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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:52:55 pm
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Are you trying to conceive? Share your trials and successes with us.

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November 11, 2005, 8:52 pm CST

me too

Quote From: gurlygirl

hi there! 

 i was also diagnose with PCOS i was put on metformin which is a very common drug mostly used with people with diabetes, but it is suppose to help with getting regular periods i have been on this for 5 months and still not working well. i have been trying to concieve for about 3 years. trying to lose weight,and be more healthy hoping that will make a difference, but my specialist is really goood! i am so frustrated! 

Are you very overweight?  I'm about 40 pounds overweight!!!  I, too, have been trying to lose.  I at least haven't gained!!!  They are going to start me on Femara this cycle.  It's actually used for women that have breast cancer, but they found it's been very successful for PCOS!!!  I hope this does the trick.  I've also heard of women being on Glucophage, which is primarily used for diabetes also!  Is the metformin supposed to make you ovulate too?  I've heard that you can have regular periods and not ovulate.  It's amazing that anyone gets pregnant!!!  It's really frustrating too see people who get pregnant without even trying.  I have a couple of friends and a cousin who all got pregnant--they're single and freaking!!!  There's just no rhyme or reason!!!  I just keep thinking that God knows what's he's doing!!! 

 
November 13, 2005, 6:31 pm CST

Pregnancy after Depo Provera

Quote From: ilovepat

I am 21 years old and just celebrated my 3rd year with my husband. For the past year and a half we have been trying to conceive our first baby. I was on the depo shot for 4 years prior to this I have no idea what is wrong with me or what to do about it i ask my dr. and she doesn't know what to do either ! I have run into a brick wall! Anybody have any suggestions?
I had my first child at 24 years old and almost immediately went onto Depo shots. After quite a few side effects, I stopped using this form of contraception. It took me a good 18-24 months for my body to completely recover and return to normal. Keep you head up and stay positive. Keep a diary of everything occuring to you so that if you need to consult a gynacologist you will have everything written down for an immediate assessment and hopefully wont have to wait any longer before further tests. There is life after depo. At 33 I now have 2 children and am now working towards a third and possibly more. If you are not happy with your doctor, GET A SECOND OR THIRD OPINION!
 
November 13, 2005, 6:47 pm CST

Getting Pregnant - AGAIN

Quote From: jodiels

I know exactly how you feel.  I got pregnant with my first child while I was on the pill and before we were ready.  Once we got married we simply assumed that we would get pregnant again no problem.  We've been trying for 18 months with no luck.  I cry every time I take a pregnancy test and it comes back negative.  I can't help thinking that I'm not getting pregnant because God doesn't think that I deserve another child.  It's very upsetting to me because I want another child so much.
I read this and now understand there are many of us in the same boat! After starting a new relationship and discussing family with my new partner, he told me that due to medical reasons it was highly unlikely that we could have children. Exactly 13 months after our relationship began, we are now proud parents of a beautiful little girl. Grace is the best thing that has happened to us (particularly after my partner having to deal with the loss of his mother!) and we want to give her a brother or sister straight away. When the tell tale signs of my period begin I just want to find a corner and cry. Like you I feel like this is punishment for it being so easy the last time. I want so much to give my partner the little boy (and brother for Grace) that he longs for.
 
November 13, 2005, 6:58 pm CST

Hopefully it will happen!!

Back November 2002 my boyfriend then (husband now) and I found out we were pregnant. We wern't ready but we were happy. Then 3 days later we find out that the baby was in my tube and they had to end the pregnancy.We got married In Dec,03 and we tried from Jan. 03 to July 04 to get pregnant and then my Doctor broke the news that it wasn't going to happen. I was crushed. The money put in to the pills and all the test just to hear that. Well we picked up the peices and bought a house Sep. 04. Was very happy and couldn't of felt any better. We had made jokes about what if we got pregnant now that we had this big house pymt. It happen!! Oct. 27 we found out that the Doctor ( my dr of 11 yrs) was wrong then I was taken to the hospital 3 days later with another ectopic pregnancy. I was very hurt but we knew at that point we could still get pregnant. For every ectopic pregnancy a woman has her chances of having a normal pregnancy drops. the holidays past and we were back to normal and Feb. 10 05 I found out I was pregnant again. We made our ob appt. and acted as if it wasn't true and waited till the appt. It was weird because the days pasted and I was still pregnant. We went to the doctor and had our first ultrasound and he didn't see the baby yet but said it could still be to early. So we went to the Dr every 2 days for an ultrasound till the baby was found. On Mar. 04,05 the checked again and still no baby but the tech wanted to measure my ovaries just to see if all was ok and thats when we found a heartbeat. It was located in my left tube once again. I took the other ones hard but had never seen the heartbeat and this time has been diffrent. Time has went by and it still hurts like yesterday but I still have HOPE. At this point I have A 40% chance and we have been carfull not to get pregnant as quick as 2 and 3 happen. But I have my faith in God that if it is to happen it will. If not then I will have to figure it out when it comes but to everyone reading this don't loose hope or faith and belive that if its your time you'll be blessed.
 
