Topic : 07/18 Dr. Phil's Mooch Squad

That is sick. You're continuing to enable her. If you don't stop, she'll be out of school, dropped, or kicked, out. And, back to square one. Dr Phil's been doing shows on moochers for several years now. He did quite a few this season. I'm sure he'll do several this coming season, too. I suggest that you try to be on one of these shows. Your "story" sounds very compelling. And, I think he's the best "place to turn.

My son, who got out of the navy a year ago, and totally shut himself off from his family for that whole time, called six weeks ago in  a desperate situation. He had not worked since he got out, had spent all his savings, and was about to be evicted from his apartment. My husband and I sent him a bus ticket, put his stuff in storage, and brought him home. When he got here, he tried lying around for a while doing absolutely nothing except eating us out of house and home. The usual excuses about how much he owed and how he had no experience followed. Then the pity party.

 

I found him a job.

As a man who has been denied my parental rights by my wife there was no one who would help.  If I had taken my child the weight of the societies predjuice would have befallen me.  As it has been over 18 yrs. the chance of finding my daughter is slim to none.  I am not a rich man in fact I fall at the bottom of the income scale.  I have contacted every show that helps in this area and have been ignored. I have seen kids reunited with abusive parents so that they can yell and scream or even be reunited with parents who gave them up for adoption.  As of this moment I have never seen any show reunite a father with his child who was taken from him by his wife.  Your sexism is showing and I thought I would let you know at times I tire of it. 

For such an intelligent  man you are insensitve to the fact that women are controlling the media.  You are a puppet and I would like to see you do more male related  shows.  Pardon me for my bluntness it's that I have watched these talk shows many years and I have never seen a show that dealt with my problem unless it was the woman who had her child taken.  Stand up and take a stand for me please Dr. Phil. If you doubt my sincerity go to blogstream and read under my blog.  I am known as TruthSeeker for I seek out the reality in truth.  I have taken my time on a number of occasions, is it not about time someone returned the the same amount of effort for me?

A lot of these moochers, years after they've finished college, are still living at home without even parttime employment. Parents must set, and enforce a time limit.

I just got married to a man I have known for the last 5.5 years.  All his children are adults, he has two very successful stepsons and two daughters (21 & 27)  I have always had a great deal of respect for the man I married until today.  His behavior and attitude just makes me sick to my stomach.  I knew his grown daughters lived in his house and I knew he helped them financially occasionally, but today I found out he pays for everything!!!!!! Including giving one her very own american express card.

 

They both have jobs, one daughter makes more than I do. and I work in an accounting firm.  The other has her own little shop that makes nothing!!!! yet she goes there everyday.  She has never made a profit and has been at it for two years.  You would think she would realise it is time for a real job. 

 

Anyway, my husband bought them trucks, pays for the insurance, groceries, personal expenses, medical insurance, cell phones, home phone, internet,  utilities, etc., etc. etc.  They basically pay for nothing to support themselves.  He justifies by saying they take care of my house and personal belonging that are still at the house.  I say they live rent free in a home that can be rented out for 1500+ a month and we could store or sell his personal belongings in a storage facility if not move them to our home.

 

He says they would hate me if I made them move out and grow up.  I say make them show some respect to their father by growing and acting like adults.  I have a grown daughter, she works fulltime, has a side business to contribute to supporting her family, she owns her home, is a parent and has a partner and she is 21 years old.  She thinks his daughters are pathetic and moochers!!!  I believe in helping your child when they are down and out or occasionally stumble and fall but this is downright pathetic.......

 

My husband makes alot of money and he feels he should make everyones life easier because he was so poor in his youth.  He is generous to a fault and this is a very big fault in my book.  I asked him to draw a line in the sand and make his daughters pay for all their expenses except rent and he says no.

 

I am not sure what to do.  I love this man, but I will not live this way.  I waited 5.5 years to marry him and now it seem like it will end in divorce. I need advice bad.

ok, I need to find out if Derek has a myspace. I need to talk to him...I think he could help me.

My boyfriend's 22-year old son is a clueless mooch, and so long as it didn't affect me, I didn't care. But now my boyfriend is taking a more active role in the boy's life, and expects me to do the same. He provides food, transportation and shelter and acts like I'm supposed to be thrilled at the idea of co-parenting a grown azz man. No thank you. I have been on my own since I was a young teen and have never expected or received handouts from anyone. But this boy acts like he is entitled to everything that his father provides. He is ungrateful and lazy, and it just makes ne sick. I see it as a failure in parenting because this boy is not a functional adult. Not only that, but he is content to be treated like a child, so long as he doesn't have to venture out on his own. help!

I'm sick my mooching kids! I have a hard time saying no because of my grandchildren involved. I get angry with myself and just want to scream! My son now 35 decided to move back to our home state so we new he needed a decent car. We paid off our Durango $7000.00 bought all new tires, and gave him $2500.00 to move. Then in less than 3 months he sells the truck for $6000.00 and buys a junk car and used the rest to buy whatever. He won't work 40 hrs a week. He can't stay at a job more than 6 months. Everything is everyone else fault. I'm to the point I am going to change my phone number. Every month I end up sending money.  What is wrong with me!

 Hello
I am new at this but need some help. I have a 26 yr old son who was in a bad relationship which produced a beautiful grandson for me but son and grandson came back to live with us and has been here for over a year and has not made any progress toward getting out on his own. he has a part time job now after quitting a few good paying jobs due to what he calls frustration, depression and anger.  He has a hard time holding down a job.  He gets frustrated over trivial things at work and just quits although he knows it is not the right thing to do. and he says all he wants to do is be able to support him and his 3 yr old son and get out on his own.  He is not functioning well and I dont know what to do to help. any advice would be deeply appreciated.

I recently found out that I have a son. He is 24 yrs old. His mother is the one who contacted me, not him. He got mad when I had him do a dna test, but I had to know for sure. Another issue is that he is black and I am white. He at first told me he didn't want anything from me but just wanted someone to talk to. Soon after he starts telling me daddy I love you, daddy pay for my apartment, pay for my car, both of which he is months behind on. I see him sitting around at a friends house unemployed and doing nothing, and his mother and he expect me to pay for all his debts! Then he tells me that he has a girlfriend and she is pregnant! I do not want a deadbeat son. So I told him that I was not going to take care of him and that my parents love me but they don't take care of me. I feel like he and his mother are scamming me for money. I have made the mistake of trying to help him but now every time he contacts me it's always for money or a car pmt. I am thinking I am going to have to be mean and cut off the cell phone and cut him off all together.