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March 23, 2007, 1:22 pm PDT
It's What You Need
Quote From: arghile269Basically I want other people that do not know me opinion on being a single parent from the start. Chosing to be a single parent. I will give you some background. I am 29, work as a LPN and am going to college to complete my bachelors in Nursing and get my RN, in the process of trying to find a house back home (currently in the military), and have posed this this very same scenerio to several people who have known me since I was 4 or my whole life. Basically what I want to do is go to a doctor and by way of sperm donation have two children if I am not in a serious relationship or do not have a child at that time. No it was not a typo I want to have twins and then possibly have sterilization surgery. Being a mother is a very important thing to me and I realize that I could adopt children and give them a better home but there is something about going through the whole process of carrying the child and delivering and just everything that I want to experience. I have this feeling that if I do not do this I will be missing something in life. If I cannot get pregnant by the time that I am 36 then I will try to adopt a child. I want more than one child because I want them to have someone that is there when I am gone, I want them to have each other from the beginning. All the people so far who I have asked what they thought about this have basically agreed with me that I would be able to do it and the only concern is that there will be no father in the picture which is my other dilema because I'm not very happy about knowing nothing about the person who shares genetics with my children and when they ask me who their father is I will not know what to say. Other than I wanted them so bad that I paid for the artificial insemination. If you have any thoughts please send them my way.
Thank You I think basically it's what you need in life. I don't think there are to many people out there who think it's normal for a young woman to get that type of thing done, you know what I mean?? But I think if you really want something you should go for it. My story is long and sorted, but I have 4 kids, and one on the way, my husband has 2 from previous relationships, I have 2 from previous relationships and we have one together. In a way I feel lucky the fathers of my kids just disappeared, of course most young men do heck even older men do. My husband battles everyday with his ex's and I thank god that I don't have that worry at anytime. My little boy has taken to him as dad we met when he was 2yrs old and he has always been daddy, my 10yr old doesn't seem as interested yet, but I know she loves him, she just has a hard time getting close to men. As far as knowing what to say to your kids through this, I wouldn't worry about it to much right now, plus from experience I have 2 kids of my own, and through the time I have raised them they have not asked once before I met my husband ask who their dad was. I think if it's not there then they don't ask. The challenge will be holding a job and having 2 kids, but I know it can be done, just be careful who you trust, and if you have family that will help it's even better. If this is something you truly believe in and want to do then I think you should, there are more people than you think who do this everyday. Either way I wish you luck and keep us all posted.
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