Quote From: lrae2006I would love advice from anyone who can offer it. I am a 22 year old single person, who is in the process of becoming pregnant. I have always known that my true calling was to be a mother, and now that I am out of college and have a thriving business, I believe I am to the point in my life where I can offer a child all that he/she needs. I am single, and I know that many people don't agree with having a baby without a father figure. I would love to get married and have the perfect dad for my kids, but I am not going to sit around and wait on that. I want to be a mother so bad I can't even stand it. I know I will be a wonderful mother, and I won't be the sterotypical struggling single mom. I can handle this, but many of my friends have their doubts and are worried about me. I don't want to just go out and get pregnant by some random guy and risk STDs and not knowing his family's medical background. I have decided to use a sperm bank. This way I know it's safe for myself and the baby, and I know all of the father's background information incase I ever need access to it for my child's care. The proccedure is this Friday, and I am confident that it's a good choice. I pray I get pregnant the first time, but I know that sometimes it takes several times. It's expensive, so of course it will be best for me if it's not a long hard process in the beginning. I am just alone in this. My family has no idea what I am doing because I know they would try to talk me out of it, and my friends think this is a bad decision. There is not a doubt in my mind, so why do my friends keep trying to talk me out of it, even though I have told them time and again that they can't stop me from doing this. I am an adult. I may be kind of young to join the single moms club by choice, but this is what I truly want. I just want other peoples' opinions on my situation, because I want to know how people will think about my decision. Do I tell people the truth, or do I pretend I just got knocked up? I almost think that would be more acceptable. It's sad, but true. I just want this baby to know that I wanted him or her so much that I went to extremes to have them. I don't want my child to ever question that they were brought into this world loved and wated. That is why I feel the truth is best, but I am afraid of the reaction I will get when my family finds out I actually signed up and paid to become a single mom. Any advice or opinion you have would be greatly appriciated. Thank you! :)
I will not tell you that you are doing the wrong thing, as so many people have said that to you. All I will say to you is, if you have truly thought long and hard about this and this is what you feel you need then go for it.
Once you have your baby your life will never be the same, meaning that once your baby has come into the world that child will be depended on you for most of his/her life. And as long as you know what you have a head of you, as a single Mum well then, what have you got to lose.
Oh and please tell your family of your wishes, you just never know they just might support you, but if you don't tell them what you are doing, then it could backfire on you.
Good Luck and TAKE CARE, LOVE KELLY.
