Topic : Getting Pregnant

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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:52:55 pm
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July 19, 2006, 12:34 am PDT

HI, TO ANSWER PART OF YOUR QUESTION....

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Hi everyone, I need some input or advice on some pregnancy issues... You think there wouldnt be any fertility issues because I'am 19 and hes 21.  

My husband and I got pregnat after 4 months(of not trying) with no birth control... we had a beautiful baby boy and delivered him vaginally...and no tearing... that was a year ago, our son is now 1. My husband and I dont use any birth control because I'am allergic to any form of  Birth Control aka:fake Estrogen (Even the low dose's gave me heart palpitations) We are happy with doing the billings method (checking cervical mucus etc...)  We arnt "trying' right now, but if we got pregnant we would be totally fine with it. For me, I would love to get pregnant again.... its just odd to me, that we got pregnant so fast with out first child.. and now it just isnt happening. I have a period every month, but the periods are ALWAYS different... one month I will get a period every 33 days, then the next month I will get a period every 25 days etc... its never every 28 days. The other thing I have noticed is that I ovulate TWICE. I write down my ovulation date on my calander and it seems pretty acurate that I ovulate on that date... then about the day before I get my period I ovulate again! Very noticeable. What is going on!?!? My husband and I have sex about EVERY night of the week! We even have sex when I'm fertile..... My question is, if we have sex all the time do you think his sperm count gets low because we have sex so much? Should we try and have sex less to build up his semen? Do you think we havnt gotten pregnant because the "date" of my periods change monthly? I just dont understand how we have 1 baby together and got pregnant easy... and now its not easy?   

Any Advice?? PS- I was on Progon-B (When I got pregnant) My doc. had me on it because I had irregular periods.... do you think the Progon-B got me pregnant?? I havnt been on it since I had found out I was pregnant. We are letting nature just take its course, I'm just getting  a little frustrated... and a little worried that there might be fertility issues?
Please! Any input or advice is appreciated :)
Thanks!   

   

   

You were wanting to know if having sex as often as you do, can lower your hubby's sperm count!! 

 

Well the answer is yes!! If you are having intercourse everytime you both make love this will deplete your hubby's sperm count. It would be better to only have intercourse every few days so that there is a bit of a chance for the little sperm to build up again, but by all means that doesn't mean that you both can't make love, just do other things that turn you both on!! 

 

As to your other enquires,  I would suggest that you go and see your Doctor about them. He/she will be able to shed some more light onto things there. 

 

Take Care, Love Kelly. 

 
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July 21, 2006, 7:16 am PDT

Getting Pregnant

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ok, i am 20 years old and was on the depo provera shot for 4 years as well...i have been of it for 2 years and trying to conceive the hole time...and nothing...my periods are still irregular i am having strange pains..and recently read a lot and i mean around 355 depo provera HORROR STORIES...this is scary..YES..so i am in the same bout as u..i am so confused and don't know what to do..I honestly think there is a lot to the depo that we are not told about and that is not publicly known..i think it does cause infertility to tell u the truth considering every person i read about ended up having health problems and fertility problems..please write back thanks a lot...meg

I have heard from friends that yes it does make you infertile. i even had one friend who went to her doctor and her doctor asked if her bf and her were having intercourse to hard. and she had replied no. so her doctor took her off the shot and put her on the pill and told her that she'd be better off. the shot isn't that good for you.  i've never been on the shot. i've always been on the pill. I was on the pill for 3 years and then got off it because i didnt like the side effects and then when i moved i met my husband and about a year after we'd been dating we got pregnant. I personally think that any woman who can take the pill should, because its a lot better then the shot. But once i have my second child i will not take the pill anymore, because I'm making my hubby get snipped LOL. I'm not old enough to get my tubes tied so why not!! LOL   

 But go see different doctors they might be able to help you. and good luck!  

