Topic : Getting Pregnant

If I can give you any advice at all it would be to wait.  Have you ever heard people say how much they changed from the time they were 20-25?  It is really so true.  I never really thought I would, I thought that my views on life, marriage, family, education,etc. would always stay the same.  Boy was I wrong!  I am a totally different person than I was five years ago (I'm 25 now) and I'm still changing. 

When I was 18 also wanted to get pregnant.  I just got this "itch" and couldn't shake it.  I can't really explain it but eventually it did go away.  I decided to go to school (more than one time and am still not sure what I want to do).  I've changed jobs.  Broke up with the guy that I wanted to have a baby with.  My life now is completely different than it was then.There are so many things to consider.   

My sister who is younger than I am is now pregnant.  She is not married but lives with her boyfriend.  Things are really hard for her.  She is so sick all the time(morning sikness but it is all day and night) and got fired from her job because she was to sick to go.  She can't eat or drink anything without throwing up and because of dehydrating is to dizzy to drive to her dr. appts. so my family has to take turnes driving her.  Her boyfriend who was always "so great" is now not so great.  She didn't have proper insurance so is now state assisted.  She just doesn't know what to do.  It is so hard to talk to her because I can feel the pain and desperation she is going through.  Since Dr. bills are not all covered our parents are now picking up the tab.  She also is not going to be able to afford child care when the baby is born.  Depending on where you live full time care of an infant can cost up to 1,000 a month, not to mention food, diapers and clothes. 

Do you have people you can talk to?  Someone you can really trust that has some "real" life experience under their belt.  I wish you both the best and hope this helped. 

I have read what the concerns here are and let me give you a little insite if I may.  I'm 37 years old, I've had two children of my own, my eldest is now 18, and I have three wonderful step daughters through my new marriage.  My husband and I are now trying to have a baby together and let me tell you it's been a real challenge!  I was always very fertile about 10 years ago and having a baby was not an issue what so ever, now it's something that requires work, timing, ovulation tester kits etc...tends to take a bit of the romance and excitement out of it!   I was 20 when my first child was born and at the time everyone I knew around me was having a baby too and I always knew from an early age that I wanted lots of children, so I found myself pregnant at 19, fresh out of high school and on finishing a votech course I was taking.  I can say with all honesty, while I love my daughter dearly and would never give up the experiences I had in having her, I know now that I would have enjoyed her so much more had I waited until I was a little older.  I know many people say this to younger women who talk about wanting to have a baby like your a child yourself and not ready for this. 

  I know that some women are ready for it earlier than others, or at least they believe they are, I know because I was one of those women.  However, I know now that had I been a little older and lived life a little more prior to getting pregnant at that age I would have had more patience, I would have taken the time to slow down and enjoy watching those things that you can only see through the eye of a baby...the discovery of their world and what lies beyond the tips of their fingers, the first steps and crawling and the pride that comes with that on their part.  And I certainly would have been able to handle the up all night, the teething with a high fever and changing out the bedding in the crib for the 4th time by 3am!  They are wonderful little beings and they can bring so much joy and happiness into your life, but we tend to forget that they require an enormous amount of work and commitment that at that age we are not totally ready for.  

 Personally....I would not wait until my age as it then becomes more of an issue with health and genetic testing, etc. but I would hold out at least too 25, if you want that baby this badly right now, you will still want it then and you will be that much more prepared for the 18 years that lie ahead.  

No I defintly understand where you are coming from ..  do you have a hotmail address and msn?? where could have a talk together online. 

I would love advice from anyone who can offer it.  I am a 22 year old single person, who is in the process of becoming pregnant.  I have always known that my true calling was to be a mother, and now that I am out of college and have a thriving business, I believe I am to the point in my life where I can offer a child all that he/she needs.  I am single, and I know that many people don't agree with having a baby without a father figure.  I would love to get married and have the perfect dad for my kids, but I am not going to sit around and wait on that.  I want to be a mother so bad I can't even stand it.  I know I will be a wonderful mother, and I won't be the sterotypical struggling single mom.  I can handle this, but many of my friends have their doubts and are worried about me.  I don't want to just go out and get pregnant by some random guy and risk STDs and not knowing his family's medical background.  I have decided to use a sperm bank.  This way I know it's safe for myself and the baby, and I know all of the father's background information incase I ever need access to it for my child's care.  The proccedure is this Friday, and I am confident that it's a good choice.  I pray I get pregnant the first time, but I know that sometimes it takes several times.  It's expensive, so of course it will be best for me if it's not a long hard process in the beginning.  I am just alone in this.  My family has no idea what I am doing because I know they would try to talk me out of it, and my friends think this is a bad decision.  There is not a doubt in my mind, so why do my friends keep trying to talk me out of it, even though I have told them time and again that they can't stop me from doing this.  I am an adult.  I may be kind of young to join the single moms club by choice, but this is what I truly want.  I just want other peoples' opinions on my situation, because I want to know how people will think about my decision.  Do I tell people the truth, or do I pretend I just got knocked up?  I almost think that would be more acceptable.  It's sad, but true.  I just want this baby to know that I wanted him or her so much that I went to extremes to have them.  I don't want my child to ever question that they were brought into this world loved and wated.  That is why I feel the truth is best, but I am afraid of the reaction I will get when my family finds out I actually signed up and paid to become a single mom.  Any advice or opinion you have would be greatly appriciated.  Thank you!  :)   

I understand what you are saying about not enjoying your last pregnancy, but just remember that no pregnancies are ever the same.  

So if you were to get pregnant, this time you might just about sail through it, so to speak!! 

Anyway TAKE CARE, LOVE KELLY. 

About the typo, I meant to say Peek a Boo not Poo!! 

KELLY.