Topic : 08/03 Teen Wake-Up Calls

There is so much in life that hurts and people who are hurt, and that pain has to become a motivation for something better. You can't lay down and die, you have to become proactive and work on a positive solution and take it one moment at a time. "Passing through it " is how it should be viewed, not going through it. And sometimes you just have to lay it down and refocus on other things to make it. You have to create a balance that uplifts your life and starts to lift up people around you. It's always hard- if it's easy, you ain't doing enough. It takes massive amounts of love, time and energy, but if you save yourself first, only then will you be able to save others. 

You are opening this by saying that it makes you sick when people blame things on their parents, but then you are closing it with "that is why we don't have a relationship now because she pushed too hard".  So... point me in the right direction here.    

I agree with you that the choices were yours to make.  Teens rebel, but there are things that parents do or say in front of their children that may have a psychological affect on them.  I am only 20 years old, but what  I have learned and am trying to work through are the things that were affecting me as a teen.  I'm not BLAMING my parents, but I do talk to them about the things that I think affected me.  As a teen your brain is just not fully developed and not able to take some things.    

I agree with the earlier comment.  Where does an 18 year old get 400 hours logged in at tanning beds.  Mom said, she does it behind my back!  How?  In my state, the parent has to sign a release waiver for the teen to tan. My teens can't tan for 400 hours behind my back!  

I use to tan years ago.  At the same time, a coworker of my was tanning.  I got educated and quit.  I hadn't seen her for almost 6 years.  It was in a WalMart parking lot.  I thought, oh my gosh, she is still so pretty and tan.....until I got close.  She looked like leather!!!  We are 38 years old and she looks at least 10 years older when you get within 10 feet of her.   

I bought a Magic Tan for my clothing store last year.  I like being tan too, but the end result is no worth it.  I have an 18 year old customer.  She was diagnosed with skin cancer at the age of 15!  I wish Dr. Phil could have had her on the show.  Maybe his young guest would have listened to a peer who almost lost her life.  She started tanning at 14 too!   

I'm amazed at how many of my customers have had skin cancers or scares from it.  People need to wake up.  Tanning is not safe!!  Why do you think you have to sign a release form in order to tan!  UV free tanning sprays and lotions are the way to go!  All the bronze without the cancer and wrinkles!   

Parents - wake up! Don't sign the forms for your teens.  You will regret it later.  If they aren't smart enough to know the dangers, you are! That's your job!   

Being fifteen myself, the very idea of drinking or sleeping with older men shocks me. I have no idea what alcochol tastes like and haven't had a boyfriend since 3rd grade (and shall not until I'm eighteen.) 

The girl who is having sex with older men probably lacks a father figure or has severe issues with her father. I don't have a father in my life and enjoy it when older men give me attention (never in a romantic way, I'm talking about the leaders in my youth group.) Unfortunately, these men are nto giving her the fatherly love she longs for because they're just abusing her needs. 

This girl was 18 years old and said she had been tanning since she was 14.  Do the math 400 hours over 4 years is 100 hours per years.  She also stated that she used an accelerator when she tanned.  I recoginized her lotion and it is made by Designer Skin.  They are a member of the ITA (indoor tanning association) and a supporter of the International Smart Tan Network.     

The average tanner doesn't tan every day...infact they only tan a couple times a week to keep the sunkissed glow.  If her salon is a crediable one  they have talked to her about using a water based (not mineral oil) moisturizer daily at home.  Funny Dr Phil didn't touch on this!     

The following bits of information are found at my tanning salon's web site  ... www.Mimistanningshak.com   

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Why tan in a salon?   

Today, all sun-beds and tanning booths used in salons are regulated by the F.D.A as Class II Medical Devices. This means you only get a standardized amount of UV exposure with a mixture of both UVB and UVA rays designed to minimize burning.

The controlled environment and the ability to time your UV exposure to the minute makes burning less likely with a tanning bed than with outdoor sun exposure.   

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What are the positive effects of UV light?   

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Oh NO! Don't Tan Dry!
   

When you tan without lotion your skin dehydrates, starts to look older, wrinkled, and damaged. You may not see the results right away, but aging and damaged skin is NOT the result you want out of your tan!  Why chance it!    

