Quote From: searcherrI have never posted a message on this board but this is a subject of which I feel I have a little knowledge and experience. I have read through all the posts already on here and the show hasn't aired yet so I may have more to say after I see it but I doubt it will change my mind about much on this subject.
First and foremost I wish to say that abducting children and hiding them is "CHILD ABUSE" pure and simple. This act is almost never about safety for the children. It is "REVENGE". And should there be a safety issue there are a lot of organizations and facilities and law enforcement to help handle those problems. Although I must say that some of those places can be even more unsafe for the children.
If you have doubts that abducting and hiding children is child abuse then just for a while try to imagine you are a young child and you are suddenly taken away from everything that made up your whole life. Your bed. your playmates, cousins,aunts uncles,grandparents,pets,toys and on and on, just everything that made up your world. Then you are hurried away secretly to unknown places with unknown people, told to tell lies, maybe change your name and hair color. More than likely you are told lies about the left behind parent, maybe that they have died or did a really bad thing and are in prison or that they hate you and will kill you and mother/father. Now the abducting parent is most likely scared and stressed which of course the children feel and that makes them feel very insecure. To me, all this and maybe more ,not mentioned ,is "CHILD ABUSE".
- Now for my knowledge and experience; Ten years ago on August 31,1995 by daughter-in-law disappeared with my four beautiful, loving adorable grandchildren. Believe me,our son and my husband and I spent every penny and then some and every day looking for and doing everything imaginable to try to find them. To this day we still have not had a single word from or about them. It is like they have disappeared off the face of this earth. They are all of age now and I hope they have had counseling and are able to have happy normal lives cause I think they probably went through a lot of Hell. I know all my family has!
I understand that you personally may have been torn, but there is hope for your grandchildren. You see at the age of 8, my sister (1) I was taken by my father. We lived in a small city in Ontario near the border and were first taken upon an airplane and flown across the country to Alberta.
I remember my parents always fighting and arguing over anything and everything. One day my father had enough and when my mother left for work gathered up our things and we were gone. You see he felt like he had no other choice in the 70's no court was going to give custody to a 20 something papermill factory worker, when the mother was a stay at home full time care giver. The fighting is what I remember of my parents marriage.
WE were gone 5-6 years, moving every couple of months. But to put your heart at ease, those are some of the best years of my life....... my father didn't have much but it was the little things we did as a family of 3 that I remember. I wasn't tramatized I promised you. I really don't remember having any nightmares or longing to go back. We where on an adventure. We were so poor that we actually lived in a tent. I know to you it may sound harsh but as a 6 year kid it was great, camping out, eating hotdogs. I had my best birthday ever that year and didn't get 1 store bought gift.
Obviously we got caught, and were ordered to return back to Ontario, I promise you .... I am a well rounded, happy, helpful person who learned alot from that experience. I truely don't wish to turn back time and not make it happen. Kids have amazing minds your grandchildren I hope are in a good place now in their lives. God Bless, and remember it was probaly harder on you then them
Dr. Phil shines a light on missing children. Some are taken by strangers, but more frequently a parent is the one to snatch them -- too often with terrifying results. The search for two missing girls takes a Dr. Phil investigator inside a seldom-seen religious community where worshippers live what some call "a simpler way of life." Follow this story of child abduction by a father -- now a fugitive of the law -- who is living on the run with his two daughters, while their mother desperately tries to find them. Then, imagine not seeing your children for 10 years. Your 3-year-old is now 13, your 6-year-old now drives, and your 8-year-old is graduating high school – and you’re missing it all. John Clark is living this nightmare. Find out what happened and why his ex-wife is now wanted by the FBI. Join the discussion.
