As I watch this show, and think about my own childhood, I have observed 2 things: 1) these adults are not qualified to raise children, making them unfit, and 2) they love being this way since obviously they don';t read one of the many books out there on childrearing nor go to the Internet.
What we have in such parents, are undereducated, ignorant, married due to pressure from family and friends ( that is what women do since they shouldnt be living alone .....), and of course having kids because they have been led to believe, the women especially, that their job is to be a parent. They would never consider that maybe having children is something they really don't want to do. There are such women out there. What is worse is these adults keep breeding.... (nope just can;t not have 1 or 2 kids, cause they dont drive me crazy enough, I 'll have 5!!!!). These are lousy parents, who have poor cognitive skills ( that means thinking, duh...)and that makes them pathetic adults. Instead of going to mental health and asking for help, they think they just got it handled. Til someone gets hurt or dies....
As for that teacher who thinks there is nothing wrong with paddling. Look at her culture. She is the typical "I am a powerful black woman", and I have no doubt her students live in fear. Has the school considered a parent-teacher day where rather then discuss a specific child, they need to be teaching these adults parenting skills. ( oh no that would mean parents have to take time off from work to actually show concern for their kids wellbeing). I find it pathetic. As a former Catholic school student, we were disciplined other ways - never physical abuse. That was saved for the nuns of my parents generations. Nuns, however, had the good sense to understand what is discipline and what is abuse. A slap on the knuckles with a ruler said it all.
There are way too many adults who cop out, become parents, when in reality they need to adopt an animal and lavish affection in that way . They could always volunteer to work with kids, but to hate your kids and claim you love them, and physically harm them and think they won;t remember, simply says we have current generations of unfit parents and up and coming generations of abusive parents.
No one was wound tighter at times then my dad; however we were brought up on what I lke to think of, for that time, a healthy mix of fear and respect. We feared enough to to not incurr his or my mother's wrath and had to respect them when we were actually punished. I was spanked once when i was about 8 for stepping in cement that my friends and I were playing around. The spanking I don't remember, but I do remember, my mother, Brooklyn Irish born and bred, purposely seating me next to my father at the dinner table that night. Talk about remembering impact and outcome. I think the scariest time was when I had pushed my mom too far, ( I was 13); she turned on her heel toward me, raised her fist and backed me into the corner. As I coward, she reminded me " you little SOB, just wait til your faither gets home and because you made me call you an SOB you will also have to deal with God. Lets just say I picked and chose my battles. ( and vowed never to back myself into a corner....)
