Quote From: sunshlI SEEM TO BE LOSING CONTROL OF THE MOTHER DAUGHTER RESPECT FROM MY 13 VERY SOON TO BE 14 Y/O DAUGHTER.... SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL, TALL THIN PRETTY GIRL, I DONT WANT HER TO DRESS WITH SHORT SHORTS ON OR A BELLY SHIRT, I DONT LIKE HER TO WEAR THE MAKE UP I TRY TO TELL HER SHE DOESNT NEED IT, BUT OVER TIME I HAVE SHUFFLED HER AROUND TO MANY DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES, AND I FEEL LIKE SHE IS NOW REBELLING FOR TIMES I MAY NOT HAVE BEEN THERE, OR SHE FEELS I DONT LOVE HER.... SHE IS NOW STARTING TO RAISE HER VOICE THROW TGINGS IN THE HOUSE, AND STOP OFF. HER ATTITUDE STINKS.. VERY SNOOTY SNAPPY. SHE HAS A 6 Y/O SISTER, WHO I DONT WANT TO PICK UP THESE AWFUL TRAITS. IM NOT SURE HOW TO HANDLE THIS, AS ANY STORY THERE IS MUCH MORE TO IT THAN THIS, BUT JUST TO GET A HANDLE ON THE ATTITUDE, OR THE GLARING LOOKS THAT BURN A HOLE THROUGH YOU......HELP ME START A GREAT FUTURE WITH MY CHILDREN, NOT AN EASY END.....
Ummm...please...use less caps....thank you.
Anyway, here is what I say...
Have you tried talking to her about her behavior? maybe if you explain to her why she shouldn't wear that sort of stuff at her age because it's dangerous can help. But don't be the only one talking, you gotta also listen. Maybe you can compromise, like...she could wear a light shade of pink eye shadow and nude lipstick if she gets rid of the floozy looking clothing. There are ways to be stylish and still be modest about it.
I have a very weird style, but it's my own. My Mom doesn't care as long as the shirts that would show a lot of cleavage has an undershirt on. I never wear those belly shirts because I think their stupid, and the same with the shorts. The only time I'd wear shorts is for bed! *lol* and then I really just like pajama bottoms anyway.
She may think that the rules are too strict. So, like I said. Make a compromise, and stick to it with your other kids. Trust me on this, my little sister wants to get a peircing when she's fifteen, but I didn't get mine till I was 21-22. (I got it twice). So, if she's gonna wear make up at sixteen, then your other girls will want too as well and if you tell them no when they are sixteen...than your gonna have problems.
So, stay consistent. That's the trick.
What about your own clothing choices? maybe she's learning it from you and you don't know it?
I'm not accusing you, but as she is your daughter, she watches you. I should know, I watch my own Mom.
My Mom is very stylish and I let her pick out most of my clothing. Also, getting hammy downs and not putting a lot of importance on clothing helped me to not really care if I was in style or not.
I hate most of the styles these days because they're just stupid!
