Topic : Things That Worked For Us

 We used to make our kids write sentences when they got into trouble. But it didn't seem to help just alot of  "you are going to write them" and then them saying " no I am not". We have decided that we are going to take things away from them. The computer, xbox, game cube, TV and mostly the phone. It has seem to help a little, but like every parent knows not anything works 100%. 

Have a nice day 

I'm new to this board so bear with me.  I have a gson that is 8 yrs. old.  He thinks he should be able to do what ever he wants. He is very smart but this year in school he can't seem to focus.  He fights with his mom and dad everyday and night.  They have taken away all of his things in his room except his bed ,dresser, desk. He is told he will have to be good and earn things back.  It has been two mths and he doesn't even care.  He back talks his mother and they will fight most of the night.  My poor  daughter is at her witts end.  THe doctor just tells her to put him in time out and spank him when he gets out of his chair.  When he is with other people including myself I don't have alot of the same issues.  I do get on him and make sure he does what he is told but that doesn;t always work either.  He can be a great boy when he wants to.  But everyday he creates the mood for the whole family for the whole day and night.  My little gson whom is 6 doesn't have any of his bothers issues.  Does anyone have any suggestions.  My daughter has tried them all.   

Frustrated and needing advice. 

My 10 year old grandson lies about most things. He's a sweet heart but how does my daught get him not to lie? 

Worried nana 

she has some good ideas on your problem. Watch supper nanny . I saw a show where the parents had probems with bed times,temper, hitting ,yelling and she really has some good ideas. 

Hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

I am a single mother with 2 kids ages 9 & 10. ( No dad in the picture)My 10 yr old has been diagnosed as adhd and o.d.d. My problem is that I have tried several different meds. And nothing seems to be helping. He is very aggressive towards his sister, and has recently become aggressive towards me. Including kicking, hitting, biting, and cursing. These are not things that usually go on in my family. He has not been exposed to these things at home. And were we live there are not neighborhood kids that he is picking it up from. I have physically restrained him when he becomes physical with me or his sister until he wears himself out or calms down. I can not afford  outside counseling and the ones I have seen through his insurance change so quickly that we never seem to get anywhere with them.  I have taken him to the juvenile detention center and they gave him a tour and a police officer talked with my son. That seemed to help for a little while but now it has started again  Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do . I refuse to give up on My son!!!!!!!! 

I had the same problem with my son when he started school. I stressed and punished him for misbehavior. He knew when he got in trouble at school he was in trouble at home. Until I talked to my Dad....This is what he had to say....My son was being punished at school for misbehaviors missing recess, no stickers, no end of week privileges. Then he was coming home and getting in even more trouble....he was being punished twice for the same crime.  We don't do this to adults. so why do we do it to our children. Don't get me wrong I still talked to him about correct behavior and what he should do differently. But I quit taking away privileges at home...he had already done his time at school. I also focused more on the good days he was having..than on the bad. And he began to have more good days. 

I am new to this and am hoping to have someone tell me what I should do with my 2 sons who continue to nag and tease each other. I am out of options....I take things away...and yet it just won't stop! My 7 year old seems to just keep bugging the crap out of his 5 year old brother so much that he has been retaliating with punches and throwing things at him. This makes the older brother laugh ,and that just makes the little one even more angry. It continues over and over. Any advise? I have had it ! I just don't know what to do with them any more.