November 19, 2005, 8:24 am CST

Getting Pregnant

Hello all.  

I'm new here but I just want to share what I've experienced in hopes that it might help you. 

  

Although dr's might tell you that it's surprising that you can't conceive after being on birth control for many years, IT'S NOT! They know that artificially controlling a cycle for so long does not allow a person to "bounce back" and have their body resume normal cycles soon after they decide to get pregnant. That's common sense. Why should you expect your body, (after 3-11 years of "messing with") to all of a sudden work normally? It doesn't know how; it's been tricked into ovulating a certain way for so long. Therefore, it is not normal for a person off of contraceptives to get pregnant before 4 months where their body has had some time to "regroup," and that's why they TELL you that in the pill's packaging. However, many women ignore that (along with the other possible side effects) and think "it won't happen to them" but in the end, it often does delay conception.  

  

I'm not telling you this to make you feel bad, just so that those who have been trying for less than a year (over a year, you probably should seek fertility treatment) can understand why their body is acting this way. It's supposed to! Getting pregnant is not a "snap" thing that we can control whenever we want to. I know that. We tried for some time, (even though I have never been on the pill) thinking that if we could do things a certain way, we would get our desired result: a baby.  But, babies never have and never will be made on demand. We can't do anything, (besides have sex and hope for the best) to "spark" life anymore than we can to "prolong" it. It's above us. It's all in God's hands. The sooner that people realize that (and it took us a while) then the sooner that they will appreciate children as a blessing and not just a chemical reaction between sperm and egg that one "achieves" after they have the perfect house, the perfect car, etc.  

  

Btw, I am pregnant now, which happened when we stopped trying and left it in God's hands.  

 
November 20, 2005, 5:54 pm CST

what really helps?

My husband and I have been trying for 6 years and I've had several miscarriages. Now I'm struggling to conceive again, and I'm wondering what really helps when TTC.  

Is it better for him to be on top? 

Does hip elevation help afterwards? 

Any helpful tips anyone can offer? 

Thank you, 

Kim 

 
December 2, 2005, 3:19 am CST

If a husband doesn't want to have children?

 Hi everybody! I couldn't find the right place for me on the message board to post my topis, so I decided to do it here. The problem is: my husband doesn't want to have a child. His reasons: "I just don't want a child", "I don't want to lose my freedom", "I don't need such a heavy responsibility in my life", "Now I'm not ready for a child. And if I will ever be - no idea. Perhaps, not."  He is 30 y.o., I'll be 25 soon. Maybe you will say that I'm still young... but I always dreamed to have a child earlier (22-23). We have been married for 3 years now. When we got married my husband was never against having a baby, but he always found reasons to postpone the issue. But lately he just says: "No. I don't want. Fullstop." It's a very serious matter for me to compromise cause I always wanted to be a mother. We are discussing our divorce currently... but there is still a tiny hope present. Is it possible or is it worth to save our marriage?
 
December 2, 2005, 9:54 am CST

having a baby

Quote From: anechka81

 Hi everybody! I couldn't find the right place for me on the message board to post my topis, so I decided to do it here. The problem is: my husband doesn't want to have a child. His reasons: "I just don't want a child", "I don't want to lose my freedom", "I don't need such a heavy responsibility in my life", "Now I'm not ready for a child. And if I will ever be - no idea. Perhaps, not."  He is 30 y.o., I'll be 25 soon. Maybe you will say that I'm still young... but I always dreamed to have a child earlier (22-23). We have been married for 3 years now. When we got married my husband was never against having a baby, but he always found reasons to postpone the issue. But lately he just says: "No. I don't want. Fullstop." It's a very serious matter for me to compromise cause I always wanted to be a mother. We are discussing our divorce currently... but there is still a tiny hope present. Is it possible or is it worth to save our marriage?
 Hello.  I am not going to give you advice, only respond with an example of what happened with my sister, and it may or may not shed some light on some things.

