Topic : 07/18 Dr. Phil's Mooch Squad

I can tell you are a very loving person, but you have to stand your ground, as I am learning to do. It's hard because you care. If you find yourself unable to say no to him then I would go ahead and change the phone number. Then if he really wants something from you he'll have to come to you in person, and that's when you tell him he's on his own from now on. You tried and did your best, now he has to learn to stop blaming and be responsible for himself. Good luck and keep us posted....

When I first met my wife she had just moved into to her new home. Just about a month later her son who was 24 at the time just got out of the Navy after 4 years and decided without asking to move back in with mommy. I moved in with her as a tenate and paid rent for my room and took care of some of the bills. After a year we got married. A few months after that I went on a remote tour for a year to Korea . When I got back her son was still there, that's when I got tired of him being there all the time watching TV on the couch when I got home from work. I started out letting her know I would not pay more than 2 thirds of anything because I was not going to support her son. I then got a little cold hearted and told her if he was not gone by the time he was 30, I would be. He left at 28 and moved to Texas, I thought that was it. I was wrong. Things went fine for about 7 years and he was living on his own mostly. We were doing pretty good finacially and we decided to by a second home and let him move into it and pay rent planning for him to eventually buy it from us for the equity. Things seemed to be going ok he moved in got a job but paid no rent. She started to press the issue and about that time he got hurt pretty badly at work, broken leg and a 1" hole in his forearm.  For 3 months she drove over 400 miles  round trip to check on him weekly because he was  pretty limited on what he could do. He was out of work for a year, on us of course. You'd think workman's comp or maybe a settlement for his accident but that was really pretty limited and it did us no good anyway we did not see any rent for that year. We even bought him a reliable vehicle to get around in. He finally got better and got some work, we got a couple hundred dollars every so often. He finally got fairly good paying job and we asked for some more money, bam he got fired, no unemployment. He worked odd jobs after that for a while. I thought he was finally growing up at 38 years old when he got a second job doing security. We started getting 400 dollars a month, bam DUI the sherrif's depart revoked his security guard card, he lost his job and he still may lose his license which means he won't be able to get to his other job, not to mention the fines. This was his second DUI in seven years. I don't know when we will be able to retire if ever. Life goes on. 

Anybody have a daughter that can knock some since into my stepson? He needs a strong wife.