Topic : 07/07 The Final Ultimatum

Dr. Phil says he doesn't believe in declaring ultimatums.    

Each person in the relationship has to decide for themselves what is and isn't acceptable. THen you have to be willing to do what you need to do if negotiation doesn't produce a result where each person can feel like they got something they need or want.    

One person in the relationship should not be the winner at the expense of their partner feeling like a loser.  You are supposed to be on the same team.    

I have known some wonderful step parents. The ones who see loving and nurturing the other person’s child as a means of loving their spouse. Unfortunately I can show you many more examples of those who have carelessly done it wrong.   

I could hear a little of Bobby Chitwood singing and I also thought he sounded good!  I Googled his name and his Webpage would not load......................bobbychitwood.com     You need to get that fixed, buddy!     

And, Danyel~  Be proud!  You're beautiful, he's handsome, and you both look 'in love'.    Blow off the jealousy!  Fight it with everything you have, and hang on for a ride to the top with your husband!!  

Dear Dr. Phil, 

It was uplifting to see a potentially high profile couple on your show to share problems occurring in their marriage, that are really so common in so many marriages.  Couples just don't generally have a forum to discuss such feelings and if they do, they are seen as failures. 

You are so right, marriages take priority and they take work.  After being married 13 years, there are so many stages a marriage and family go through...some of these stages can be challenging. 

As they say, love is a choice, not an emotion.  When we start acting and behaving like we love our spouse, it is amazing what develops within a relationship that is facing challenges.  When we put the same amount of effort into our "old" relationship, that we may put into "getting" into a new one, it is amazing what can happen.  We can take the shallow way out and get into a new relationship with feelings of the feelings of initial ecstacy that will wear off, or we can go for something deeper, more intimate in nature that will carry into the elderly days of our lives...with a great feeling of love, satisfaction and intimacy.  We will grow individually as well as grow as a couple should we make the effort.  A person can't provide happiness for us, only we can provide our own happiness...be the spouse you would like to have... 

Good job, would really like to keep tabs on this couple...in the limelight, so that they can give hope to so many other marriages out there. 

Here's my take....he' s complaining, that the woman gets the final decision, and it's not fair...so, when men are able to get pregnant, they THEY can make the final decision, until then, he needs to keep it zipped up!  

I was married to a man with a son who was asked by his mother to cause so much trouble that my husband and I would break up. Eventually, on top of other things, it happened.  

On the other hand, my new husband is a wonderful step-father to my son, he treats him as if he were his own. My son's father hasn't bothered to call or see him in almost 3 years now.   

As soon as he becomes famous his "options" will expand and he'll "trade up" to somebody who he thinks is better. Or a famous gal singer he's always liked. It never fails. It won't be long before Bo Bice has a new famous honey on his arm and his wife, Caroline, has gone bye bye.  

I'd bet my house on it. Sorry, but that's just the reality of fame. Be careful for what you wish for, it comes with a price. His fame will most likely be at the expense of his family.