Topic : We Disagree On Punishment

Billy is my Husband son and realy is a great kid. He is 17 and  in shcool he tries really hard and makes okay grades.He's works after school and is in FFA raising pigs. Is about to make Eagle Scout for him self and the troop. And we are very happy for him. I say all this becuse he has a temper and things he smarter than everyone that still lives here at home. He has gottin to fights with his  bother his father and me his scout master .Not just veble but knock down trag out fights. Most of the time because he thinks hes right not wrong or he will start  teaseing at me or his bother and when we get the better of him he gets anger. I really think he likes it it gives him power over us. It's just makes me mad at him. I really try to not fight with him anymore and let him cool off. And if its just talk I let it go. But  the hittting I can't it just makes me madder at him and boarders on abuse.

My husband and I have talk many times on punishment for him but we have not come to any plan. My way is rock his world. Take the computor away from him cell phone his room.

Bil thinks this wont work. He is afaid that he'll go live with his sister or his mom. I say okay but he's not mine. His mom wont take him to scouts or to the agbarn every night or to to work or school even. I know because she did do it with his sister or his other bother when they live with her. And even thou his sister lives with a guy now they don't have car we take her to school and home evey day.

 I have raised 3 kids already and not on alway buy myself my oldest is 23 and my yougest is 17.

I have a great support of loving parnts to exmother in laws to a exhusband. And when they were about 15 we took important things away. they couldn't go spend the night at a friends house or tv were takin away  scout trips were cancelled ball games dates ect. Not only with me but at grandmas house at dads house also. They got mad but they learned to stop picking or hitting.

Bill just can't do this it makes it hard to live in the house with Billy. Me and my daughter have started staying out of the way going to our rooms and even leaving the house because we can't stand the fighting. And if I get in the middle of it just makes it worse.

Somethings I know about Billy is his mom left him and 2 other chilren with thier dad at the age of 4. And at the age of 10 I show up and marrie his dad. I love to be at the  baseball games I have gone on scout trips with him I have done more for him than I have for my son at times .

I just get treat like dirt from him and not knowing how to punish him is a big part of the problem we are having. have any solutions would be helpful.

Hi im new on this site, and I can really use some advice. I try to be a good christian parent and teach my 5 children Godly ways. I struggle to continue to disipline my kids on a regular basis. They range from barely 18 to 2 yrs old. My husband is 53 and i am 37. It seems as if his nerves are shot all the time and he hollars at the kids 24 - 7 and then they hollar back at him and totally disrespect him and he lets them get away with it. This is driving me crazy .  I am guilty of doing the same thing at times but not like he does its like he dosent jusy get overwhelmed he stays that way. Also hes to lazy to spank them or put them in time out , he leaves that all up to me to. He can be a great dad but he will not consider parenting classes with me and I took some classes a couple of years ago and he wont even help me inforce any thing. I feel ilke im hitting a brick wall and some time i just want to leave him or kick him out . I DONT WANT THESE KIDS TO GROW UP LIKE THIS . theres a lot more to this story but will some one please tell me what i should do? I pray every day that G od will help me to love my children and help me to disipline in love and i feel his help especially when i am calm and their all off the hook I know thats Gods handy work. Please help........

OK here it goes... I am marring a guy who is a bit older then me who has a 14 year old daughter that has been living with her dad since she was 4 years old. She is defiantly a "daddy girl". She is a good girl, doesn't get in much trouble and makes good grades in school. My trouble is, I think she gets away with tooo much! She doesn't do chores around the house unless she want to go somewhere or wants something, and then sometimes don't do them at all. She will ask her dad the last minute to go some where 5 minutes before her rides is here to pick her up. She will ask to go somewhere and dad always says yes without asking "is your room clean, dishes done, laundry, homework?" Let her go to her boyfriends everyday yes everyday. why can't the boy come her to see her? I think they spend to much time together as it is and they have been dating for over a year and a half! They are to close to be 14 and her bf 15! Don't u think?? I confronted i him about it and he tells me I'm right that he needs to change, but nothing ever changes. i don't feel its my place to discipline her now or even after we get married. Shes a Sweet girl and I love her to death, but I just don't think its healthy not to have some kind of punishment. When he does ground her (very rare) He always lets her off early, going back doing everything she wants. I think if he grounds her he needs to stick with the initial agreement.  So Please help, I'm confused on what else to say, but it really bothers me!

Deda