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Created on : Friday, April 21, 2006, 10:17:02 am

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(Original Air Date: 04/25/06) How do you get through to rebellious teens who think they are invincible? Dr. Phil has advice for parents terrified that their kids are headed down a destructive path. Shelly says that her 15-year-old daughter, Allie, was the perfect child before partying and drinking took over her life. Allie has been cited several times for public intoxication, and also has been caught stealing prescription drugs. Shelly fears her daughter won't make it to her 18th birthday. Dr. Phil introduces Allie to someone he thinks will leave a lasting impression. Then, Kim is scared to death because her 16-year-old daughter, Briana, has sex with older men and doesn't use condoms. Briana was even caught having sex with a 23-year-old in the backseat of his car! Dr. Phil gives Briana a wake-up call she'll never forget. And, a teen who has spent over 400 hours in tanning beds says she’s unconcerned about the health risks. Share your thoughts, join the discussion?

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flthomcat

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August 3, 2006, 6:15 pm PDT

Yes, where is the father???????

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This 15 year old is going on the wrong path. Sometimes there might be some kind of abuse going on in the house or no attention. She is going to jail or make a living being a protisitute. She is killing pain. Where is her father? Why couldn't her mother put her in some kind of counseling or rehab?

Did you notice there were NO DADS in any of this????

And for those of you who think divorce is fine and kids don't suffer, WAKE UP. We are killing our kids, often by trying to be their friends instead of their protectors.

What a sad, crazy society we have these days. Depressed, unhappy, unhealthy kids with parents who don't have a clue or simply don't want to upset their child by saying NO.

We are a PATHETIC society who only gives lip service to loving children!!!

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August 3, 2006, 6:20 pm PDT

Srong Christian familes DO do better!

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That is so not true. My daughter grew up in a Christian Home with Christian values. We as parents really don't raise our children to be jerks, they choose the path they walk on. They are taught right from wrong in most cases and they actually do know right from wrong. My daughter has not suffered any tragic event or loss in her life, she simply got hooked up with the wrong people. She is very intelligent and knows how to manipulate anyone she comes in contact with. I knew she was doing drugs for a long time and was taking her everywhere possible to find help for her. Do you know that her dr. brought me in and told me that I was crazy and that she knew where she was going and had a great head on her shoulders with goals and aspirations. About 6-months later when she was really sick and we finally proved that it was drugs I called her back and told her not to be fooled so easily by these kids. So really you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Our kids do need to be watched and do need to have their things taken away from them to make them hit their bottom faster, and making them stick with some program and not believe they are recovered before they are that is my mistake. But lack of Christianity is not, once your children reach a certain age they actually begin to form their own beliefs and we can't change their minds, they have to find Christ on their own then.

Yes, even good kids can and will try drugs and some of them will get hooked.

BUT THE POSTER WAS CORRECT. For the most part, those kids raised in strong nuclear families with good Christian values and involved parents stand a much better chance of not turning to drugs, alcohol, teenage sex, etc.

Your daughter was unfortunate, but the stats show that having an involved, Christian family with strong values is the best preparation for life.

Just look at the public schools and the kids who are outperforming others...they're usually the ones from those good, strong families. There is no room for political correctness in this argument....for the most part, strong families raise strong, healthy kids (it's just not foolproof, as was the case with yours).

Since divorce became so popular, broken families have been putting out lots of "broken kids." It's sad.

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August 3, 2006, 7:21 pm PDT

08/03 Teen Wake-Up Calls

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I've taught in both public schools and Catholic schools and I can tell you that the problems of Catholic school kids are FAR less than the problems of the general population. Why? Well, Catholics have the lowest divorce rates of ALL other groups (yes, including atheists, agnostics, etc). The divorce rate for Catholics is just 20% (still too high) while it is 57% nationally. There are few discipline problems in Catholic schools because disruptions, etc, are not tolerated; the schools can kick out anyone they see fit (public schools have to keep just about everyone).

