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September 14, 2006, 4:19 pm PDT

Getting Pregnant

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I haven't watched t.v. in months, but when I did I would usually see what Dr. Phil had to say, or at least see what book he had written that week. Watching his shows about 15 year-old girls whoring it up and having porn watching parties, fat unattractive women forcing their kids into beauty contests, alcoholic/abusive parents etc, always makes me wonder: Why are these people having kids in the first place, and why are they not being stopped from reproducing? Do we really need MORE of these people? Bringing a human being into this world is a HUGE responsibility; arguably more so than driving a car or carrying a concealed weapon, both of which require a license, and rightfully so. It's dangerous enough on the roads as it is, so how would you feel driving around if people were not required to have a driver's license? Why are people not required to prove they are:

A. Able to finacially support children; and

B. Intelligent/ sane enough to raise their kid(s)?

People have their dogs "fixed," and why?

"Because it's the humane thing to do! If people didn't have their pets spayed/neutered, think of all the poor puppies and kittens that would starve or have to be put down because they couldn't be taken care of!"

I am a strong supporter of mandated birth control and selective sterilization. I believe people should be required to undergo a psychological examination and intelligence test before being allowed to reproduce. And yes, I can hear it now:

"Ok, Hitler, do they have to be white and blonde too?"

If I was in charge, race, eye and hair color wouldn't even be on the application form. I'm merely suggesting that people should be required to prove that they are mentally competent and finacially able to support children for 18 years straight. And where would the money come from to make all this happen? How about the money we wouldn't be spending on issues related to unwanted/ teenage pregnancies and irresponsible parents?

Just a thought.

 

I can definitely see your point. It takes special people to become parents, and maybe they should be screened.
 
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September 23, 2006, 6:48 pm PDT

It's ok!!

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Don't be in such an all-fired hurry to have kids. Once they are there, that's it. There's no sending them back because they didn't work out. Enjoy being a married couple. You may find out you're a lot better off without kids.

It's ok to have that maternal instinct. Every female has that same feeling at some point in their lives. Just calm down, sit back, and enjoy your relationship with your husband. I personally think he wants to spend some more quality time with you without you saying, "I want a baby!", every second. It's ok to think about it. I do have another peice of advice for you and your husband. Get together and see if the two of you have 2 days off of work at the same time. Since your family members and friends are having babies, see if you and your husband can babysit their baby for 2 days and 1 night just to get the feel of being a mommy and daddy. You will see how hard it is to take care of a child. 2 of my friends have a child. They tell me that it's the hardest thing they have ever done in their life. They make it easy, but getting up at all hours of the night is the hard part. Also, make sure that you and your husband are finacally stable BEFORE having your first baby. Yall will be a happier couple if yall aren't arguing over money that you didn't have to pay for medical bills. just try it. I think it might help!!!
 
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October 2, 2006, 10:04 am PDT

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Don't be in such an all-fired hurry to have kids. Once they are there, that's it. There's no sending them back because they didn't work out. Enjoy being a married couple. You may find out you're a lot better off without kids.
I am 20 years old and I also had a miscarriage  3 days before the one year anyverssary with my husband.I also now have a uge void in my heart because we don't have a baby yet. Its normal the way you are feelling I feel the same way.Sincerely Christelle c.m.l.b123@hotmail.com
 
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October 2, 2006, 9:27 pm PDT

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You will be blessed when the time is right. I know you probably hahe heard that before,but the less you think about it as making love and Not "TRYING" it can make the process easier.Sometimes the stress of wanting it and it not happening can make it difficult to concieve.I totally Understand about wondering why god has not blessed you ,because My husband and I had a miscarriage right before our first wedding anniversary and still have been unable to have a child. that was about two and a half years ago. I havent been on the pill in 3 years. It will happen just keep you r head up:)
maybe because you are not married, the Lord has seen fit to let you know that it is not right to have children and play house without being husband and wife.
 
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October 2, 2006, 9:34 pm PDT

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 Hello everyone! This is my first post on here so I'm a bit nervous but I need some advice. It's nothing major or anything but I'm sure I'll have a lot of replies. My husband and I got married when we were 18 years old but we have been having unprotected sex  for  almost four years now and I still haven't gotten pregnant. How come I haven't gotten pregnant yet? Could there be something wrong with one of us or even both of us or is it just a matter of when we are making love? Are their certain positions and specific days we should make love in order to conceive? I'm feeling lost and confused. Please give good advice and thank you to those who do!
MY suggestion would be to have a complete physical, to determine what the problem is. Pehaps, there is a medical reason for non-preganacy. To low sperm count, inadequate female organs or non functioning organs, so many reasons that they all need to be checked. Do not be surprised if your husband feels the problem is yours, and possibly refuses  to be checked. But, do try to encourage him to co-operate. It will be in the best interest of both of you. There are ways to fix most of the problems that arise, so just check them all out.
 
