Topic : Spanking: Useful or Cruel?

I have to say that I agree with spanking.  Saying that to realize there is a difference between spanking and beating.  I was spanked as a child...three spanks or less gets the point across.  I was also beaten as a child.  My father beat me with a paddle on the behind until I peed in the floor.  I was 12.  He had this wooden paddle that he bought in Virginia I think.  I had this saying on it..."Never spank a child in the face....nature provides a better place."  Now, as a mother of 3 and step mother of one, I chose light spanking when they were little...I am not perfect I lost my temper and smacked once on one child after age 7 or so and it scared me.  But with therapy and love, I learned to reason with myself, back off, count to 10, look at the problem from their point of view and remind them that each negative behavior results in  a negative result.  But good behavior results in great results. Then I started taking priviledges away.  And that resulted in a better relationship with the children in the long run.  They are now 26, 22, 19, and 18.  I did the best I could as a parent.  Now it is up to them to be adults and make the best of their lives.   For I truly believe there are no bad children in this world, just bad behavior,  and behavior...with time...can be changed with love and patience.

Thanks for listening.

Maggie

  since when has spankin kids bocome an abuse , we were litte kids and we got spanked so y does it have 2 be any diffirent 4 the new generation

y do they have 2 have bad attitudes and bad manners bcz there mommy  always gets them any thing they want

as a matter of fact its nice  know that there are ppl who still know how 2 teach there kids good manners and that doesnt mean spankin them all the time

it means only when needed.......

thanks

I believe spanking works and I believe talking with a child works also.  I think it depends on the situation.  I was disciplined with both of these methods and have turned out to be a productive adult.

I have a friend who is quite possibly the most loving and patient person with children I have ever met she works with pre-school age children and is a grandma and she shared with me that discipline for children is like a toolbox,there are so many tools to choose from (time outs,resriction,loss of priveledges etc.)and that spanking should always be the last tool taken out of the box.

 This bit of wisdom has truly helped me with my parenting