Topic : We Disagree On Punishment

  

There is alot of displicine  all over the world. Punishement, out of control, anger, get out on someone that  make you angry, Lots of things. I see this changes all those years from 1970 to now. 

On teleivsion there are programs Nanny 911 and  SuperNanny and Other show call Families. There are wonderfulf shows to watch. I saw one yesterday of Nanny 911 its so much alike ours. I think our kids are too late they are adult and almost on thier own.  I would understand if anyone dont have any channels to watch it or cannot afford addition program it will be nice to buy book  and read it  or go to library either website  I m there there are alots to say. I wished those programs were back in 1980s. When me and my husband he really thought this people anyone on the show was worse than us. Of course but we do have similar  problems no one s perfect.  

Discpline  conquences  is only part can deal with it. Society here today in Canada are soo easy  the children  and teens are so easy to get away with it. Thank goodness not have child at all if it was today I would deal take care proper ways.. I dont mean against the kids. I loved kids its society we are looking into  not very simple. Didnt u find that way. Put on post  tell us about it Usa  Canada  other world  lets here it how the law is how we displince everyone.. Look this there is elderly nursing home huh.. abuse!! not easy I hoped Dr Phil  can see this perhaps can help other families go through suffering.  

I think yelling as a discipline type attitude is demeaning and cruel and can be emotional abuse. Since he says that she is always watching him get ready, I am assuming they are both in the kitchen since she is suppose to be eating, maybe he needs tog et ready in another room so she can't pay attention to him or have her to eat before he gets ready.Your daughter is only 5 and still needs reminded when it comes to the concept of time, you have to be consisten and let her know that she only has so long to eat, giving her enough time of course and stick with it. I know that you said you have used the timer, but maybe go back to that and make the time a little longer but once the time goes off, eating time is over, stick to it and in time she will get the idea. My oldest who will be five soon is slow when it comes to getting ready, even with extra time but the child knows that when the clocl says a certain time we are out the door, All I have to say is , "Amy, it is time to go, get your coat on", in the process, I am getting mine on and when I open the door, she flies LOL. Don't mess around, just do it. You and hubby need to get on the same page with this, think of a different system, sounds like she should be all by her self while eating, nothing to distract her.

The man in my life feels that my son is a spoiled brat and that I am not strict enough in the discipline department.  My son is only 6 and he thinks that it is too late for him to be apart of our family.  My son does not know his father his father has only seen him once and he was 4 months old.  My dream man is every thing I want in a man but if he feels that he can not fit then we will never be married and become a family.  Is it too late to make changes in my discipline style and is it too late for my son to break some behavior issues?  I do not disagree with the man in my life I just don't know what to do to make it work for everyone.

The man in my life said "I don't want to work that hard"  I guess I just need to decide if I am going to stay in the relationship as is or break it off because there is no potential of a future.

I have a question is it right or fair for my husband to question in front of our son about why I'm punishing him in time out or if i smack his hand everytime no matter what he's always on top of why i'm punishing my son right in front of him it really p**ses me off bad but I just tell him to shut up dont question me.  I know thats not the righ response but eric is one of these people that you cannot make him see your point no matter how obvious, he's very anal about everything and honestly I some times wish i new back then what I know about him now cause I would have probably made a different choice (been 15 long years now) but anyways going off track there, I want an opinion about this cause I dont think he should question me about this especially in front of our son.   

  

Thanks 

Shannon 

I agree that things like this should not be discussed in front of children as they are smart and will eventually play one parent against the other and that will make things worse. Disagreements need to be discussed in private and a solution worked out together, parenting really works better with two parents working together, it teaches the kids that respect is very imporant and that both parents are in charge and respect one another. And it teaches them that rules and boundaries are meant to be kept, not broken which has to be done/taught as a team.

it depends on the situation.  but yes i see nothing wrong wth giving a child a spanking.  i was spanked as a child and i turned out fine.  i am not a criminla never seen a jail ceel, have two college degrees.

my husband has a daughter from a previous marriage and i have a son from a previous marriage.    whenever she disrepects e or talks to me mean and nast, he never says anything to her.  when my son disrepsects me or him and i go to correct him, my husband says i have a anger problem and need to go get it checked out.  the type of disrespect i am talking about, is my son calls me fat ass,  he calls me other names and point blank makes mean nasty jokes.  my son is only 8 and his daughter is 10..  he says i should not squlch there since of humor.  i told him calling your parents name and making mean nasty jokes on them to there face is not a sense of humor.  i was never allowed to talk to my parents nor would i want to the way his daughter and my son do.  it is getting so bad that i have considered divorcing him.  he should repect me and ask the children to stop.  what do any of you have any suggestions?