Individuals with drug problems ARE everywhere, but you will see far more of them in the public schools...why? Because the schools must accept everyone and because there are far more kids from broken, lousy homes in the public schools than in ANY private schools nationally.

You are blowing smoke in your post about drugs, although you are 100% correct...there are no perfect kids, regardless of religion or lack thereof:)

The catholic high school in our town has a horrible problem with drugs, they just keep it quieter and lead us all to believe their students are little angels. I was a substitute teacher in our public school district for years and my friend was a substitute at the catholic high school. We would compare stories and both agreed that the catholic school had a much bigger problem with drugs, it was just covered up better.

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August 3, 2006, 7:41 pm PDT

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Yes, even good kids can and will try drugs and some of them will get hooked.

Your daughter was unfortunate, but the stats show that having an involved, Christian family with strong values is the best preparation for life.

Since divorce became so popular, broken families have been putting out lots of "broken kids." It's sad.

Divorce statistics for Christian families are about the same as the national average. I am a Christian, but Christians do not have a choke hold on values or good parenting. Jewish children, for example, do quite well also. I have also seen phenomenal Muslim and Buddhist families. Strong families are definitely key, but you are going to have to back up your claim that Christian families give the best preparation.

I am a former educator, (I believe near where you are), and the SCARIEST parents were the ones who believed their Christian status made them bulletproof from the drugs, sex, etc. I could not believe how many kids from very religious family were quite easily pulling the wool over their parents eyes because their parents simply refused to see what was blatantly obvious.

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August 3, 2006, 7:43 pm PDT

Been there, done that

I am the mother of a 22 year old son and a 21 year old daugther. I was a stay at home mother for the most part while they were growing up, but did substitute teach in our district while my kids were in high school and was always on committees, active in their activities, you name it. However, there were a lot of things going on that I didn't know about until too late and went through a lot of heartache with both of my kids, especially my daughter, with drinking, smoking, etc. If I could offer any suggestions to parents with young adults, it would be these: even the best kids are good liars and just because they tell you that a parent is going to be around at their friend's house, that doesn't mean there will be a parent present and, even if there is, it doesn't mean that parent is a good influence. I found out years later that my daughter's friends' parents were buying them alcohol and drinking with them! You trust that your child goes to a friend's home and that the adults there act like adults, but do not count on that. Also, if your child has a cell phone and tells you he/she is somewhere and your gut is telling you something different, have them call you from the land line at that home. I caught my daughter in several lies that way. I'm sick to death of people saying that parents need to be in better control of their kids. My husband and I were extremely involved in our kids' lives and even we had our share of trouble. In fact, we always wondered why our kids wanted to be at someone else's home and not bring their friends here and it was because we were present and did keep an eye on them. I lost a lot of sleep over the years because I couldn't go to bed until all the kids were gone if they did come here and because I didn't go to bed until my kids were home in their beds at curfew time. Thanks for letting me vent. Oh, and if you're against smoking like I ADAMANTLY am, don't believe your kids when they say that they reek of smoke because they were around others who were smoking. A very large number of kids smoke these days, even athletes. Hell, the gas station down the road from us was selling it to kids under 18. I came unglued when I found that out and you can bet I acted on that one. Do not trust other adults to do the right thing!!!

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August 3, 2006, 7:53 pm PDT

Tanning

Looking tan is not what is making her feel good---it is like a high that is being obtained from the proceedure. By having a chemical tan she will not get that high. Many times there is an eating disorder connected to excessive tanning. This may not the case ---but there is a distortion in a self image.