Using a lotion while tanning in a salon is equally important as when tanning outdoors, but operates on a different premise. While tanning delivers the highly desirable color and relaxing benefits that tanners seek, it can be very drying to the skin.

Moist skin tans best! But you have to be careful what moisturizers you use .Throughout the tanning process, it is very important to use an accelerator or intensifying lotion that is specifically formulated for indoor tanning.  To replenish the skin with moisture and nutrients after tanning use a hydrating and skin-repairing moisturizing lotion formulated with ingredients essential for proper skin care and to help achieve a healthier-looking, longer-lasting tan. Indoor tanners should diligently and carefully apply these lotions both before AND after tanning.   

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Ever wonder why here at Mimi's we say, "No! You can't use that product here?"   

MINERAL OIL CAUSES CRACKING OF OUR BED ACRYLICS   

If mineral oil is bad for our beds........ IMAGINE WHAT IT IS DOING TO YOUR SKIN!   

Bluntly stated: mineral oil and petroleum is bad for skin. (Baby oil is PURE mineral oil.)   

These products are known for their bleaching ability.  Ever wonder why gasoline is often used to remove paint?  Ever wonder why artists use mineral oil on their brushes?  Ever wonder why mineral oil is often used to clean tools?  It's because it whitens and releases grease.  It strips your tan and whitens your skin.   

Mineral oil causes your skin to suffer increased photo-aging effects when exposed to sunlight.  (Plus you will burn faster when using petroleum products...and a burn is not a tan),  Mineral oil isn't absorbed into your skin because the molecules are too large.  They sit on top of your skin, clogging your pores, not allowing your skin to absorb water (moisture), and it magnifies light.   

Why do you think tanning lotions and good moisturizers are made with natural oils from food and plants instead of mineral oil from petroleum?   

For example: take a cracker and put it in baby oil.  What you will see is the cracker remains unchanged, it does not get soggy, but in water it falls apart.  Then take a prune or raisin and put it in mineral oil, and you will see that they remain unchanged, but, if you put them in water, they will absorb the water and plump up.   

Mineral oil is man made from crude oil...you know, the same stuff they make gasoline from.  Mineral oil is a byproduct from manufacturing when they make gasoline.  Why would you want to use it on your skin?   

It is CHEAPER for manufacturers to use these byproducts as a filler.  98% of all cosmetics use mineral oil, including your eye shadow, blush, lipstick, shaving cream and your everyday moisturizer and lotion you use at home.  It is also used in most SPF sunscreen.  These products increase the photo-aging of the skin...and we wonder why we keep looking older, why our skin continues to dry out, even with all the products we use?   

Your skin wants water and other natural moisturizers - not petroleum products!   

CHECK OUT THSES WEBSITES BEFORE YOU MAKE A RASH JUDGEMENT ON THE TANNING INDUSTRY TODAY!  (YES, YOU TOO DR. PHIL)   

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 I am sorry but I think that a parent who thinks they have the perfect child is setting themselves and their child up for disaster!!! After all they are human and none of us are perfect. I think that alot of what happens in a teens life is due to peer pressure and not having the tools to deal it and as the parents of these teens it is our jobs to help them find ways to deal with these things. I am a true believer in not being your childs friend. I also think that the supervision that a teen gets doesn't mean that you have to hover over them 24/7. There are alot of ways to keep up with what they are doing. Talk to them, you would be very surprised at what they really want you to know if they were given the chance.  If a teen feels like you are really listening to them and you are making them  feel validated and not judged they would probably be more likely to open up before the problem becomes to out of control. There are also alot of things to keep these kids busy so there isn't time for laying in tanning beds, drinking, or having sex. Get them involved in things like sports, or charity work. These are things that give them an outlet and make them feel good about themselves. Get involved with them. This doesn't mean that they are never going to have teenage problems but it will give them other things to occupy their time and they won't be as likely to spiral out of control.    

I know that raising teen girls is hard because I have two in their teens and one on the way and it is very hard to stay ahead of the game with them but you just have to be willing to let them be the first and most important priority in your life. They are the future of this world!!!!!!!!!!!!!