Topic : 07/07 The Final Ultimatum

If this "thing" called a "Dad" (i'll refer to him as "Dud"), wasn't pouring his negative disposition onto his new wife and family, she would feel more stable and would probably be a better stepmom. I looked into Dud's eyes and couldn't see a spark of compassion for any of them. Dud acts like his daughter is an animal he can just deal with temporarily and I give some credit to the stepmom for asking for help, he certainly don't give her any, let alone his daughter. So that's why she grew to have the attitude she has toward Ambreah, because he has it. Obviously, a 6 yr.old child who is violent is getting it from somewhere. They both acted like they were hiding more and seeing Dud playing with Ambreah looked like it was for show. 

I just wonder what the other girls go through and I hope that this don't get to the point where anyone goes to jail and they go to foster care, which is way worse. It feels awful when a guy don't take responsibility and you are forced to be more than you are capable of being. And I'm sure Ambreah deserves better from everyone; why are these other people offering to care for Ambreah? If they cared, they would refuse and agree to help only if her Dud moved in also, so that they could see what the problem is, or are they the problem? Who knows what this child is being exposed to? That's the problem.  

I think that Ed and Barb never were good people to begin with and when Ambreah came to live with them, they took all of their problems out on her and she became what they called her to be, instead of being in a safe, loving environment. Two people got married that  shouldn't have and they both resent having Ambreah to remind them of their shortcomings as human beings. It's a shame that Ed ignores life and Barb exploits it with her belligerence. Barb was undoubtedly brought up wrong and Ed is no better.

    This is absolutely atrocious.  Yes,  Barbara, you hate this child.  Yes, you are being honest about it.  And yes, to treat a child this way  makes you a hurtful, awful person.  This is a child.  Throwing up in the car?  Car sick.  Anxiety.  She probably does hate you.  Children are quite astute.  You had an affair with her father.  He wasn't free and clear, and this is his situation.  Don't like it?  Move on.  You are like a child who wants what she wants with no impulse control, and are pitching bigger tantrums than that 6 year old ever could.  Get therapy, Lady.  Admitting you have the problem is only the first step.  Now do something about it.

Ed.  You are at this time, a terrible father.  How dare you?  You chose to leave your family.  Your child has now been abandoned by everyone who has a responsibility to love her.  She fortunately has landed in a safe place for now.  People who have no responsibility have chosen to step up and love your child.  The brats here are you two.  How unimaginably selfish can someone get.  How could you love someone so hateful and selfish that she would purposely hurt a child, for the pleasure she gets from venting her anger and spite?  Your child.  There is no excuse good enough for the behaviour you are exibiting.   The damage you have already done to this child warrants a forfieture of your parental rights, in my  opinion.
 Even when this is pointed out to you, you still don't say "I have a responsibility here.  I choose my daughter.  You are an adult.  See ya!" 

Anyone, and I mean anyone who ever even spoke about my children this way  would find themselves out of my life so quickly their heads would spin.  Hitting them?  Well, charges would have been filed and everyone in the world would know about it, from your boss to the minister, to the people on the street.  You see, I love my children more than myself.  I will do whatever I can to keep them safe and whole, emotionally, physically, mentally, etc.  When they are old enough, they will do it themselves, but they will know how.  I will also do it for any other child I see.  These children are our tomorrow, and if we don't like the future, we have only ourselves to blame.

 How can anyone in their right mind hate a six year old child?!  This woman deserves to lose all her children.  What a insecure woman to be so jealous of a 6 year old that she has to treat her this way and thinks about taking her life.  I really hope she never has to go back to them they don't deserve to be parents.  We need to keep this poor child in our prayers.

I can't believe that barbara could say such things about an innocent little girl. What kind of a person is she. I have a stepmom and she sure doesn't talk about me like that. Barbara needs to be given a swift kick in the you know what.

Growing up, I had a step mom like that, who said hateful things to me and mistreated & abused me.  It was all because of her jealousy of my dad's past w/ my mother... I never knew my mother, either.  

 

When I was 16, I was sent to live with my grandparents and it was a COMPLETE blessing. I finally got real love from them...something I had lacked my whole life in my dad's house.  

 

I became a Christian, and by God's grace, I have forgiven my step mother...to this day, she still makes odd comments to my dad (that he tells me) about how she's happy I'm gone, and she also acts weird around my 16 month old son when we have had visits (which are very few)...but I know that her problem is within herself and really has nothing to do with me.  

 

I hope that this dad will wise up and get rid of this woman.  Your first duty comes to your daughter because she is an innocent child....  

We all make mistakes, we all yell or are abusive at times to an extent, whether we want to admit it or not. I almost made the mistake you did- I started being with someone with my 3 kids. At first he was interested in all of us until it became a monotony of his needs 24/7 being met and him being lethargic and making excuses for everything. I'm glad I woke up and left while I still could. My daughter is 8 and she wrote in her journal that she was sad I wasn't there for her. It got to the point that he yelled most of the time, yet he didn't want to be a disciplinarian. These men act as if they want to be leaders, but they don't .My advice for Barb and Ed is that they need a big time out and both of them are no good for anyone!!

The thought that anyone could feel any sense of sympathy for this couple sickens me.  I speak on this topic from many years of personal experience.    

  

My mother walked out when I was 10 and never returned.  My father remarried when I was 13.  In the beginning I was so thrilled at the thought of having a mother.  I  wanted him to marry her and for us to live as a family.  Unfortunately, it did not turn out the way that I had hoped.  After surviving 5 years of mental and physical abuse from my step mother I left 3 days after I graduated from high school and have never returned.  I left with the support and help of my step mother's biological children, as they all knew how bad the situation was at home.  It says a great deal when the step mother's own adult children were trying to protect me and my father was not. I know that the hardest thing for me to deal with was the fact that my own father allowed it to happen.  I am now 36 years old and I still deal with the loss of both of my parents.  To this day he still buries his head in  the sand and acts like everything is normal.  

  

I don't care what behavor this child is showing.  She is a 6 yr old little girl who is now esentially alone in this world.  She has to be terrified and certainly still in shock over the loss of her mother.  How on earth could any child NOT act out after being in this situation.   This woman needs to be reported immedately to CPS, for the bruises she left on this little girl.  The father needs to also be reported if he allows Sheila anywhere near this child. 

I don't think this has anything to do with the child.  Barbara had an affair with a married man and she is feeling guilt and anger at having to face up to that fact in her relationship with the child of the marriage.  This is just another of the vast majority of relationships that fail because they started out in adultery. 

I agree with you I have been with my partner for 10 years we have an 8 year old but my children from a prevois have grown with her as parent, just recently my 11 year old soon to be12 in a month gone to her dads with her new stepmom my daughter who has only been there a month if she has one problem she"ll tell me if she caused it or not caused she said she wants her dad to her self but I tell her give it time you will ok my child just wants her dad, theres no bad talking or the things you where saying about this woman, just typical stepdaughter, stepmother stuff. I haven"t seen the show yet, I couldn"t imagine not having either parent to back me or say your wrong lets fix it. And choose someone who said they wanted to kill my child.  

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