My sister was with a man for about eight years, and in that time she wanted to get married, eight years together you would think he would too. But he kept changing the subject on her and this and that.  When I had my first child at 17, being my older sister (and also being with me in the delivery room) I think she realized she wanted a baby too.  She is nine years older than me.  Her boyfriend at the time didn't want a baby or get married....then all of a sudden they were gonna get married and she had a ring and everything....he still didnt want a baby...and eventually the wedding was called off and they broke up...  Now she is married (to someone else) and they have a son who will be 1 in Jan 2006.

The point of my story is that you have to follow your heart and your instincts.  I'm not telling you to get a divorce and find a guy that wants a family right off the bat.  But you need a mate who wants the same things as you do, and you need to know before you get too serious like marriage.  Its better to be apart from him (if he never wants kids) than carry that resentment your entire life with him.  You have to ask him seriously, make him aware just how deeply you feel about this subject.  Dont' get pregnant and expect him to change, he'll only resent you for making him feel like you're trapping him.  Being a mother is the most important role you may ever have, and I know what it feels like to say " why not me?" But what is most important to you? are there other issues besides this that are leading to your divorce?  A baby won't make the problems go away, but I do understand your need to be a mother.  You just have to make up your mind to what you really want in life, its all about choices, don't stay with him if you're only going to resent him and think about him not letting you be a mother every single day.  It will only make things worse.  Know what you want and don't be afraid to make a choice....hope that helps.
 
December 2, 2005, 6:39 pm CST

Getting Pregnant

Quote From: jessh06

Hello all.  

I'm new here but I just want to share what I've experienced in hopes that it might help you. 

  

Although dr's might tell you that it's surprising that you can't conceive after being on birth control for many years, IT'S NOT! They know that artificially controlling a cycle for so long does not allow a person to "bounce back" and have their body resume normal cycles soon after they decide to get pregnant. That's common sense. Why should you expect your body, (after 3-11 years of "messing with") to all of a sudden work normally? It doesn't know how; it's been tricked into ovulating a certain way for so long. Therefore, it is not normal for a person off of contraceptives to get pregnant before 4 months where their body has had some time to "regroup," and that's why they TELL you that in the pill's packaging. However, many women ignore that (along with the other possible side effects) and think "it won't happen to them" but in the end, it often does delay conception.  

  

I'm not telling you this to make you feel bad, just so that those who have been trying for less than a year (over a year, you probably should seek fertility treatment) can understand why their body is acting this way. It's supposed to! Getting pregnant is not a "snap" thing that we can control whenever we want to. I know that. We tried for some time, (even though I have never been on the pill) thinking that if we could do things a certain way, we would get our desired result: a baby.  But, babies never have and never will be made on demand. We can't do anything, (besides have sex and hope for the best) to "spark" life anymore than we can to "prolong" it. It's above us. It's all in God's hands. The sooner that people realize that (and it took us a while) then the sooner that they will appreciate children as a blessing and not just a chemical reaction between sperm and egg that one "achieves" after they have the perfect house, the perfect car, etc.  

  

Btw, I am pregnant now, which happened when we stopped trying and left it in God's hands.  

 Thank you for your post. I was on the pill for 10 years before stopping it in April '05. We are still not pregnant. We've been married for 4 years & thought we had it all planned out. Now, almost 8 months later, I do realize what a blessing a child is & that it's not just something you pick & choose. It's difficult at times but I have put it in God's hands &  I believe that he is taking care of us. I especially had a hard time in the beginning. I will say that when we first went off the pill, I cared what months I would be pregnant, what we would have, when we would have it, etc. Now, like I said before, none of it is for me/us to decide & none of that matters to me now. A baby is a TRUE gift from God.

Anyway, I really appreciate your post.
 
December 12, 2005, 9:44 pm CST

Angry

Here it goes. I hope someone can help me. I just found out that my wife is pregnant with our third child, problem is I never wanted another one. Those reasons have nothing to do with this post. My issue is that I am 99.9% sure that I was tricked into this. I am plannng on getting a vasectomy soon and had told my wife that. She always wanted another but I was always against it. Now I find out that she is pregnant and I am very angry with her over this possible deception. My anger is consumimg me. I want to tell her but am worried about the health of her and the child, but I am afraid that this has caused irreperable damage already. Anyone out there in a similiar spot or know of others. Help!!! 
 
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