 
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July 24, 2006, 5:16 pm PDT

having a baby

I'm 16 years old and I have had a baby and it is very hard, I know being young could have alot to do with it but besides that point my mother in law who is 36  just had a child to and it seems to be harder for her to have a baby then me.The fact of having a baby didnt really bother me when I was pregnate but then after I had the baby it became a wake up call and so surreal. Most people would say oh well having a baby at 16 is such a trashing thing to do but to say that about all teenagers is wrong because yes most teens dont take care of their babys but I do, my sister in law who is also just 16 just had a baby 2 weeks before I did and does NOT take care of her baby and is always pushing him off on anyone she can. Now I can honestly say that it does not get easier the older you are and it does not make it any easier being older I have seen this first hand personaly. I am now on the depo and people have said it makes you gain weight which is true for some people but it did not happen to me and it makes it much easier not having to rember to take  a pill or change a patch. I would suggest. 

  

  

If you would like to talk just e-mail me or IM me on AIM. 

rebecca_mae_whitford@yahoo.com 

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July 27, 2006, 3:46 pm PDT

Getting Pregnant

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     My fiance and I have been together for 4 almost 5 years.  We have a beautiful 3 year old little girl.  Well i got pregant unexpectingly with her.  But now that we have been trying for 2 years. I just haven't got pregant yet.  It is so hard every month i get my period its horrible. I cry and cry.   I feel like all these younger girls who get pregant and have abortions and have no one there to help them, or mothers who would harm and abuse there children are able to have kids.  But me someone who wants a child more than anything else can not get pregant for the second time.  I am a great mother and I love my daughter more than anything in tha world.  Why can't the lord above let me get pregant again.
  maybe your fiance needs to get  his sperm counted. Or maybe the lord doesn't want you to have children three years apart. When the lord is ready for you to have another child you'll get pregnant,but I do understand the way you are feeling when I was 16 I got pregnant and had a miscarriage, I was so mad at everyone because the one thing that I haven't wanted for as long as I can remember was to be a mother and god took it from me but then I relized after this had all happened that there was a reason and the reason was my boyfriend at the time became very abusive and got really bad into drugs, now I think god everyday that he didn't let me keep that baby because I couldn't have raised a baby by myself and then I would have had the live with the fact that my baby's father that would have been really abusive and could have hurt my child,  and know I am 33 weeks pregnant and couldn't be happier. 
 
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August 5, 2006, 3:57 pm PDT

Just replying to your message!

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I'm 16 years old and I have had a baby and it is very hard, I know being young could have alot to do with it but besides that point my mother in law who is 36  just had a child to and it seems to be harder for her to have a baby then me.The fact of having a baby didnt really bother me when I was pregnate but then after I had the baby it became a wake up call and so surreal. Most people would say oh well having a baby at 16 is such a trashing thing to do but to say that about all teenagers is wrong because yes most teens dont take care of their babys but I do, my sister in law who is also just 16 just had a baby 2 weeks before I did and does NOT take care of her baby and is always pushing him off on anyone she can. Now I can honestly say that it does not get easier the older you are and it does not make it any easier being older I have seen this first hand personaly. I am now on the depo and people have said it makes you gain weight which is true for some people but it did not happen to me and it makes it much easier not having to rember to take  a pill or change a patch. I would suggest. 

  

  

If you would like to talk just e-mail me or IM me on AIM. 

rebecca_mae_whitford@yahoo.com 

babbyy giirrl 

Hello there! Wow, you had a baby at 16? That's a big responsiblity. I do agree with you that most people look at a 16 year old with a baby as a "Slut" but that's not the case at all. Just because you had a baby does not mean you are a Slut at all. You made a mistake and even though your baby wasn't a mistake, your decision was simply a mistake. I admire you for being so young and taking care of your baby. Did your parents accept you after you had the baby? Do you still live with them and do they help you take care of your baby? Do you regret getting pregnant as such a young age?    
 
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August 5, 2006, 4:03 pm PDT

How do I get pregnant?

 Hello everyone! This is my first post on here so I'm a bit nervous but I need some advice. It's nothing major or anything but I'm sure I'll have a lot of replies. My husband and I got married when we were 18 years old but we have been having unprotected sex  for  almost four years now and I still haven't gotten pregnant. How come I haven't gotten pregnant yet? Could there be something wrong with one of us or even both of us or is it just a matter of when we are making love? Are their certain positions and specific days we should make love in order to conceive? I'm feeling lost and confused. Please give good advice and thank you to those who do!
 
