

any advice here? 

I am the mother of two boys ages 5 and 10.  My ten year old has ADHD and is very successfully treated with his medication.  He has been on maintenance for more than 2 years and does wonderfully.  His personality is still in tact, he does not "zone out" and he is extremely intelligent. 

My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years.  He is stepfather to both of my children.  He loves them very much and tries to do everything that he can to let them know that he loves them and wants what's best for them.  

The problem in this situation arises because of my parenting style.  I do not get on the boys, particularly the 10 year old, as much as I should for being disrespectful of me.  He does not follow my directions and almost always has something to say after I speak to him or after I have told him to do something.  For many years, I just did not realize that he was doing that, largely because  of the verbally abusive relationship I was in with his father.  I was desensitized what he was saying to me.  Now, I realize that he does it, but I feel that if I reprimand him every single time he does it, all I will ever do is reprimand my child. 

My husband is disgusted with the entire situation, to the point that he had threatened to leave because of the way that I allow my child to speak and act toward me.  I realize that I am not doing what I should, but I don't know what to do without feeling as if I am reprimanding my child every one of the precious moments that we have to spend together after working and schooling all day. 

Does anyone have any suggestions? 

Your son feels safe with you.  

He know that you are there for him.  

That is why he talk back and disobey you and no one else. 

My children do the same thing to me, but not to anyone else. 

In public they are well behaved. Try not to give in to him when 

he is talking back to you or disobey you. Be stubbern. 

When he is with his father try to rest so that you can be calm 

and have a lot of patience when he returns to you. 

Your son feels safe with you.  

He know that you are there for him.  

That is why he talk back and disobey you and no one else. 

My children do the same thing to me, but not to anyone else. 

In public they are well behaved. Try not to give in to him when 

he is talking back to you or disobey you. Be stubbern. 

When he is with his father try to rest so that you can be calm 

and have a lot of patience when he returns to you. 

I am a stay at home, part time work at home, mom of a 6 year old boy.  My husband and I have tried to give him a purposeful and wonderful life.  Lately, he has begun telling me that "his feelings" tell him that he does not love me.  He says that he sees tall, pretty women with blonde hair and sometimes wishes they were his mother. When I try to ignore the comments he says it more. When I tell him how hurtful it is to say those things to me he laughs.  He is otherwise a very well behaved, kind and intelligent boy.  His Dad wants to punish him for these comments, but I want to know where they are coming from.  Any thoughts?