Topic : Getting Pregnant

I'm worried first of all that your 17 and think your pregnant...If your living with your boyfriend i'm assuming it's a serious relationship...You could find a planned parenthood even if it's not in your town and go there...For a pregnancy test usually it's a walk in type thing...I'm sure if you called your primary care doctor and told them it was urgent that you come in they could squeeze you in.  Your not trying hard enough to get to the bottom of this, because even if your symptoms sounds like pregnancy if they are not there is still reason to be so tired that you have to miss school and work.  You need to get answers right away!!

My and my boyfriend have been together for a while now. I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is 20 years old. Having children is the most important thing in the world to me. We have been trying for 7 months now. And im still not pregnant? im terified, i have regular periods and everything but im not pregnant. Is that bad? shud i worry

please someone reply and give me so help im scared

I am a 26-year old female who has been with her boyfriend for nearly 3 years.We met through work and he is 11 years older than me. Although I love him very much I don't know whether he is the 'one'. We don't have a connection or 'spark' that people say they get when they meet the right person. I love him in the way that he protects, cares and looks after me in almost a 'fatherly' way but I don't think we have similar interests and desires for the future. He wants to settle down and have children, and I do want these things one day, but I am unsure as to whether they should be with him or not, and whether they should be now or in a few years' time when I feel like I am ready.

I am find myself getting very broody though and don't know whether I should be thinking about having children now or just going out and enjoying myself. I know that I've got years ahead of me to plan for a family but for some reason, I've been getting these overwhelming urges to have a child now, even though I've just moved into my new flat that I've bought and should be concentrating on having fun.

I have thought long and hard about all the implications involved and know that having a child involves a lot of hard work, financial and emotional commitment and responsibility. However, I'm a bit scared that if I wait ten years and find I am regretting now having it earlier, then I will be kicking myself.

I suppose because of these doubts, there must be an answer which says 'Wait until I'm older and more stable/secure' but I'm kind of thinking, "maybe I shouldn't be fighting these urges?' I know there's a hell of a difference between having a baby and wanting one, but I just feel that my life is getting to the stage where I'd like to settle down a bit more. I'm so confused - help!

I'm a married 32 yr.old woman whom with my husband have spent the last two and a half years trying to get pregnant.  We have one child, a daughter who is 11 1/2 yrs. old now.  When we got pregnant back then, it was an oops!  Because of plans to complete college, I started using Depo-Provera shot as my preventive method. I just went off the shot two and a half years ago.  My husband and I are still young, and lead a healthy, active life.  You can imagine our surprise when nothing happened!! We have gone from one doctor to the next and there is nothing physically wrong with the two of us.  We finally decided to go with In-vitro.  I have just completed the first attempt and took my pregnancy test yesterday as scheduled. To my great disappointment, it was negative.  But the good news is, I still have not gotten my period and there is still a chance that I am pregnant. Now I have to wait till saturday to take a new test!!

Crossing my fingers!!! 

 

But out of pure curiosity, are there other people out there who have used depo-provera over a substantially long period of time and found they have difficulties in getting pregnant once off it?

I have to say that I see myself as a liberal person when it comes to life in general, but planing a family when you are only 17 yrs. old worries me! You are only a child and have a lot to learn and experience before becoming a parent. Live life first, then plan to have a family!!

 

But to address your question: There may be nothing wrong with you, aside from the fact that you may be psychologically  worrying or stressing yourself out by trying to get pregnant; which could have the complete opposite effect.  If you want to rule out physical problems, make an appointment with your doctor.

 

In my experience, things happen for a reason and sometimes it takes time for us to understand what that reason is.

 

I honestly think that if you are unsure you are suppose to be with that person then that means you are not.

Some people believe in love at first sight or soulmates but others do not. I myself believe in the soulmate thing. I just knew that I was suppose to be with him forever.

 

Just think about what would happen if you did have a baby and you and your boyfriend ended up splitting up. How would it affect your life and your child's life. Kids tend to feel more secure when they have a stable family.

 

My answer to you is listen to your heart.

 Having children is a big step. You say that you get overwhelming urges to have a child now, but if you can’t say with 100% certainty that you and your mate are meant to be together forever, then you have to put that urge aside. Distract yourself with other things, such as a night class or a new  hobby. Or, get a dog/puppy or other pet to care for, practice your maternal skills on the pet.
Don’t think of it as “fighting the urge” to have a baby. You have to think of it as doing what is right. Doing what is reasonable and responsible.  I’m sure that one day you will make a wonderful mother; but your child deserves to have a happy, healthy intact family. It is your responsibility to create that before having a child.

We are blessed to have 3 wonderful children (ages 2, 11, and 17) and couldn't imagine life without any one of them.  I've just recently found out I was pregnant with #4 even though my husband had a vasectomy about 6 months ago.  Getting the vasectomy was not an easy decision in the first place and wasn't made lightly.  We decided to have the vasectomy done because we felt it was the right decision at the time for our entire family.  I was completely prepared for the consequences of a vasectomy gone right but not at all prepared for the consequences of a vasectomy gone wrong (my husband now has a low sperm count even though the two post vasectomy tests showed no live sperm).  It just seems like we did everything "right" and yet things have turned out very wrong.  The very first emotion was of course shock and disbelief but that quickly turned to anger.  I just feel like someone or something has ripped the rug of life right out from under me.  I know pregnancy is usually a time for joy but that is one feeling I haven't yet had.  My biggest fear at this point is that I will somehow feel different towards this child - since technically this is an "unwanted" pregnancy.  I keep telling myself that "this baby must be meant to be" and that "things will get better with time" but it just seems like I can't actually get to that point of believing what I'm telling myself.  I'm still very angry even though I have nowhere or nobody to place that anger towards.  Any words/advice from anyone who has been in this situation would be greatly appreciated.

I saw the 12/6 show on getting pregnant, and it really took me back 17-18 years. I got married when I was in my 30s, and didn't start trying to get pregant until I was 37. I never dreamed that this might be a problem for me. I had a miscarriage, and a tubal pregnancy, andthen couldn't conceive. My ob/gyn had me on a small prescription of Clomid, and after a year of no results, (even though I was monitoring my ovulation) I requested a referral to a fertility expert. My ob/gyn said that since I had gotten pregnat twice in a year, given my age, that I was not a candidate for fertility treatment. She did give me the referral, and it was amazing! I had felt that to go see a fertility specialist was a public acknowledgement of my infertility (like not getting pregnant wasn't!) Anyway, it turned out that I was ovulating immature eggs. They would never get fertilized on their own. The fertility doctor changed the Clomid I was geting so that I took something like 5 a day for a week. What that did was make my cycle longer, by about 5 days, which was enough longer that my eggs were big enough to be fertilized. It was truly amazing. I'm sharing this because I think there are a lot of people who have issues similar to mine. I now have 3 kids, oldest is 16, youngest is 12, and I coulod really relate to those people who were having trouble getting the ball rolling. I think it is important to call in the pros. I was initially unwilling, and I don't think it would happened. Once I had one, the others were conceived on their own.