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August 20, 2006, 9:54 am PDT

Should pregnancy require a license?

I haven't watched t.v. in months, but when I did I would usually see what Dr. Phil had to say, or at least see what book he had written that week. Watching his shows about 15 year-old girls whoring it up and having porn watching parties, fat unattractive women forcing their kids into beauty contests, alcoholic/abusive parents etc, always makes me wonder: Why are these people having kids in the first place, and why are they not being stopped from reproducing? Do we really need MORE of these people? Bringing a human being into this world is a HUGE responsibility; arguably more so than driving a car or carrying a concealed weapon, both of which require a license, and rightfully so. It's dangerous enough on the roads as it is, so how would you feel driving around if people were not required to have a driver's license? Why are people not required to prove they are:

A. Able to finacially support children; and

B. Intelligent/ sane enough to raise their kid(s)?

People have their dogs "fixed," and why?

"Because it's the humane thing to do! If people didn't have their pets spayed/neutered, think of all the poor puppies and kittens that would starve or have to be put down because they couldn't be taken care of!"

I am a strong supporter of mandated birth control and selective sterilization. I believe people should be required to undergo a psychological examination and intelligence test before being allowed to reproduce. And yes, I can hear it now:

"Ok, Hitler, do they have to be white and blonde too?"

If I was in charge, race, eye and hair color wouldn't even be on the application form. I'm merely suggesting that people should be required to prove that they are mentally competent and finacially able to support children for 18 years straight. And where would the money come from to make all this happen? How about the money we wouldn't be spending on issues related to unwanted/ teenage pregnancies and irresponsible parents?

Just a thought.

 

 
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September 12, 2006, 11:33 pm PDT

hey there everybody!

I am 22 years old and I have been married for almost thress years next april. My husband and I have talked alot about having a baby and the general decision is we should wait alittle longer,but I don't know how much longer I want to wait. My maternal instincts are kicking in BIG time and I know its overwelming for him.We had,had a miscarriage about a week before our first wedding anniversary and I was devastated. I guess now I have a void that for awhile I have been over looking and I can't anymore I want to be a mom. The worst part is alot of the family members that I have grown up with and friends as well are all having babies. It makes that void seem that much bigger and bless my husbands heart he just doesn't understand. My question is "Am I insane or is this normal?"
 
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September 12, 2006, 11:40 pm PDT

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     My fiance and I have been together for 4 almost 5 years.  We have a beautiful 3 year old little girl.  Well i got pregant unexpectingly with her.  But now that we have been trying for 2 years. I just haven't got pregant yet.  It is so hard every month i get my period its horrible. I cry and cry.   I feel like all these younger girls who get pregant and have abortions and have no one there to help them, or mothers who would harm and abuse there children are able to have kids.  But me someone who wants a child more than anything else can not get pregant for the second time.  I am a great mother and I love my daughter more than anything in tha world.  Why can't the lord above let me get pregant again.
You will be blessed when the time is right. I know you probably hahe heard that before,but the less you think about it as making love and Not "TRYING" it can make the process easier.Sometimes the stress of wanting it and it not happening can make it difficult to concieve.I totally Understand about wondering why god has not blessed you ,because My husband and I had a miscarriage right before our first wedding anniversary and still have been unable to have a child. that was about two and a half years ago. I havent been on the pill in 3 years. It will happen just keep you r head up:)
 
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September 14, 2006, 4:16 pm PDT

Getting Pregnant

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I am 22 years old and I have been married for almost thress years next april. My husband and I have talked alot about having a baby and the general decision is we should wait alittle longer,but I don't know how much longer I want to wait. My maternal instincts are kicking in BIG time and I know its overwelming for him.We had,had a miscarriage about a week before our first wedding anniversary and I was devastated. I guess now I have a void that for awhile I have been over looking and I can't anymore I want to be a mom. The worst part is alot of the family members that I have grown up with and friends as well are all having babies. It makes that void seem that much bigger and bless my husbands heart he just doesn't understand. My question is "Am I insane or is this normal?"
Don't be in such an all-fired hurry to have kids. Once they are there, that's it. There's no sending them back because they didn't work out. Enjoy being a married couple. You may find out you're a lot better off without kids.
 

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