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October 9, 2006, 10:03 am PDT

Trying to Get Pregnant for years please help?

Hi me and my husband of 6 years have been trying to get pregnant for almost 6 years. I was pregnant in 04 but because of medical problems we lost it. Then in 05 i had major surgery and my doctor said that my right ovary and tube were blocked by major scar tissue damage. He said he thinks that from when i was 11 i had my appendix burst on me and he thinks the damage is from that. Me and my husband want kids so bad and we try almost all the time. Is there anything we should different? Please help. Thanks
 
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October 11, 2006, 10:23 pm PDT

TRYING TOO HARD, MAYBE?...

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Hi me and my husband of 6 years have been trying to get pregnant for almost 6 years. I was pregnant in 04 but because of medical problems we lost it. Then in 05 i had major surgery and my doctor said that my right ovary and tube were blocked by major scar tissue damage. He said he thinks that from when i was 11 i had my appendix burst on me and he thinks the damage is from that. Me and my husband want kids so bad and we try almost all the time. Is there anything we should different? Please help. Thanks

Sometimes when you really want to have a baby, you and your hubby will try and try and try, I know this myself, because we have been there, done that!!

 

My hubby had been told that it was highly unlikely that he would ever be able to father any children of his own, due to the fact that he had a Zero Sperm Count.

 

Well when the time came that we wanted to try for a baby, we did what alot of other couples do and that was to more or less go for it like rabbits, so to speak, LOL!!

 

After many years of "Trying" we stopped all together and just went back to enjoying our lovemaking and thats when it happened, we got pregnant!

 

So maybe for some couples that have been "Trying" it might be time to stop and just go back to enjoying each other and see what happens from there.

 

I do truly wish each and everyone here the best and please Take Care!!
 
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October 18, 2006, 3:07 pm PDT

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Well, I'm glad there is two of us, Im 19 years old and in exactly the same boat, I would love to have a baby.. but my partner wants to wait quite some time...every baby i see I get so jealous and just want to have one... any advice for us... anyone

Hi,

I also agree to wait a while - 19 is very young yet and you'll both have so much time ahead of you to have a baby. After having a baby, life is not the same - it will never be the same. There are lots of ups and downs in parenthood and it is not easy - the day to day things, the finances (kids are very expensive!).. and even relationship with your boyfriend/husband. I've always wanted to be a mommy and now that I am, I couldn't imagine having one at 19 or even 23! I've changed so much since then - I am now 28. I had my first child at 25 after getting married (unplanned) and just had my second child 4 months ago. Before having my first - I would have loved to travel or do things with my husband that we now have to wait.

You have the rest of your life to be a parent. Enjoy being young! There are lots of things that are more difficult to do once you have a baby...

 
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October 18, 2006, 3:12 pm PDT

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Well, I'm glad there is two of us, Im 19 years old and in exactly the same boat, I would love to have a baby.. but my partner wants to wait quite some time...every baby i see I get so jealous and just want to have one... any advice for us... anyone

Hi,

I also agree to wait a while - 19 is very young yet and you'll both have so much time ahead of you to have a baby. After having a baby, life is not the same - it will never be the same. There are lots of ups and downs in parenthood and it is not easy - the day to day things, the finances (kids are very expensive!).. and even relationship with your boyfriend/husband. I've always wanted to be a mommy and now that I am, I couldn't imagine having one at 19 or even 23! I've changed so much since then - I am now 28. I had my first child at 25 after getting married (unplanned) and just had my second child 4 months ago. Before having my first - I would have loved to travel or do things with my husband that we now have to wait.

You have the rest of your life to be a parent. Enjoy being young! There are lots of things that are more difficult to do once you have a baby... hope this helped some. If things were differents, I would have loved to have waited even a little longer before starting a family... anyways, take care : )
 
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October 19, 2006, 9:21 am PDT

what do i do?

hi there,

i may be pregnant with my best friends kid. i don't know what to do. i did a test but it came back negative but i still think i am pregnant. my husband thinks that if i am pregnant that i am having a boy. i am scared. i have no family to really turn to.  my husband is the only family that i have right now. besides my best friend. and i am having symptoms of a pregnancy but i don't know what to do. i haven't had my thing yet this month. but if i am pregnant i don't know what to do.

please help.
 
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