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August 3, 2006, 9:08 pm PDT

TANNING TEENS WRINKLED PRUNES

WORKING FOR A DERM, I WISH I COULD SHOW TEENS WHAT HAPPENS TO SKIN AS IT AGES. EVERY DAY, I CAN TELL THE ONES WHO HAVE HAD A LIFETIME OF TANS VS. THE ONES WHO HAD NO TIME TO SIT AND BROWN. THE SKIN LOSES IT ELASTICITY AND STARTS TO SAG. SPOTS, BOTH WHITE AND BROWN BECOME PART OF YOUR COMPLEXION. IT SURE DOESN'T LOOK PRETTY. THINK OF THIS. HAVE YOU EVER SEEN AN OLD TANNED WOMAN. SHE LOOKS LIKE A VERY WORN SHOE, WITH DEEP CRAGS AND THICK SKIN. LOOK REAL CLOSE AT THE LEGS AND NOTICE HOW THE SKIN OF THE THIGHS HANGS. THAT IS NOT JUST THE AGING PROCESS. IT IS YEARS OF TANNING THAT LEAVES THE SKIN LOOKING LIKE LEATHER. SO YOUR CHOICE IS TO BE AN OLDER ADULT, WITH THE SKIN UNBLEMISHED, STILL SMOOTH. OR BE THE ONE WHOSE FACE LOOKS LIKE AN OLD, WELL WORN PIECE OF SHOE. AND LETS NOT FORGET, THE INCIDENCE OF SKIN CANCER. THOSE WILL LEAVE DEEP CREVICES AND HOLES WHEN THE SKIN HAS TO BE GOUGED OUT OF YOUR FACE TO REMOVE CANCER. IT'S NOT A PRETTY SIGHT TO SEE. SO CHOOSE, HAVE SKIN THAT LOOKS LIKE A NICE SMOOTH GRAPE OR HAVE SKIN THAT LOOKS LIKE THE UGLY PRUNE. GO SIT IN A DERMATOLOGIST OFFICE. IT IS QUITE AN AWAKENING. WORSE, COME SIT NEXT TO ME WHEN I HAVE TO REFER SOMEONE TO AN ONCOLOGIST FOR MELONOMA. IT BREAKS MY HEART.

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August 3, 2006, 9:20 pm PDT

08/03 Teen Wake-Up Calls

You know I get real sick of people always blaming the parents of these kids. First let me say that I am a 34 year old single mother of an 18 year old daughter. I can tell you from experience that my parents were good loving people that didn't raise me to have sex, drink and do drugs. That was ALL on me. Frankly they had no reason to even suspect I was doing any of these things, I did okay in school had decent friends that my parents knew and never got into any trouble (meaning I never got caught). Kids (all people for that matter) are going to do what they want to do. I raised a good daughter, she is by no means perfect, but she is an average kid. Just dont be so quick to judge parents, it may come back to bite you on the ass.

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August 3, 2006, 9:48 pm PDT

You obviously haven't been there

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go get your child do not let him stay and party what is wrong with you he is only 17!!!! his next stiop will be prison. if ya love him stop it before it's too late

Great idea if it worked. Problem is, we can't find him. He and his friends are good at hiding where they are. We tried everything we could to locate him. We have tried locking him in at night! Doesn't work. We have raised 5 older sons without these kinds of challenges (and are a happily married-for-36-years Christian middle class couple). I haven't "given up" (don't believe he's a lost cause or that it's too late), but I've had to stop obsessing about how to find him and "stop him." That's not healthy for me!

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August 3, 2006, 9:50 pm PDT

Dr. Phil has anyone discussed with

I watched the program this afternoon about the Teen Wake-up Calls and the one that bothered me the most was Brianna. Dr. Phil is pretty much right on the money but I honestly felt that this time he forgot a few things. I don't know if you or her mother is going to get her to stop having sex but has anyone talked to her about birth control? Besides getting AIDS and HIV has anyone talked to her about getting HPV? Has she even seen a ob/gyn????? With her sexual behavior she is a perfect candidate for HPV, genital warts, and most of all, cervical cancer. Has anyone bothered to explain to her the dangers of cervical cancer be it pre-cancerous or the actual cancer stage? Dr. Phil, I am sorry but you missed a few open spots there that are absolutely necessary. You may have talked to her about them after the show but all I saw was what was on the television set. Did I miss something on your show?

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